Would you let someone homophobic instruct your child?

[Anonymous]

We are a happily married 2 Mom family with an adopted DD who is now 7.
DD does a martial art and I just found the facebook page of one of the instructors ( He did not friend me on fb) and there are some ignorant and hateful posts on his wall that can be seen by anyone. Most recent was a few days ago when he posted from a site that says "Sociologists say homosexual parenting harms children"

He has always been polite to me and I have not noticed any overt behavior that is different towards my child. But, I am concerned she could potentially be held back by his beliefs and it just really bothers me that he is even around my child.
Would you do or say anything?

[Anonymous]

No way. I'm not gay, and I wouldn't want this person around my kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way. I'm not gay, and I wouldn't want this person around my kid

Same. It just happens that one of my kids is a lesbian, but I made that parenting decision long before that kid was born, when my brother had a homophobic scout master.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. Finish out this session, then that's it. There are other martial arts instructors, and other activities, in this world. There is zero need to give your dollars to people who deal in ignorance and hate.

I'm sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Nope, not for one second would I support their business, or anything to do with this person. I’d also be screen shooting their stuff and posting it on local boards, but I have no time for that kind of nonsense, even if they think it’s private.

[Anonymous]

Not in this case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. Finish out this session, then that's it. There are other martial arts instructors, and other activities, in this world. There is zero need to give your dollars to people who deal in ignorance and hate.

I'm sorry, OP.

Can you ask to switch to a different instructor?

[Anonymous]

Straight person with straight kids here.
No, I’d be done and I’d (politely) tell them why I was leaving because I’m direct like that, and then I’d yelp review them.

[Anonymous]

Op here: There are 2-4 instructors that all rotate and teach this age group of kids.
To add to the problem my kid loves going and our PT sitter also takes her son. So even if I pulled DD she would probably still go once a week with the sitter but would sit and watch.
I am not sure whether to say anything to the owner/manager or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: There are 2-4 instructors that all rotate and teach this age group of kids.
To add to the problem my kid loves going and our PT sitter also takes her son. So even if I pulled DD she would probably still go once a week with the sitter but would sit and watch.
I am not sure whether to say anything to the owner/manager or not?

In this case, I would suds out if the owner shares the homophobia. Then, I’d say something.

[Anonymous]

Sure, I would. He will not be discussing sexual issues with DD.

Don't let your politics infect every decision you make fer chrissake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure, I would. He will not be discussing sexual issues with DD.

Don't let your politics infect every decision you make fer chrissake.

DP. You are an a$$.

OP, I would not.

[Anonymous]

I judge people by their behavior, not their FB posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are a happily married 2 Mom family with an adopted DD who is now 7.
DD does a martial art and I just found the facebook page of one of the instructors ( He did not friend me on fb) and there are some ignorant and hateful posts on his wall that can be seen by anyone. Most recent was a few days ago when he posted from a site that says "Sociologists say homosexual parenting harms children"

He has always been polite to me and I have not noticed any overt behavior that is different towards my child. But, I am concerned she could potentially be held back by his beliefs and it just really bothers me that he is even around my child.
Would you do or say anything?

Op I wouldn't do anything or say anything unless he directly said something to you or your daughter that is homophobic. I think it is a fine line and while I don't agree with his viewpoint he is allowed to express his opinion. What if the instructor was gay and someone pulled their kids out of the class because they didn't like the gay pride stuff they posted? You would be horrified no?

Plus, you would be only harming your child since she enjoys the activity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge people by their behavior, not their FB posts.

So if you saw on FB they support dating underage girls you would be fine with that?