Do you know anyone with one kid who wanted just one kid?

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know with one kid had secondary fertility issues. A lot of people I know with two kids of course don’t regret the second but are getting their ass kicked and have admitted to feeling like they “should” have more then one as opposed to “want”. When I think about a family with one kid there are so many perks, I wonder why more people don’t make this choice. Do you know many families with an only on purpose? What’s their dynamic like? why do you think more people don’t make this choice?

[Anonymous]

Yes.

I don't know many people with just one kid, but I specifically remember a mom with a daughter in my son's gymnastics class (this was a LONG time ago. My son is 19 now, and he was probably 4 or 5 at the time of the class.) I had 3 boys at the time (I ended up having another boy!) and I remember her smirking and then saying "I have just one daughter, which is exactly what I wanted."

So, good for her!

[Anonymous]

I am 44 and have one daughter because that’s all we wanted. She’s 13 and we are a happy family of three.

[Anonymous]

My sister.

[Anonymous]

19:37 here again. I’ve often felt that having an only child is sort of like having it all. We have enough time to be good parents, good spouses, and take care of ourselves as well as have friends. I’m actually not sure why people choose to have more than one so regularly. I am not close with my siblings and neither is my husband.

[Anonymous]

I’m pretty sure yes. But I never asked if they had secondary infertility. Based on personalities or other info though, I assume they were one and done.

[Anonymous]

No, and that includes my mother and several of my friends.

[Anonymous]

I wonder the same about childless couples but obviously no one can ask.

[Anonymous]

I know several. Usually older couples who went from wanting no children to wanting one.

[Anonymous]

Yes I know tons of people who were one and done.

[Anonymous]

Several. Myself included. I don't know anyone with 2 that wished they had 1. I know a couple with 3 or 4 who wished the stopped earlier.

[Anonymous]

Me me me!! I've always wanted to be a mom, but to only 1 kid. Very happy with my choice.

[Anonymous]

Meeeee!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:19:37 here again. I’ve often felt that having an only child is sort of like having it all. We have enough time to be good parents, good spouses, and take care of ourselves as well as have friends. I’m actually not sure why people choose to have more than one so regularly. I am not close with my siblings and neither is my husband.

1000%. I joke that it’s the ultimate life hack

[Anonymous]

Me as well! Had her relatively young (31)