Is a high libido more of a curse or blessing for a woman?

[Anonymous]

Husband here - I’m high and she’s low so we meet in the middle. I’m fine with it because her other qualities are wonderful.

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Anonymous wrote:In long term relationships, I have a hypothesis that any libido disparity will expand over time. Doesn't matter if it's the man or the woman with the higher libido (though it's most often the man.) Having your S/O initiate sex when you don't particularly want it will increasingly lower your drive. Having your S/O reject you for sex when you do want it will create a feeling of scarcity that will increase your desire.

The small imbalance will grow - it's like a spinning top that wobbles a little at first and then more and more until it falls down.

High libido man here, this is my marriage exactly. It will probably be the reason we divorce when the youngest leaves for college.

If you put something like that over your marriage, kids and future you're really a dim bulb. Even if my DH got ED or had cancer I'm not going to trade him in...lol. Our dynasty the future of our kids and grand-kids comes before my sex life...LMAO!!! It's so absurd I can't fathom how stupid some are. If you think one person if going to for-fill all your needs you're in for a big surprise. The next one will have shortcomings after the fog wears off.

Please tell me that you know how to spell fulfill. I’m having a hard time believing auto-correct would suggest the bolded.

You're right, but that's what it did, lol. Hope that's a load off.

On the up side I know whats most important unlike OP.

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Anonymous wrote:In long term relationships, I have a hypothesis that any libido disparity will expand over time. Doesn't matter if it's the man or the woman with the higher libido (though it's most often the man.) Having your S/O initiate sex when you don't particularly want it will increasingly lower your drive. Having your S/O reject you for sex when you do want it will create a feeling of scarcity that will increase your desire.

The small imbalance will grow - it's like a spinning top that wobbles a little at first and then more and more until it falls down.

High libido man here, this is my marriage exactly. It will probably be the reason we divorce when the youngest leaves for college.

If you put something like that over your marriage, kids and future you're really a dim bulb. Even if my DH got ED or had cancer I'm not going to trade him in...lol. Our dynasty the future of our kids and grand-kids comes before my sex life...LMAO!!! It's so absurd I can't fathom how stupid some are. If you think one person if going to for-fill all your needs you're in for a big surprise. The next one will have shortcomings after the fog wears off.

Please tell me that you know how to spell fulfill. I’m having a hard time believing auto-correct would suggest the bolded.

Ha! I just saw that. I can’t blame it on autocorrect though - it was probably because I was using my phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m mid 30s and have been having a libido surge. The kids are a bit older and I can count on them sleeping through the night, I am in the best shape of my life and looking and feeling great.

My husband, however, is mid 40s and is having a tough time with some obstacles that have really put a damper on his libido and performance. I never imagined my sex life wouldn’t be great at my age, but I’m taking it in stride and hoping things can turn around sooner than later.

Most people don’t have consistently high libido and sometimes one spouse is in the upswing and the other isn’t.

OP if you don’t have kids, that can be a huge libido smacker. Don’t expect your libido to be high forever. Pick a partner that will stick with you no matter.

Thanks but i am in my late 40s and it has always been high. Even through the nee kid phase.

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Anonymous wrote:In long term relationships, I have a hypothesis that any libido disparity will expand over time. Doesn't matter if it's the man or the woman with the higher libido (though it's most often the man.) Having your S/O initiate sex when you don't particularly want it will increasingly lower your drive. Having your S/O reject you for sex when you do want it will create a feeling of scarcity that will increase your desire.

The small imbalance will grow - it's like a spinning top that wobbles a little at first and then more and more until it falls down.

High libido man here, this is my marriage exactly. It will probably be the reason we divorce when the youngest leaves for college.

If you put something like that over your marriage, kids and future you're really a dim bulb. Even if my DH got ED or had cancer I'm not going to trade him in...lol. Our dynasty the future of our kids and grand-kids comes before my sex life...LMAO!!! It's so absurd I can't fathom how stupid some are. If you think one person if going to for-fill all your needs you're in for a big surprise. The next one will have shortcomings after the fog wears off.

You do not need to be nasty. I understand that you are not blessed in this manner, its ok. We don't think less of you.

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Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

PP will be fine. They're not as rare as you might like to think.

Also kegels can help.

It might help the guy but it won’t help your enjoyment.

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Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

PP will be fine. They're not as rare as you might like to think.

+1. Why do people seem to think that big ones are so rare?

That said, endowed and skilled is less common than I'd personally prefer. Give me average/above average and thorough any day over blessed and lazy.

But to the OP's question, my personal experience has been that it is very much a blessing. I can only imagine it must be much easier to manage a high libido than to stimulate a low one.

I think that most women genuinely don’t have a size preference.

So not true!! You must be a guy.

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Anonymous wrote:Blessing.

My marriage is solid, in part due to my libido.

That is kind of sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I handled it by divorcing my overweight usually drunk psoriasis covered ex and enjoying my libido in a whole new way. I’ve found that my need for sex can lie dormant (thabks magic wand) but when I find a partner I have great chemistry with its amazing. I am financially and emotionally independent and am able to explore and gratify my sexuality.

Same for me. I’m in an fwb arrangement now with someone who I have great chemistry with. It’s amazing how that can make your drive even higher. He is BLESSED downstairs too. LOL. I hadn’t dated many people before my ex so its my first time experiencing someone gifted and talented.

That’s great but what happens when you get used to the size and then he finds someone else? You won’t be able to be fulfilled by most people that you find in the dating pool.

PP will be fine. They're not as rare as you might like to think.

+1. Why do people seem to think that big ones are so rare?

Do you? What do you prefer?

That said, endowed and skilled is less common than I'd personally prefer. Give me average/above average and thorough any day over blessed and lazy.

But to the OP's question, my personal experience has been that it is very much a blessing. I can only imagine it must be much easier to manage a high libido than to stimulate a low one.

I think that most women genuinely don’t have a size preference.

So not true!! You must be a guy.

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Anonymous wrote:Blessing.

My marriage is solid, in part due to my libido.

That is kind of sad.

Actually it’s quite normal that a marriage would be solid if libidos are matched. Conversely, mismatched libidos is one of the top reasons for divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:Blessing.

My marriage is solid, in part due to my libido.

That is kind of sad.

Are you a nun?

[Anonymous]

Is your miss-match due to frequency or not having enough Os each go around? My DH never finishes until I've had all the Os I have in me that night - it's always at least two and sometimes 5-10. So if your issue is that you need to have more orgasms each time you have sex, that feels more fixable through communication. Frequency/ number of times per week is harder to align on.

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Anonymous wrote:Blessing.

My marriage is solid, in part due to my libido.

That is kind of sad.

Don’t be a fool. That’s how it’s supposed to work.

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Anonymous wrote:Is your miss-match due to frequency or not having enough Os each go around? My DH never finishes until I've had all the Os I have in me that night - it's always at least two and sometimes 5-10. So if your issue is that you need to have more orgasms each time you have sex, that feels more fixable through communication. Frequency/ number of times per week is harder to align on.

In general and not explicit terms, how are you having all of these Os? PIV?

[Anonymous]

My husband loves it. Especially when we spend all weekend in bed. Just have to find the right person.