Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.

I had an affair similar to OP's. The man I was with controlled the money entirely and the wife had no idea he was spending upwards of $70k on an affair with a 20 year old while she was put on a tight leash financially. She had no idea how much was coming in or going out. It is certainly possible to hide that much and more if your income and spouse's involvement in your finances allow it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My theory: OP is having an affair with a married man but it looks very different from what is being described. He pays for things here and there and decided it would be easier or more prudent to keep an apartment. It's not particularly nice but it does the job. He decides the when and where. He does not take OP on trips or cruises. He is not devoted to his wife or OP or anyone else for that matter. OP wants to believe she is the object of affection and avoids thinking about certain realities to allow this belief to continue. She knows deep down that she wasn't and won't be chosen. She wants to hate the wife but that would feel too desperate. So, she plays the mistress who is too cool to care. The problem is that she has no audience. She can't be too cool to care with her boyfriend -- he might lose interest. She can't be too cool to care with the wife -- the wife doesn't know she exists and that would blow the whole thing up if she did. The solution: post an anonymous story on a board whose audience looks strikingly similar to the intended audience. Maybe even post a few angry responses to make it look controversial. Then, do whatever you can to prolong the thread – give tidbits of information to add mystery. Then, when the thread does go on, accuse the married women of paranoia. You are their darkest fear, after all. That’s right, if the wife only knew, her neat little life would be disrupted and he would realize that you are all he ever really wanted. But, OP, you’re way too cool to care about any of that. Right?

Wow, you have quite the active imagination. Not OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My theory: OP is having an affair with a married man but it looks very different from what is being described. He pays for things here and there and decided it would be easier or more prudent to keep an apartment. It's not particularly nice but it does the job. He decides the when and where. He does not take OP on trips or cruises. He is not devoted to his wife or OP or anyone else for that matter. OP wants to believe she is the object of affection and avoids thinking about certain realities to allow this belief to continue. She knows deep down that she wasn't and won't be chosen. She wants to hate the wife but that would feel too desperate. So, she plays the mistress who is too cool to care. The problem is that she has no audience. She can't be too cool to care with her boyfriend -- he might lose interest. She can't be too cool to care with the wife -- the wife doesn't know she exists and that would blow the whole thing up if she did. The solution: post an anonymous story on a board whose audience looks strikingly similar to the intended audience. Maybe even post a few angry responses to make it look controversial. Then, do whatever you can to prolong the thread – give tidbits of information to add mystery. Then, when the thread does go on, accuse the married women of paranoia. You are their darkest fear, after all. That’s right, if the wife only knew, her neat little life would be disrupted and he would realize that you are all he ever really wanted. But, OP, you’re way too cool to care about any of that. Right?

Wow, you have quite the active imagination. Not OP.

I agree. It was a nice try, but why even bother? There are plenty of affairs that look exactly like the one OP portrayed. Why do you think she is making it up?

[Anonymous]

why is a 24 year old "kept woman" with no kids posting on a site called DC Urban Moms and Dads?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why is a 24 year old "kept woman" with no kids posting on a site called DC Urban Moms and Dads?

To enlighten bitches like you. Be grateful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.

If you don't really look at statements and the bills, how do you know whether there are any errors or fraudulent charges? Come on, ladies, pay attention! Someday, chances are, you will need to take care of these matters yourself. Most women outlive their husbands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why is a 24 year old "kept woman" with no kids posting on a site called DC Urban Moms and Dads?

tutors kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why is a 24 year old "kept woman" with no kids posting on a site called DC Urban Moms and Dads?

tutors kids.

No, she doesn't.

I don't think she's coming back.

I'm ticked off at all the nasty posters that scared her away. This was the best AMA.

[Anonymous]

^ no it wasn't. She was barely answering.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it was necessarily the name callers that drove her away but more the ones her were bringing up inconsistencies in her story. Some of her facts weren't adding up, etc. Maybe some of the "detectives" on here were getting a little too close to her true identity. Maybe she simply feels better and isn't at home on her computer now. Maybe her boyfriend has whisked her away on some exotic trip....uh, ya.

[Anonymous]

No. Some of you were ganging up on her. Go tend to your husband's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My theory: OP is having an affair with a married man but it looks very different from what is being described. He pays for things here and there and decided it would be easier or more prudent to keep an apartment. It's not particularly nice but it does the job. He decides the when and where. He does not take OP on trips or cruises. He is not devoted to his wife or OP or anyone else for that matter. OP wants to believe she is the object of affection and avoids thinking about certain realities to allow this belief to continue. She knows deep down that she wasn't and won't be chosen. She wants to hate the wife but that would feel too desperate. So, she plays the mistress who is too cool to care. The problem is that she has no audience. She can't be too cool to care with her boyfriend -- he might lose interest. She can't be too cool to care with the wife -- the wife doesn't know she exists and that would blow the whole thing up if she did. The solution: post an anonymous story on a board whose audience looks strikingly similar to the intended audience. Maybe even post a few angry responses to make it look controversial. Then, do whatever you can to prolong the thread – give tidbits of information to add mystery. Then, when the thread does go on, accuse the married women of paranoia. You are their darkest fear, after all. That’s right, if the wife only knew, her neat little life would be disrupted and he would realize that you are all he ever really wanted. But, OP, you’re way too cool to care about any of that. Right?

Wow, you have quite the active imagination. Not OP.

I agree. It was a nice try, but why even bother? There are plenty of affairs that look exactly like the one OP portrayed. Why do you think she is making it up?

While we have no way of verifying OPs particular account, her story is plausible - especially in this area. Just read the WaPo long enough or attend enough DC events to meet the usual suspects, and you will see what I mean.

Those appalled by this thread are in denial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.

If you don't really look at statements and the bills, how do you know whether there are any errors or fraudulent charges? Come on, ladies, pay attention! Someday, chances are, you will need to take care of these matters yourself. Most women outlive their husbands.

You have time for anal nitpicking like that?? I don't. Not many do I believe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.

If you don't really look at statements and the bills, how do you know whether there are any errors or fraudulent charges? Come on, ladies, pay attention! Someday, chances are, you will need to take care of these matters yourself. Most women outlive their husbands.

You have time for anal nitpicking like that?? I don't. Not many do I believe.

So, you could be missing $2800 every month and not know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.

If you don't really look at statements and the bills, how do you know whether there are any errors or fraudulent charges? Come on, ladies, pay attention! Someday, chances are, you will need to take care of these matters yourself. Most women outlive their husbands.

You have time for anal nitpicking like that?? I don't. Not many do I believe.

I can't ever see myself so rich, so indifferent that I would allow 70K of our hard earned money to (poof!) vanish, disappear and not even be aware of it. I would be ashamed to be so careless. It's nothing to brag about..