I had our DC at age 42. Would have liked one more but had a hard time transitioning to parenthood and were concerned about the risks. Now wish we had. Likely would have caused financial stressors. |
Had my son at 27. He’s now 5 and life is awesome. You couldn’t pay me to add another. (Well, maybe if you paid me enough to fully fund #2’s college so I didn’t have to stress about that!) |
One is a lot more work in
Other ways. Especially for my shy only, weekends are exhausting to set up play dates and entertain her. We wanted only one and it’s the biggest regret of my life that we didn’t try immediately for a second. I’m too d for it now. Have two if you can. |
How old is she, a toddler? We have a shy only, and have not found the weekends to be exhausting, especially now in elementary. If you find the weekends to be exhausting with one, you might find them even more exhausting with two young kids. |
Me. I'm not good with kids, including my own, but DH threatened to leave unless we had one. So we had one. |
+1. To listen to me talk you'd think that I have one by choice. I'm not telling people about the 5 IVFs, 3 miscarriages, and river of tears. It's not their business. |
She is 6. It’s gotten harder the Older she is. I’m not saying two wouldn’t be exhausting but seripuslynif you are considering a second, do it now and just get through the early years. |
What the hell...that's crazy. You should have been the one to leave your husband! |
Kids are really different. We have a shy/introverted only who LOVE his quiet alone time/downtime. Weekends with him are quite relaxing. I sometimes think that he's lucky he's an only because I suspect a sibling would drive him insane! "Have two if you can" is advice that only makes sense if you know exactly what kind of kid you're going to end up with. |
Wow. This is really smart, and helpful. Thank you. |
yeah me I only want my son |
My dad. My parents were both 23 when I was born and my dad never wanted any more. I have a feeling even the one kid was as a concession to my mom. It eats my mom up inside, she is the kind of person who wanted 5 kids. It's really sad. |
Same here. We needed 3 years of various infertility treatments before DD was born. Now after a loss and 2 failed FETs in the past year -- barring a miracle, we are done. With the exception of our parents, people think we are one and done by choice. I'm so sick of being asked why I don't want to give my DD a sibling, like people just assume that all you have to do is blink and become pregnant. We tried. It didn't work. |
Is this the woman who had one kid she didn’t want and then adopted a second kid she didn’t want? Haven’t seen you on here in a while! |