Want a fourth but - money

[Anonymous]

I really want a fourth but my husband is less convinced. He is more focused on the financial aspect of another kid, which I realize is not insignificant. We make around 500k so we could afford another kid but in his eyes, it would detract from the lifestyle we could provide for the three we have right now. With our three, we can afford to fully pay for their educations, do some pretty cool travel, let them go to whatever camps or extracurricular activities they want, etc. etc.

The point is, we don't really have to worry about money right now but we might after having a fourth.

Is that a good reason not to have a child you want?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really want a fourth but my husband is less convinced. He is more focused on the financial aspect of another kid, which I realize is not insignificant. We make around 500k so we could afford another kid but in his eyes, it would detract from the lifestyle we could provide for the three we have right now. With our three, we can afford to fully pay for their educations, do some pretty cool travel, let them go to whatever camps or extracurricular activities they want, etc. etc.

The point is, we don't really have to worry about money right now but we might after having a fourth.

Is that a good reason not to have a child you want?

Yes, it is a good point. Plus, one more kid means less time with your other kids. How old are the other three? What if one or two needs extra support that you don't know about? Enjoy the three you have!

[Anonymous]

With a 500K HHI you're seriously asking for input on this question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With a 500K HHI you're seriously asking for input on this question?

Husband sounds like he doesn't want a fourth that is reason #1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really want a fourth but my husband is less convinced. He is more focused on the financial aspect of another kid, which I realize is not insignificant. We make around 500k so we could afford another kid but in his eyes, it would detract from the lifestyle we could provide for the three we have right now. With our three, we can afford to fully pay for their educations, do some pretty cool travel, let them go to whatever camps or extracurricular activities they want, etc. etc.

The point is, we don't really have to worry about money right now but we might after having a fourth.

Is that a good reason not to have a child you want?

Yes, it is a good point. Plus, one more kid means less time with your other kids. How old are the other three? What if one or two needs extra support that you don't know about? Enjoy the three you have!

1.5, 3.5, and 5

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you are a little hooked on the pregnancy/baby stage. Can you see yourself not in this role anymore? Do you feel like you might end up wanting 5 if you do have 4? I don’t think your husband’s reluctance is money-based. That’s a ton of kids close in age.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course, money is a huge consideration in deciding on more children! Your husband is correct. Look at the children you have and ask yourself if denying them (good schools, lessons in something they have a passion for, sports, trips, etc) is in their best interest.

[Anonymous]

Do a little googling on the environment. Stop being selfish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With a 500K HHI you're seriously asking for input on this question?

In my husband's view, we can provide a very nice life to the three we have now. Why rock the boat for a fourth and have less to give each?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you are a little hooked on the pregnancy/baby stage. Can you see yourself not in this role anymore? Do you feel like you might end up wanting 5 if you do have 4? I don’t think your husband’s reluctance is money-based. That’s a ton of kids close in age.

No I don't want 5.

Families with 4 kids is really common in the suburbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do a little googling on the environment. Stop being selfish

x1000

[Anonymous]

Team DH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do a little googling on the environment. Stop being selfish

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you are a little hooked on the pregnancy/baby stage. Can you see yourself not in this role anymore? Do you feel like you might end up wanting 5 if you do have 4? I don’t think your husband’s reluctance is money-based. That’s a ton of kids close in age.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really want a fourth but my husband is less convinced. He is more focused on the financial aspect of another kid, which I realize is not insignificant. We make around 500k so we could afford another kid but in his eyes, it would detract from the lifestyle we could provide for the three we have right now. With our three, we can afford to fully pay for their educations, do some pretty cool travel, let them go to whatever camps or extracurricular activities they want, etc. etc.

The point is, we don't really have to worry about money right now but we might after having a fourth.

Is that a good reason not to have a child you want?

He doesn't want another and both parents shoukd want another kid! Stupid, stupid, stupid of you to insist. All you will do is create resentment and divorce down the road. Stop being do selfish and thinking of what you want.