Sorority Rush

[Anonymous]

Any moms stay at hotel while daughter goes thru Rush? DD moves in and rushes the week before school starts. It is a pretty big state school in the south.

[Anonymous]

Alabama?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any moms stay at hotel while daughter goes thru Rush? DD moves in and rushes the week before school starts. It is a pretty big state school in the south.

Freshman shouldn’t be allowed to pledge a frat or a sorority.

[Anonymous]

What a miserable way to start school.
Instead of focusing on meeting everyone and starting classes, your first week is spent desperately trying to win the approval of total strangers, and in some cases, outright rejection.

Schools should be required to delay rush to spring semester or sophomore year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a miserable way to start school.
Instead of focusing on meeting everyone and starting classes, your first week is spent desperately trying to win the approval of total strangers, and in some cases, outright rejection.

Schools should be required to delay rush to spring semester or sophomore year.

I agree with this. I have a friend who is obsessing with her daughter on wardrobe already. It's crazy.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not what college is supposed to be about.

[Anonymous]

Is your DD a legacy at a top tier house?

[Anonymous]

Gross. No.

[Anonymous]

OP - are you saying your kid moves into her dorm and rushes week one ... and you are thinking of staying in a hotel that week?

Parents should go home as soon as they are in their dorm room. Do not linger whether it is for rush, orientation or first day of classes.

[Anonymous]

Why would you send your daughter away to college if you're not capable of actually being away from her?

This would be a prime example of helicoptering.

[Anonymous]

OP this is the absolute worst forum to ask. Sorry but DCUM is pretty anti-Greek and won’t give you the correct answer. At a large SEC school you will not be out of place staying for the week at a nearby hotel. Recruitment is stressful and she may want/need to get away (and since she is an out of state girl she isn’t goibg to have the “perfect rush” so you may need to remind her that , because of restrictions on the number of bids each sorority can extend, many groups have to make some tough membership decisions before they even meet her, and an out of state girl is an “easy call” to release because she likely has fewer ties to the area and fewer local alums who would be upset by it) But remind her to keep an open mind and just be her friendly fun self and she’ll be fine. And on bid day you’ll want to be there to hug her and tell her how excited you are for her. Northern and mid-Atlantic women will think this is absurd but it’s the norm on a big southern campus...and many groups will invite parents in to see the house on bid day.
Go to greekchat dot com to ask questions of helpful pro-Greek alums if you want real answers. Just don’t include any info about your DD that would identify her in any way. Good luck and I hope your DD has a great rush!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP this is the absolute worst forum to ask. Sorry but DCUM is pretty anti-Greek and won’t give you the correct answer. At a large SEC school you will not be out of place staying for the week at a nearby hotel. Recruitment is stressful and she may want/need to get away (and since she is an out of state girl she isn’t goibg to have the “perfect rush” so you may need to remind her that , because of restrictions on the number of bids each sorority can extend, many groups have to make some tough membership decisions before they even meet her, and an out of state girl is an “easy call” to release because she likely has fewer ties to the area and fewer local alums who would be upset by it) But remind her to keep an open mind and just be her friendly fun self and she’ll be fine. And on bid day you’ll want to be there to hug her and tell her how excited you are for her. Northern and mid-Atlantic women will think this is absurd but it’s the norm on a big southern campus...and many groups will invite parents in to see the house on bid day.
Go to greekchat dot com to ask questions of helpful pro-Greek alums if you want real answers. Just don’t include any info about your DD that would identify her in any way. Good luck and I hope your DD has a great rush!

This is just appalling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP this is the absolute worst forum to ask. Sorry but DCUM is pretty anti-Greek and won’t give you the correct answer. At a large SEC school you will not be out of place staying for the week at a nearby hotel. Recruitment is stressful and she may want/need to get away (and since she is an out of state girl she isn’t goibg to have the “perfect rush” so you may need to remind her that , because of restrictions on the number of bids each sorority can extend, many groups have to make some tough membership decisions before they even meet her, and an out of state girl is an “easy call” to release because she likely has fewer ties to the area and fewer local alums who would be upset by it) But remind her to keep an open mind and just be her friendly fun self and she’ll be fine. And on bid day you’ll want to be there to hug her and tell her how excited you are for her. Northern and mid-Atlantic women will think this is absurd but it’s the norm on a big southern campus...and many groups will invite parents in to see the house on bid day.
Go to greekchat dot com to ask questions of helpful pro-Greek alums if you want real answers. Just don’t include any info about your DD that would identify her in any way. Good luck and I hope your DD has a great rush!

This is just appalling.

Appalling that you don’t understand the process? NP but what’s so bad about a mom who offers support to her daughter? I assume the “perfect rush” refers to one who goes through the whole week being invited back by every group because every group wants her to join. This is rare. And do you think if 1500 women sogn up to join a sorority, they can all just pick the same one? How would the other groups survive?? How do you have a 1500-person new member group?? Sorry you don’t understand that there is a process (or maybe just don’t like that there is one) but OP didn’t come here to ask if her daughter should join a sorority or if you approve. She just asked if staying in a hotel was something other parents do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP this is the absolute worst forum to ask. Sorry but DCUM is pretty anti-Greek and won’t give you the correct answer. At a large SEC school you will not be out of place staying for the week at a nearby hotel. Recruitment is stressful and she may want/need to get away (and since she is an out of state girl she isn’t goibg to have the “perfect rush” so you may need to remind her that , because of restrictions on the number of bids each sorority can extend, many groups have to make some tough membership decisions before they even meet her, and an out of state girl is an “easy call” to release because she likely has fewer ties to the area and fewer local alums who would be upset by it) But remind her to keep an open mind and just be her friendly fun self and she’ll be fine. And on bid day you’ll want to be there to hug her and tell her how excited you are for her. Northern and mid-Atlantic women will think this is absurd but it’s the norm on a big southern campus...and many groups will invite parents in to see the house on bid day.
Go to greekchat dot com to ask questions of helpful pro-Greek alums if you want real answers. Just don’t include any info about your DD that would identify her in any way. Good luck and I hope your DD has a great rush!

This is just appalling.

Agree -- gag

[Anonymous]

For all of those commenting with negativity - If you don't like the idea of sororities, you don't have to go through recruitment! No one cares about your anti-Greek bias. If you can't offer help to OP then just move along and go to another thread where you can talk about your amazing kids who are saving the world.

For anyone who is familiar with SEC schools (especially schools like Alabama), it is common for mothers to stay for support during what can be a very difficult process (especially for those coming from out of state). It would be nice for your daughter to have a place to go to where she can let her emotions out and where she can truly relax. Also, make sure she has all of her recs completed or she will be immediately released from most houses. Best of luck to your DD.....for people who have experienced Greek life, it can be such a rewarding experience filled with new friends and a chance to make a difference (lots of opportunities for community service). Let us know how it goes!