Allowing kids to disrespect furniture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with you. My five are grown now. We never allowed them to climb on furniture. Children need to be taught how to behave. In our home, we do not climb on the furniture. We climb outdoors on the play structure. We climb trees. We climb money bars. We jump on trampolines and in the pool. We do not jump on or climb on furniture. Part of our responsibility as parents is to teach good behavior.

Time for your nap and meds grandma...

I’m 52. I think I’m ok. But thanks.

Yes, and? Grandma. No one stuttered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get back to us when you have kids.

She's 36. I don't think there's much danger of that.

[Anonymous]

“Disrespect” the furniture? You mean damage something a grown-up has paid for and may need to replace?

Unless my kids are damaging my Louis XIV salon set with original tapestry upholstery, no, I don’t mind, within reason, since I don’t want them to injure themselves.

Of course they know not to do this in other people’s homes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is white people stuff isn’t it? Asians y’all doing this?

NP. I'm white and I find it appalling. The same people are the ones who give their wild animals to the teacher and say, "Here, they're your problem now." It's outrageous.

[Anonymous]

Disrespect is such an odd word to use in this situation.

I also find parents that talk about “respect” demand it but never earn it.

[Anonymous]

My kids also play lacrosse and soccer in the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with you. My five are grown now. We never allowed them to climb on furniture. Children need to be taught how to behave. In our home, we do not climb on the furniture. We climb outdoors on the play structure. We climb trees. We climb money bars. We jump on trampolines and in the pool. We do not jump on or climb on furniture. Part of our responsibility as parents is to teach good behavior.

This is hilarious - rich people who have access to trampolines, pools, and backyards lecturing others. Almost as funny as when people who only have quiet, calm girls or sedate boys or don't even have kids lecture parents with active kids.

When my kids were 3 and 5 we lived in an upstairs duplex without access to a backyard, pool, or trampoline. My boys jumped all over the couch. They are now teenagers and are well-behaved.

[Anonymous]

Kids are pretty smart. They can understand that the rules are different in different situations. Therefore, they know they can jump on the furniture in that particular room of your cousins house but not other furniture in another house or possibly not even a different room in their own house. If your cousin doesn’t care, why do you? If they were jumping on YOUR couch, then I would agree they need to leave immediately.

[Anonymous]

I’d prefer that they not jump on the couch but when my kids are cooped up indoors on a crummy day I cut them some slack. I’m more concerned about them getting hurt. I’m not sure how you disrespect a couch because none of the ones I’ve ever owned had feelings. If they had memories my husband and I would be in big trouble with OP! Very very disrespectful!

[Anonymous]

Not your house or furniture, not your rules OP. We don't jump on furniture in our house but if someone else has a different rule, that's their choice. Kids are 10 and 7 and we have had lots of "other families do things differently" talks over the years.

[Anonymous]

Not about disrespect or safety, but practical. Kids can build forts, make a mess, etc. But I draw the line at property damage, I do not want to pay extra money for repairs or to replace furniture.
Break your toys - who cares (thats what they're for), but even an ikea couch isn't cheap.
Kinda like that rule: you break it, you pay for it.

[Anonymous]

Why is this something you care about? It's her furniture. I don't get it. Surely you have more important things going on in your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh. My house my furniture my rules.
My 4 year old knows she can't jump on the living room couch but she can dowhatever to the basement couch and the loveseat in her room. She manages not to jump on my parents or my inlaws furniture unless they specifically tell her to. My mom has a great fort building couch in her basement and indulges my dd in that when we come over.
If we are visiting someone on a play date she asks me or the host if she can climb on things first.
She's also never peed on any couches and we have beautiful Persian rugs in great condition all over our house.

This. Some couches its fine; others it’s not. My kids are actually relatively sedate and well behaved for their ages (5,3), but they’re allowed to jump on one of our couches, because it’s old, dark colors, has proven basically invincible and I like to encourage active play in the winter.

[Anonymous]

I agree, OP.

Sofas are for sitting.

Signed,

Mom of two young kids.

[Anonymous]

What are you supposed to do when the floor turns to lava if you can’t stand on the furniture?