Pre-school single dad conundrum
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Anonymous
| I’m a single Dad and my daughter started preschool three weeks ago. I take her to and from school as I’m lucky to be able to work from home. I’ve already helped out at school so I’ve met most of the parents (almost all Mom’s) and chatted with many. Within the last week two of the moms - one today - asked me if I’d like to grab a cup of coffee after drop off. With both I made a non committal kind of response. I don’t know if they are married or single as I didn’t check out their ring finger but that’s not always a clear yes or know. They are both very attractive and my social life is pretty non existent given I’m rarely in a place where I meet women and I have not attempted social media. Do I take them up on the offer and see what’s up or do I just say thanks but no thanks politely. Even if they are single I do have concerns about dating a preschool mom if things go south but you never know. Many of you are likely pre-school moms so what should a single dad do. TIA. |
Anonymous
| Go for it. |
Anonymous
| Hm, I'd say no. Meeting single moms is fine, but meeting ones that have children concurrently enrolled at the same preschool is a no. I suggest library storytime. Crawling with moms...and crawling with babies. |
Anonymous
| Don’t date or look to date in pre-school circle. Mixing kids and dating is a very bad idea. Why not suggest that both you, Suzi and Anne all get together for coffee. You can then chat about your kids and explain you wouldn’t ever want to jeopardize your DC or their preschool experience but am always looking to broaden your social circle and make new friends. |
Anonymous
| I’d take them up on it but I would be very hesitant to date a preschool mom with a child in the same class. But, if there is a real spark I’d take it very slow and be open with her about the risks. If one of them is married stay as far away from her as you can. |
Anonymous
| You go straight to how attractive they are and dating not whether their kid might make a good friend for your child. IMHO it’s a bit disgusting, put your kid first and keep your hormones in check. |
Anonymous
Don't try to date this mom, OP. |
Anonymous
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Are you interested in dating? Are you interested in getting to know this woman better? If the answer to both is Yes, then agree to grab coffee.
I didn't find preschool to be a friendly place, and made no friends the whole time my son was in daycare/preschool. Once he started at a real school that changed, but daycare/preschool was not a social scene for me and I doubt dating a parent with a kid there would have changed anything. |
Anonymous
| Presumably your Ex also knows or will know most of the preschool parents. If you and your EX are not on friendly terms and/or you have not been divorced more than 2 years don’t be the douche who starts flaunting your dating in front of her. |
Anonymous
| Sometimes people just want to get to know people they have something in common with. Not everyone wants to come on to you. |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| I would assume this is “let’s make parent friends” coffee and not a date. |
Anonymous
I'm a mom who had a couple of kids in pre-schools, and never got an invite for coffee after drop-off. I'd say odds are good these women interested in something more. OP, I'd honestly put them off by saying you need to be at your desk for work. Stay friendly and chatty and get to know the moms, but I'd be cautious about people who are asking you out a few weeks into the school year. It could easily lead to awkward situations down the road. |
Anonymous
Really? I wouldn't be thrilled if my DH started asking out the preschool moms for coffee to make parent friends. |
Anonymous
They are asking him for coffee, not a play date. |