Is a high libido more of a curse or blessing for a woman?

[Anonymous]

I am a high-libido single woman. I have great restraint and control but I often find myself even more turned on after after being intimate. From a relationship standpoint, i have had to "mute" or tone done my hormones for fear of offending my partners ego. Relationships are about compromise, I get that.

I was wondering how other similar women have coped in relationships. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Blessing.

My marriage is solid, in part due to my libido.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a high-libido single woman. I have great restraint and control but I often find myself even more turned on after after being intimate. From a relationship standpoint, i have had to "mute" or tone done my hormones for fear of offending my partners ego. Relationships are about compromise, I get that.

I was wondering how other similar women have coped in relationships. Thanks.

I am like you. I have been celibate for 6 months because I am not over someone, but I caved one night. I know I should not feel badly about it.

[Anonymous]

Most guys like it but it contributed to the demise of one relationship for me. Sad because I really liked that guy and he was great in bed but I think he couldn't handle the disparity in libido. Other factors contributed too though.

[Anonymous]

Assuming you are in a relationship, it's the greatest blessing. Most men will worship you if you rock them sexually. The number one complaint if married men is lack of sex and affection. You won't have that as an issue. I wish I married you

[Anonymous]

I always want to do it again immediately after an O. It’s not that I’m not satisfied. I think it’s largely because of how I learned to pleasure myself initially.

There’s definitely a cultural aspect as to whether you’d see it as a blessing or curse.

[Anonymous]

Right now it’s hard. I want sex frequently and DH used to always love that. He’s in the midst of a mid life crisis and it’s a bit of an issue between us. Sucks.

[Anonymous]

As long as it’s reasonably close to your SO it’s not an issue and that holds true for low libido as well. Mine is likely average and my husbands is higher and that difference is liveable.

[Anonymous]

I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Wow. Psoriasis isn't something that your ex could help. That's a crappy thing to say.

[Anonymous]

I had a high libido but pregnancy and the plumet of hormones afterward killed it for me.
It was just coming back 2 years later and pregnancy #2.
kids and work kill it more than anything else I tell you. Between 2 kids and a promotion at work i am lucky if i can masterbate a couple times a week (used to do so couple of times a day) and sex 1x per week (used to be many times).

[Anonymous]

In long term relationships, I have a hypothesis that any libido disparity will expand over time. Doesn't matter if it's the man or the woman with the higher libido (though it's most often the man.) Having your S/O initiate sex when you don't particularly want it will increasingly lower your drive. Having your S/O reject you for sex when you do want it will create a feeling of scarcity that will increase your desire.

The small imbalance will grow - it's like a spinning top that wobbles a little at first and then more and more until it falls down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Wow. Psoriasis isn't something that your ex could help. That's a crappy thing to say.

The lifestyle choice to be a fat drunk with abusive rage contributed to his skin. Is it nice? No. But it’s not nice having your life destroyed by an inept drunk either. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Most guys would appreciate a high libido. I know I would. Even if I couldn't go again right away, I would enjoy pleasuring you in other ways or watching you pleasure yourself. IMO, blessing.