Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

[Anonymous]

Donald Sterling anyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Some of you were ganging up on her. Go tend to your husband's.

Do you think people should be supportive of the Op's lifestyle? "Go for it giirrrlll!!" Come on, the Op knew from the get go that she wasn't going to be applauded for being a "kept woman". She knew that her story was going to be controversial. Even so, most of the posters seem more interested in setting her straight than bashing her.

[Anonymous]

Troll.
1. Not plausible that her normal, caring parents would not drill down on her job situation. You don't have to be helicopter parents to wonder why your college grad kid with a interior design major never got a FT job in the field and yet drives an Audi and lives in a 2 br apt in an expensive city.
2. Not plausible that she doesn't want kids and yet one of her weekly volunteer gigs involves kids. Sorry - just not believable at all.
3. She said the person who guessed DH was an expert witness in the mental health field was wrong, but then when a pp was confused about how an interior design major could have met him at a college lecture, she said it was a psych class outside her major or some such response but missing the opportunity to shoot down the mental health theory.
4. Not plausible that a guy goes on a cruise on the other side of the continent when construction is being done at home with kids there. (Speaking as someone in the middle of a reno.)
5. She screwed up on the annual payment answer. No one forgets getting all their rent for the year vs quarterly.
6. She screwed up on the answer about getting cut off. She said she'd be happy to get a full time job and carry on as is, and yet she doesn't love him and this whole thing is about being kept. Not plausible that if she was no longer "kept" that she would continue on.

Have I missed any?

[Anonymous]

I think it awesome. The Japanese handle marriage much better than us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why is a 24 year old "kept woman" with no kids posting on a site called DC Urban Moms and Dads?

To enlighten bitches like you. Be grateful.

See, this is one of the big reasons OP's story doesn't add up. She doesn't want to educate us bitches. I am actually curious what makes someone like OP tick. Why come onto DCUM, introduce yourself as the sort of person most DCUMs would find morally offensive and then . . . tell us you have a cute cockapoo? For the interesting hard questions, she either didn't answer or gave "yes" or "no" answers without further explanation. What's the motivation? OP has clearly portrayed herself as a carefree, non-introspective person who is apathetic toward her boyfriend's family. So, she has no desire to educate the wife and no interest in exploring her own reasons for making the choices she has. But she wants to tell DCUM about her cockapoo. Unless this is some psych student is messing with us, I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Some of you were ganging up on her. Go tend to your husband's.

Do you think people should be supportive of the Op's lifestyle? "Go for it giirrrlll!!" Come on, the Op knew from the get go that she wasn't going to be applauded for being a "kept woman". She knew that her story was going to be controversial. Even so, most of the posters seem more interested in setting her straight than bashing her.

Seriously. I haven't said anything mean to the OP, but I find it hilarious that some PPs are shocked -- SHOCKED -- that many posters find the OP to be offense. OP knows her behavior is offensive, which is why she started an AMA thread about it.

Are people supposed to be applauding her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll.
1. Not plausible that her normal, caring parents would not drill down on her job situation. You don't have to be helicopter parents to wonder why your college grad kid with a interior design major never got a FT job in the field and yet drives an Audi and lives in a 2 br apt in an expensive city.
2. Not plausible that she doesn't want kids and yet one of her weekly volunteer gigs involves kids. Sorry - just not believable at all.
3. She said the person who guessed DH was an expert witness in the mental health field was wrong, but then when a pp was confused about how an interior design major could have met him at a college lecture, she said it was a psych class outside her major or some such response but missing the opportunity to shoot down the mental health theory.
4. Not plausible that a guy goes on a cruise on the other side of the continent when construction is being done at home with kids there. (Speaking as someone in the middle of a reno.)
5. She screwed up on the annual payment answer. No one forgets getting all their rent for the year vs quarterly.
6. She screwed up on the answer about getting cut off. She said she'd be happy to get a full time job and carry on as is, and yet she doesn't love him and this whole thing is about being kept. Not plausible that if she was no longer "kept" that she would continue on.

Have I missed any?

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why is a 24 year old "kept woman" with no kids posting on a site called DC Urban Moms and Dads?

tutors kids.

No, she doesn't.

I don't think she's coming back.

I'm ticked off at all the nasty posters that scared her away. This was the best AMA.

It appears that she did post last night at 21:08

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Some of you were ganging up on her. Go tend to your husband's.

Do you think people should be supportive of the Op's lifestyle? "Go for it giirrrlll!!" Come on, the Op knew from the get go that she wasn't going to be applauded for being a "kept woman". She knew that her story was going to be controversial. Even so, most of the posters seem more interested in setting her straight than bashing her.

Seriously. I haven't said anything mean to the OP, but I find it hilarious that some PPs are shocked -- SHOCKED -- that many posters find the OP to be offense. OP knows her behavior is offensive, which is why she started an AMA thread about it.

Are people supposed to be applauding her?

You clearly know the difference between finding a behavior offensive and attacking the person. Nice try on the applause point, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Some of you were ganging up on her. Go tend to your husband's.

Do you think people should be supportive of the Op's lifestyle? "Go for it giirrrlll!!" Come on, the Op knew from the get go that she wasn't going to be applauded for being a "kept woman". She knew that her story was going to be controversial. Even so, most of the posters seem more interested in setting her straight than bashing her.

Seriously. I haven't said anything mean to the OP, but I find it hilarious that some PPs are shocked -- SHOCKED -- that many posters find the OP to be offense. OP knows her behavior is offensive, which is why she started an AMA thread about it.

Are people supposed to be applauding her?

It is that they seem so threatened by it that they are trying to extract some remorse from her, or prove to her that she is damaged. It telegraphs that the posters are somehow threatened by this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I really don't see how someone who makes less than 1 million dollars a year (and thats at the min) can afford to support another person entirely. By the time you pay for all your cars, your house, your retirement, your wife and childrens needs, your vacations, etc to have enough left over for a.) to support someone entirely b.) without your wife realizing another 70k or so net is gone seems so unlikely.

My husband makes about $1M. I am sure he does not have a mistress that he supports and we have a very happy marriage, but to answer this question, I do not pay close enough attention to our finances that I would notice if $70K or so was "missing." I am the one who goes through the mail and opens the bank statements and credit card bills, but I don't really look at them. When you have a lot of money, it is easy not to pay attention to the details. I would not have realized this before having a high HHI. When I was young and poor, I knew where every penny of my money was.

If you don't really look at statements and the bills, how do you know whether there are any errors or fraudulent charges? Come on, ladies, pay attention! Someday, chances are, you will need to take care of these matters yourself. Most women outlive their husbands.

You have time for anal nitpicking like that?? I don't. Not many do I believe.

I can't ever see myself so rich, so indifferent that I would allow 70K of our hard earned money to (poof!) vanish, disappear and not even be aware of it. I would be ashamed to be so careless. It's nothing to brag about..

My DH makes about $3M annually. All the money goes straight into one bank account through direct deposit. From there, I pay all bills and handle all investments. My DH has no interest in any financial matters and expects me to handle it all. We do have an accountant and financial advisor, but the decisions are ultimately mine. Believe me, while I don't go through credit card statements, etc., with a fine tooth comb, I definitely scan them for errors and fraud. It is irresponsible not to, no matter what your income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Some of you were ganging up on her. Go tend to your husband's.

Do you think people should be supportive of the Op's lifestyle? "Go for it giirrrlll!!" Come on, the Op knew from the get go that she wasn't going to be applauded for being a "kept woman". She knew that her story was going to be controversial. Even so, most of the posters seem more interested in setting her straight than bashing her.

Seriously. I haven't said anything mean to the OP, but I find it hilarious that some PPs are shocked -- SHOCKED -- that many posters find the OP to be offense. OP knows her behavior is offensive, which is why she started an AMA thread about it.

Are people supposed to be applauding her?

It is that they seem so threatened by it that they are trying to extract some remorse from her, or prove to her that she is damaged. It telegraphs that the posters are somehow threatened by this.

No, it telegraphs that the posters are alarmed for this woman. Seriously. There is no jealousy. None of us want to be in her shoes. It's sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My theory: OP is having an affair with a married man but it looks very different from what is being described. He pays for things here and there and decided it would be easier or more prudent to keep an apartment. It's not particularly nice but it does the job. He decides the when and where. He does not take OP on trips or cruises. He is not devoted to his wife or OP or anyone else for that matter. OP wants to believe she is the object of affection and avoids thinking about certain realities to allow this belief to continue. She knows deep down that she wasn't and won't be chosen. She wants to hate the wife but that would feel too desperate. So, she plays the mistress who is too cool to care. The problem is that she has no audience. She can't be too cool to care with her boyfriend -- he might lose interest. She can't be too cool to care with the wife -- the wife doesn't know she exists and that would blow the whole thing up if she did. The solution: post an anonymous story on a board whose audience looks strikingly similar to the intended audience. Maybe even post a few angry responses to make it look controversial. Then, do whatever you can to prolong the thread – give tidbits of information to add mystery. Then, when the thread does go on, accuse the married women of paranoia. You are their darkest fear, after all. That’s right, if the wife only knew, her neat little life would be disrupted and he would realize that you are all he ever really wanted. But, OP, you’re way too cool to care about any of that. Right?

I think this is spot on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Some of you were ganging up on her. Go tend to your husband's.

Go review your lessons on apostrophe usage.

[Anonymous]

I found it weird that she would have a cockapoo (a "new," "designer" dog) and yet would also volunteer for a dog rescue organization, who are typically against designer breeds. If you care so much about rescuing pets from shelters so they won't die, why did you waste your $$ and time buying a designer breed? Why didn't you adopt one from a rescue org. or a shelter?