Would you let someone homophobic instruct your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure, I would. He will not be discussing sexual issues with DD.

Don't let your politics infect every decision you make fer chrissake.

It’s not her politics, it’s her family. This guy openly judged her (by association) as damaging her child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge people by their behavior, not their FB posts.

Posting on FB is a behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are a happily married 2 Mom family with an adopted DD who is now 7.
DD does a martial art and I just found the facebook page of one of the instructors ( He did not friend me on fb) and there are some ignorant and hateful posts on his wall that can be seen by anyone. Most recent was a few days ago when he posted from a site that says "Sociologists say homosexual parenting harms children"

He has always been polite to me and I have not noticed any overt behavior that is different towards my child. But, I am concerned she could potentially be held back by his beliefs and it just really bothers me that he is even around my child.
Would you do or say anything?

Op I wouldn't do anything or say anything unless he directly said something to you or your daughter that is homophobic. I think it is a fine line and while I don't agree with his viewpoint he is allowed to express his opinion. What if the instructor was gay and someone pulled their kids out of the class because they didn't like the gay pride stuff they posted? You would be horrified no?

Plus, you would be only harming your child since she enjoys the activity.

OMFG. Someone pulling their kids out because they are prejudiced themselves against the pride-supporting instructor is not the same as pulling the kid out because the instructor is intolerant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are a happily married 2 Mom family with an adopted DD who is now 7.
DD does a martial art and I just found the facebook page of one of the instructors ( He did not friend me on fb) and there are some ignorant and hateful posts on his wall that can be seen by anyone. Most recent was a few days ago when he posted from a site that says "Sociologists say homosexual parenting harms children"

He has always been polite to me and I have not noticed any overt behavior that is different towards my child. But, I am concerned she could potentially be held back by his beliefs and it just really bothers me that he is even around my child.
Would you do or say anything?

Op I wouldn't do anything or say anything unless he directly said something to you or your daughter that is homophobic. I think it is a fine line and while I don't agree with his viewpoint he is allowed to express his opinion. What if the instructor was gay and someone pulled their kids out of the class because they didn't like the gay pride stuff they posted? You would be horrified no?

Plus, you would be only harming your child since she enjoys the activity.

OMFG. Someone pulling their kids out because they are prejudiced themselves against the pride-supporting instructor is not the same as pulling the kid out because the instructor is intolerant.

It is the same. Op never said the person did anything to her or her daughter. People can have different opinions. Even some gay people don't think that gays should be parents ( Dolce and Gabbana for one) There was a big disagreement between them and Elton John. At least this instructor didn't do anything personally to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are a happily married 2 Mom family with an adopted DD who is now 7.
DD does a martial art and I just found the facebook page of one of the instructors ( He did not friend me on fb) and there are some ignorant and hateful posts on his wall that can be seen by anyone. Most recent was a few days ago when he posted from a site that says "Sociologists say homosexual parenting harms children"

He has always been polite to me and I have not noticed any overt behavior that is different towards my child. But, I am concerned she could potentially be held back by his beliefs and it just really bothers me that he is even around my child.
Would you do or say anything?

Op I wouldn't do anything or say anything unless he directly said something to you or your daughter that is homophobic. I think it is a fine line and while I don't agree with his viewpoint he is allowed to express his opinion. What if the instructor was gay and someone pulled their kids out of the class because they didn't like the gay pride stuff they posted? You would be horrified no?

Plus, you would be only harming your child since she enjoys the activity.

OMFG. Someone pulling their kids out because they are prejudiced themselves against the pride-supporting instructor is not the same as pulling the kid out because the instructor is intolerant.

It is the same. Op never said the person did anything to her or her daughter. People can have different opinions. Even some gay people don't think that gays should be parents ( Dolce and Gabbana for one) There was a big disagreement between them and Elton John. At least this instructor didn't do anything personally to them.

You are hopeless.

[Anonymous]

No. That's non-negotiable.

-straight parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are a happily married 2 Mom family with an adopted DD who is now 7.
DD does a martial art and I just found the facebook page of one of the instructors ( He did not friend me on fb) and there are some ignorant and hateful posts on his wall that can be seen by anyone. Most recent was a few days ago when he posted from a site that says "Sociologists say homosexual parenting harms children"

He has always been polite to me and I have not noticed any overt behavior that is different towards my child. But, I am concerned she could potentially be held back by his beliefs and it just really bothers me that he is even around my child.
Would you do or say anything?

Op I wouldn't do anything or say anything unless he directly said something to you or your daughter that is homophobic. I think it is a fine line and while I don't agree with his viewpoint he is allowed to express his opinion. What if the instructor was gay and someone pulled their kids out of the class because they didn't like the gay pride stuff they posted? You would be horrified no?

Plus, you would be only harming your child since she enjoys the activity.

OMFG. Someone pulling their kids out because they are prejudiced themselves against the pride-supporting instructor is not the same as pulling the kid out because the instructor is intolerant.

It is the same. Op never said the person did anything to her or her daughter. People can have different opinions. Even some gay people don't think that gays should be parents ( Dolce and Gabbana for one) There was a big disagreement between them and Elton John. At least this instructor didn't do anything personally to them.

You are hopeless.

Could say the same about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are a happily married 2 Mom family with an adopted DD who is now 7.
DD does a martial art and I just found the facebook page of one of the instructors ( He did not friend me on fb) and there are some ignorant and hateful posts on his wall that can be seen by anyone. Most recent was a few days ago when he posted from a site that says "Sociologists say homosexual parenting harms children"

He has always been polite to me and I have not noticed any overt behavior that is different towards my child. But, I am concerned she could potentially be held back by his beliefs and it just really bothers me that he is even around my child.
Would you do or say anything?

Op I wouldn't do anything or say anything unless he directly said something to you or your daughter that is homophobic. I think it is a fine line and while I don't agree with his viewpoint he is allowed to express his opinion. What if the instructor was gay and someone pulled their kids out of the class because they didn't like the gay pride stuff they posted? You would be horrified no?

Plus, you would be only harming your child since she enjoys the activity.

OMFG. Someone pulling their kids out because they are prejudiced themselves against the pride-supporting instructor is not the same as pulling the kid out because the instructor is intolerant.

PP seems to think a homophobic instructor is equivalent to a gay person. The equivalent of a homophobic instructor would be a heterophobic instructor or an instructor who bigoted against a particular group whether it's based on sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, religion, etc.

[Anonymous]

We are AA and I would let someone who doesn't agree with all my political leanings instruct my kids in something non-related. For example, Trump is racist af but I would let my kid be instructed in martial arts by a trump supporter because I assume that wouldn't come up during class, and if it did, we could use it as a teaching opportunity. However, there's a line and if I found out that our martial arts teacher is someone who is posting screeds against who we are (member of the kkk, for example) then no, I would pull my kids. So, find your line, OP, and go with that.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you were looking at his personal facebook page. Unless it was a professional page, the views expressed there are personal. A class is not. Does he express his personal viewpoints in class or invite the class to view his facebook page? Does he treat anybody with anything less than professionalism and respect? If so, I agree it's inappropriate. If not, it seems like he's respecting the line between his personal and professional life, but you're crossing it.

People are entitled to their personal beliefs. I'm sure you interact daily with people who may disagree with you on any number of issues that you don't even realize. As long as they comport themselves appropriately, it shouldn't matter what his personal thoughts and opinions are. You are personally entitled to believe he's wrong. Consider, however, that if he treats everybody in class professionally regardless of their/their parents sexual orientation, regardless of whether he approves of their lifestyle and/or beliefs and you take action against him because of his personal beliefs, that would seem to make you more intolerant than him.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Part of being open-minded is understanding and being able to deal with people who are closed-minded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Part of being open-minded is understanding and being able to deal with people who are closed-minded.

Thank you! This is what I’ve been feeling but struggling to articulate.

[Anonymous]

No way! I understand that it's complicated and that it may not be possible to quit right away, but I would find a different solution for my child.

[Anonymous]

I am personally against same sex marriage but I would not let that be known in my work environment. It does not affect how I treat gay people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am personally against same sex marriage but I would not let that be known in my work environment. It does not affect how I treat gay people.

I bet gay people you work with would disagree.