Asking someone out at work
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Anonymous
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Guy here. There is a woman who I know is interested at work and I've toyed around with the idea of asking her out. I work in an office environment and she works in a different part of the building that I have to walk by in order to get to the cafeteria. She works for the health insurance company we get our health insurance from, so I feel like that does help that she at least doesn't work for the same company. If things didn't work out, I'd have the option of avoiding walking to this part of the building if I wanted to, but I'd hope we could be mature enough to be civil in time.
Still, something is telling me to avoid anything with someone at work. It's nice to have the separation between work and home life. However, I don't have a lot of other good options and am generally stuck with meeting people online, which isn't so great. What have been your experiences with dating people you've met at work? |
Anonymous
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Don't poop where you eat.
That was true even before #MeToo. |
Anonymous
Reader, I married him. |
Anonymous
| Most of the people I know who are married met their spouses at work or through work. I say go for it. You must already feel some kind of chemistry. |
Anonymous
| Think ahead to when you break up...how will that go? |
Anonymous
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OP here. Yes, we do have chemistry. She lights up when I stop to talk to her. She invited me to something over Christmas that we never ended up doing. Again, if she worked much closer to my area where I'd be forced to interact with her everyday, I wouldn't even be considering it. But I don't have to interact with her at all if I didn't take a certain route through the building.
I think about all of the big government agencies and think about how many romances must blossom between staff and contractors all working for different companies throughout a massive building. I will probably go ahead with it, but appreciate any other advice here. When it comes down to it, especially in today's world, where do you come across the most new people in your life? Work. It's either work or online dating or some sort of sports club or through friends. So if you find someone, you just kind of have to go for it. BTW -- I've always preferred the don't dip your pen into company ink line. Cracks me up every time. |
Anonymous
| Don't do it! Big mistake. |
Anonymous
| If the only people you come across are from work, you need to get out more. |
Anonymous
| I think it’s fine to ask her out, but only if you’re sincere about trying out a relationship with her. If you’re most likely going to sleep with her and then dump her, don’t do it. Either way, proceed with caution. |
Anonymous
| I usually advise against work relationships due to lawsuits, but she doesn’t even work for your company, just in your building? And she already asked you out once? She’s waiting for you to make a move. It seems fine. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| You don't work for the same company so no issue. I met my DH at work but we didn't date for three years and I feel I wasted three years. If you really like her just go for it. |
Anonymous
| Are you really that much of a loser that you can only meet potential dates at work? |
Anonymous
| go ahead. she is not even with the same co. i don't know what you got to lose... |
Anonymous
I don’t understand this mentality at all. Other than my house, the place I spend the most time is work, with a thousand other people. Why would I automatically rule all of them out? Obviously not people in my company/I work with directly, but there are plenty of others in the same building. Seems like a great strategy if you like being alone. |
Anonymous
| Ask her out! |