Is a high libido more of a curse or blessing for a woman?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Blessing. My libido is higher than DH's, so I don't always get laid every time I want, but he almost never gets turned down, which I think is good because I could see regularly initiating with no payoff building resentment. I can take care of myself too, without feeling distant from him. A dry spell for us is 2-3x/week, which is good because on the rare occasions we can't have sex at all due to external factors, I definitely feel myself getting irritated with him over little things, and I assume it works both ways.

Another high libido PP in this thread and ITA with all you wrote. I also think that not being sexually satisfied definitely can have you gicing your spouse the side eye, like “why are you chewing your cornflakes like that?! Ugh.” If you’re doing it on the regular .. you’re like, “shall I pour you more corn flakes my wonderful king”

HAHAHA exactly!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Wow. Psoriasis isn't something that your ex could help. That's a crappy thing to say.

The lifestyle choice to be a fat drunk with abusive rage contributed to his skin. Is it nice? No. But it’s not nice having your life destroyed by an inept drunk either. Oh well.

You're the one who married the guy in the first place. You are crappy at choosing men.

I'll bet she overlooked a bunch of nice guys who were good in the sack when she chose that loser because back in the day he was popular.

No, we had great sex before he got fat and scabby and drunk. But whatever play out your “poor overlooked nice guys” fantasy. Doesn’t trouble me any.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

+1

So your theory is seek out teeny tiny peckers so as to stave off a lifetime of disappointment? Nah. I’ll take the big one!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In long term relationships, I have a hypothesis that any libido disparity will expand over time. Doesn't matter if it's the man or the woman with the higher libido (though it's most often the man.) Having your S/O initiate sex when you don't particularly want it will increasingly lower your drive. Having your S/O reject you for sex when you do want it will create a feeling of scarcity that will increase your desire.

The small imbalance will grow - it's like a spinning top that wobbles a little at first and then more and more until it falls down.

High libido man here, this is my marriage exactly. It will probably be the reason we divorce when the youngest leaves for college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

PP will be fine. They're not as rare as you might like to think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

PP will be fine. They're not as rare as you might like to think.

+1. Why do people seem to think that big ones are so rare?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

PP will be fine. They're not as rare as you might like to think.

+1. Why do people seem to think that big ones are so rare?

That said, endowed and skilled is less common than I'd personally prefer. Give me average/above average and thorough any day over blessed and lazy.

But to the OP's question, my personal experience has been that it is very much a blessing. I can only imagine it must be much easier to manage a high libido than to stimulate a low one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

PP will be fine. They're not as rare as you might like to think.

+1. Why do people seem to think that big ones are so rare?

That said, endowed and skilled is less common than I'd personally prefer. Give me average/above average and thorough any day over blessed and lazy.

But to the OP's question, my personal experience has been that it is very much a blessing. I can only imagine it must be much easier to manage a high libido than to stimulate a low one.

I’m the previous poster from above with the endowed fwb. Like I said, I haven’t dated that many people but he’s the first truly large guy I’ve encountered. I guess its just lucky that he’s also skilled.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

PP will be fine. They're not as rare as you might like to think.

+1. Why do people seem to think that big ones are so rare?

That said, endowed and skilled is less common than I'd personally prefer. Give me average/above average and thorough any day over blessed and lazy.

But to the OP's question, my personal experience has been that it is very much a blessing. I can only imagine it must be much easier to manage a high libido than to stimulate a low one.

I think that most women genuinely don’t have a size preference.

[Anonymous]

I’m mid 30s and have been having a libido surge. The kids are a bit older and I can count on them sleeping through the night, I am in the best shape of my life and looking and feeling great.

My husband, however, is mid 40s and is having a tough time with some obstacles that have really put a damper on his libido and performance. I never imagined my sex life wouldn’t be great at my age, but I’m taking it in stride and hoping things can turn around sooner than later.

Most people don’t have consistently high libido and sometimes one spouse is in the upswing and the other isn’t.

OP if you don’t have kids, that can be a huge libido smacker. Don’t expect your libido to be high forever. Pick a partner that will stick with you no matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

PP will be fine. They're not as rare as you might like to think.

Also kegels can help.

[Anonymous]

It was a curse in my first marriage, but is a blessing in second.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In long term relationships, I have a hypothesis that any libido disparity will expand over time. Doesn't matter if it's the man or the woman with the higher libido (though it's most often the man.) Having your S/O initiate sex when you don't particularly want it will increasingly lower your drive. Having your S/O reject you for sex when you do want it will create a feeling of scarcity that will increase your desire.

The small imbalance will grow - it's like a spinning top that wobbles a little at first and then more and more until it falls down.

High libido man here, this is my marriage exactly. It will probably be the reason we divorce when the youngest leaves for college.

If you put something like that over your marriage, kids and future you're really a dim bulb. Even if my DH got ED or had cancer I'm not going to trade him in...lol. Our dynasty the future of our kids and grand-kids comes before my sex life...LMAO!!! It's so absurd I can't fathom how stupid some are. If you think one person if going to for-fill all your needs you're in for a big surprise. The next one will have shortcomings after the fog wears off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In long term relationships, I have a hypothesis that any libido disparity will expand over time. Doesn't matter if it's the man or the woman with the higher libido (though it's most often the man.) Having your S/O initiate sex when you don't particularly want it will increasingly lower your drive. Having your S/O reject you for sex when you do want it will create a feeling of scarcity that will increase your desire.

The small imbalance will grow - it's like a spinning top that wobbles a little at first and then more and more until it falls down.

High libido man here, this is my marriage exactly. It will probably be the reason we divorce when the youngest leaves for college.

If you put something like that over your marriage, kids and future you're really a dim bulb. Even if my DH got ED or had cancer I'm not going to trade him in...lol. Our dynasty the future of our kids and grand-kids comes before my sex life...LMAO!!! It's so absurd I can't fathom how stupid some are. If you think one person if going to for-fill all your needs you're in for a big surprise. The next one will have shortcomings after the fog wears off.

Please tell me that you know how to spell fulfill. I’m having a hard time believing auto-correct would suggest the bolded.