Sorority Rush

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can’t stand organized groups that exclude people. It is s symptom of what is wrong in the US today. We need more inclusion and less exclusion.

If you go into formal recruitment prepared with letters of rec to most houses + an open mind and a good attitude, and follow the rules and recommendations, it’s very probable you will get a bid somewhere. Some schools even have it so that if you do everything correctly with regards to rankings and attending events, that you are guaranteed a bid! It’s hardly super-exclusive apart from a few top chapters at every college.

[Anonymous]

I would love to find a way to be more open minded, but this all sounds like a horrible way to spend my hard earned dollars.

It is hard enough for us to pay for college and to give our kids a good start toward a professional career. Wasting money on an activity that diverts effort from that...

Sounds crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone end up not getting a bid at all?

Just curious how all this works.

. Of course, happens all the time and more often than the proponents here like to think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can’t stand organized groups that exclude people. It is s symptom of what is wrong in the US today. We need more inclusion and less exclusion.

It usually doesn't exclude totally though. Don't all girls end up with a bid somewhere? It might not be your first choice but that's life. No one is friends with everyone and you can't expect every person to like you and want to spend time with you.

Actually, it does totally exclude some.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can’t stand organized groups that exclude people. It is s symptom of what is wrong in the US today. We need more inclusion and less exclusion.

If you go into formal recruitment prepared with letters of rec to most houses + an open mind and a good attitude, and follow the rules and recommendations, it’s very probable you will get a bid somewhere. Some schools even have it so that if you do everything correctly with regards to rankings and attending events, that you are guaranteed a bid! It’s hardly super-exclusive apart from a few top chapters at every college.

What =ever makes you sleep at night, it is still exclusion.

[Anonymous]

My parents did not stay. They basically dropped me off, told me they loved me, and headed home. But I’m 51 years old. I’m sure things have changed.

/Tri-Delt, Ole Miss

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to find a way to be more open minded, but this all sounds like a horrible way to spend my hard earned dollars.

It is hard enough for us to pay for college and to give our kids a good start toward a professional career. Wasting money on an activity that diverts effort from that...

Sounds crazy.

and privileged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can’t stand organized groups that exclude people. It is s symptom of what is wrong in the US today. We need more inclusion and less exclusion.

If you go into formal recruitment prepared with letters of rec to most houses + an open mind and a good attitude, and follow the rules and recommendations, it’s very probable you will get a bid somewhere. Some schools even have it so that if you do everything correctly with regards to rankings and attending events, that you are guaranteed a bid! It’s hardly super-exclusive apart from a few top chapters at every college.

What =ever makes you sleep at night, it is still exclusion.

You sure are upset about this even though you have multiple posters on here explaining how it’s a mutual selection process designed to be the most fair and efficient for both the houses and the rushees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can’t stand organized groups that exclude people. It is s symptom of what is wrong in the US today. We need more inclusion and less exclusion.

wait until you find out about the real world...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it common to rush sororities at SEC schools freshman year? I wanted DD to look at Alabama and South Carolina for the scholarships. I was kind of hoping that the Honors Colleges would provide community.

My daughter goes to Alabama and found great community in the honors college. She says there was a good mix of girls in the program who did not rush and who did rush...and of those who rushed, they tended to go for a certain few sororities who were known to be home to more of the academic smart types...other sororities there definitely attract the Southern Belle pageant type and don't really even consider Northerners in the first place (and even if a northerner did, they wouldn't fit in. So they usually don't aspire to them anyway.)

My daughter went thru rush, got a bid, but decided she wasn't into it. It does not appear to have hindered her ability to form community.

[Anonymous]

Any insight about rush at universities not in the DEC/deep south?

I rushed at UVa in the 80s and while there was definitely a pipeline of girls coming from Richmond prep schools and boarding schools who seemed to already know where they were going to pledge when they moved in first year., there were still girls like me, from DC, who got bids from what were considered the most elite houses (which were called the triple crown, gah)!

With social media et all, is it even worse, with so much of this is predecided... is a bit of a drag from kids who want to start over in college (like I did).

[Anonymous]

... sorry, SEC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can’t stand organized groups that exclude people. It is s symptom of what is wrong in the US today. We need more inclusion and less exclusion.

If you go into formal recruitment prepared with letters of rec to most houses + an open mind and a good attitude, and follow the rules and recommendations, it’s very probable you will get a bid somewhere. Some schools even have it so that if you do everything correctly with regards to rankings and attending events, that you are guaranteed a bid! It’s hardly super-exclusive apart from a few top chapters at every college.

What =ever makes you sleep at night, it is still exclusion.

You know this is optional and the girls rushing are making decisions too, right? They cross houses of their list too as they get to know each one better. They’re not victims.

[Anonymous]

I don’t care if things are exclusive. Everything is, from the hybrid only parking spots to the senior menu at ihop.

What bothers me is that sorority recruitment is entirely superficial. Getting a bid is based on your outfit, your face, your body, and a few rushed conversations. They want to know if you will look good in their pictures and if they can spend spring break at your daddy’s estate in Miami. There’s simply no time for the consideration of genuine character or personality. Rec letters? Most of them come from someone who has never even met the girl. It’s all such a facade, and it’s held up as such a prize on most campuses that our girls are willing to subject themselves to the process to avoid being left out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care if things are exclusive. Everything is, from the hybrid only parking spots to the senior menu at ihop.

What bothers me is that sorority recruitment is entirely superficial. Getting a bid is based on your outfit, your face, your body, and a few rushed conversations. They want to know if you will look good in their pictures and if they can spend spring break at your daddy’s estate in Miami. There’s simply no time for the consideration of genuine character or personality. Rec letters? Most of them come from someone who has never even met the girl. It’s all such a facade, and it’s held up as such a prize on most campuses that our girls are willing to subject themselves to the process to avoid being left out.

It can be that way, but its the times when you make real connections that stick with you. My first time rushing as an active, I still remember the funny girl I picked up at the door second round; we just clicked had a great, authentic conversation and as she relaxed, she also connected with other girls in the house. She ended up becoming a great friend and a wonderful sister.