Separating after 20+ years married. Alimony?

[Anonymous]

Never worked. Raised two kids. Helped part to full time (unpaid) with DH business for most of marriage. Am I entitled to alimony? Is there still such a thing as permanent alimony? I’m in my mid 50’s.

[Anonymous]

I’m va, almost certainly. Usually 1/2 of the marriage length.

[Anonymous]

Yes. And you will get some assets, too.

[Anonymous]

If he started the business while you were married you get half of that too. Sorry to hear about the divorce.

[Anonymous]

Get a full time job asap

[Anonymous]

Alimony is for the pathetic . Support yourself. Gravy train is over. Don’t you have any pride?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alimony is for the pathetic . Support yourself. Gravy train is over. Don’t you have any pride?

Yes -pride in her work of helping her husband start and maintain his business AND in bearing and raising his kids. The real question, is does her husband have any dignity or is he going to just screw over the woman upon whose back he built his business and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alimony is for the pathetic . Support yourself. Gravy train is over. Don’t you have any pride?

....said the angry disgruntled exDH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Alimony is for the pathetic . Support yourself. Gravy train is over. Don’t you have any pride?

....said the angry disgruntled exDH.

Actually I’m a happily married working woman who takes full responsibility for my own financial life. And manages to be an excellent mom at the same time. There are a million of us out there, and a million of us on these boards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alimony is for the pathetic . Support yourself. Gravy train is over. Don’t you have any pride?

OP, please just let these unhelpful comments roll off of your back.

I'm not divorced but I had a very lucrative career pre-kids. DH and I made a mutual decision that I would stay home to raise the kids. We both worked 14+ hour days and we knew it wouldn't work unless we had help raise our kids, which we didn't want to do.

We both recognize my contribution to the marriage and that certainly includes my husband's company. He is the first one to say he couldn't have done it without me.

If we divorced I was sure as hell go for alimony and anything else I could get. I have pride and I have a brain. Yes, you will get alimony in VA. 10 years is pretty standard considering the length of your marriage.

I wish the best for you and I'm sorry for all you are going through. I'm also sorry that some on this board feel the need to pile on. That's about them, not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Alimony is for the pathetic . Support yourself. Gravy train is over. Don’t you have any pride?

....said the angry disgruntled exDH.

Actually I’m a happily married working woman who takes full responsibility for my own financial life. And manages to be an excellent mom at the same time. There are a million of us out there, and a million of us on these boards.

Happily married? I can't say. Happy? Doubtful based on your desire to bash someone going through a very difficult time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never worked. Raised two kids. Helped part to full time (unpaid) with DH business for most of marriage. Am I entitled to alimony? Is there still such a thing as permanent alimony? I’m in my mid 50’s.

Yes. If you were married for more than 20 years you will get permanent lifetime alimony unless you committed adultery. I. Virginia I mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never worked. Raised two kids. Helped part to full time (unpaid) with DH business for most of marriage. Am I entitled to alimony? Is there still such a thing as permanent alimony? I’m in my mid 50’s.

You really need to go pay the $400 and have an attorney consultation. Do a few to conflict out any he might call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never worked. Raised two kids. Helped part to full time (unpaid) with DH business for most of marriage. Am I entitled to alimony? Is there still such a thing as permanent alimony? I’m in my mid 50’s.

Yes. If you were married for more than 20 years you will get permanent lifetime alimony unless you committed adultery. I. Virginia I mean.

If she is considered disabled and /or unable to work, maybe.

[Anonymous]

DH and I always made within 10% of each other except for one year when he took a big pay cut to get a resume stamp. We spend $60k+ a year on childcare. OP conveyed plenty of value to her family and deserves half of what they built together.