Asking someone out at work

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy at work and our offices were about 50 feet apart. No one knew about it for about six months until someone spotted us holding hands while we were in a different city. It was a bit awkward once the word got out but most people were happy for us as they thought we were perfect for each other. We've been happily married for over 34 years. We were friends for a year or so before we started dating and that made things much easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Come on guys, I'd be asking her out in the hopes of dating and with luck, eventual relationship. This is not a guy trying to hit on a girl at a bar slapping her ass or whatever and then pushing the edge with her consent when he takes her home as part of a one night stand.

This is a typical office romance that I'm considering.

OP, you are in the same building, not company. She obviously likes you, and you her. Be mature, ask her out, continue to be mature, and responsible, wear a condom, and if you guys break up deal with it like an adult.

I think it's OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Come on guys, I'd be asking her out in the hopes of dating and with luck, eventual relationship. This is not a guy trying to hit on a girl at a bar slapping her ass or whatever and then pushing the edge with her consent when he takes her home as part of a one night stand.

This is a typical office romance that I'm considering.

Yeah dude, and you are risking a typical office harassment complaint. It doesn't matter that she doesn't work for the same company, she can still complain to your HR department and they'd be obligated to take it seriously.

The one guy I personally know who got fired for harassment was not an ass-slapping, one-night stand seeker. He was a normal, decent guy who wanted a relationship with the woman who complained.

But, you do you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Come on guys, I'd be asking her out in the hopes of dating and with luck, eventual relationship. This is not a guy trying to hit on a girl at a bar slapping her ass or whatever and then pushing the edge with her consent when he takes her home as part of a one night stand.

This is a typical office romance that I'm considering.

Sounds to me like you're already convinced about giving it a shot so what are you asking strangers their opinions for?
You yourself see it as a novel idea so go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Come on guys, I'd be asking her out in the hopes of dating and with luck, eventual relationship. This is not a guy trying to hit on a girl at a bar slapping her ass or whatever and then pushing the edge with her consent when he takes her home as part of a one night stand.

This is a typical office romance that I'm considering.

Sounds to me like you're already convinced about giving it a shot so what are you asking strangers their opinions for?
You yourself see it as a novel idea so go for it.

His brain is telling him "don't do it" but his dick is telling him "go for it".

As with most men, the decision will be made by the dick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, we do have chemistry. She lights up when I stop to talk to her. She invited me to something over Christmas that we never ended up doing. Again, if she worked much closer to my area where I'd be forced to interact with her everyday, I wouldn't even be considering it. But I don't have to interact with her at all if I didn't take a certain route through the building.

I think about all of the big government agencies and think about how many romances must blossom between staff and contractors all working for different companies throughout a massive building.

I will probably go ahead with it, but appreciate any other advice here. When it comes down to it, especially in today's world, where do you come across the most new people in your life? Work. It's either work or online dating or some sort of sports club or through friends. So if you find someone, you just kind of have to go for it.

BTW -- I've always preferred the don't dip your pen into company ink line. Cracks me up every time.

I dated a few women at work (same job), married one and had three kids with her. Same company. They all gave me extremely clear signals. I’m not getting anything from your posts that you actually have any idea that she’ll be receptive. For all you know, she might have a boyfriend or have zero romantic interest in you. I’m not saying not to try. But have you done your due diligence? Many women “light up” when they generally like someone but that’s not a solid enough basis for taking the next step.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Come on guys, I'd be asking her out in the hopes of dating and with luck, eventual relationship. This is not a guy trying to hit on a girl at a bar slapping her ass or whatever and then pushing the edge with her consent when he takes her home as part of a one night stand.

This is a typical office romance that I'm considering.

Sounds to me like you're already convinced about giving it a shot so what are you asking strangers their opinions for?
You yourself see it as a novel idea so go for it.

His brain is telling him "don't do it" but his dick is telling him "go for it".

As with most men, the decision will be made by the dick.

At some point ñ, it has to be that way, though, for things to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Come on guys, I'd be asking her out in the hopes of dating and with luck, eventual relationship. This is not a guy trying to hit on a girl at a bar slapping her ass or whatever and then pushing the edge with her consent when he takes her home as part of a one night stand.

This is a typical office romance that I'm considering.

Sounds to me like you're already convinced about giving it a shot so what are you asking strangers their opinions for?
You yourself see it as a novel idea so go for it.

His brain is telling him "don't do it" but his dick is telling him "go for it".

As with most men, the decision will be made by the dick.

At some point ñ, it has to be that way, though, for things to happen.

LOL women always use their brain and never never ever think with their...what ever word that is dick equivalent. This is why all women are never concerned about another woman taking her man or woman.

[Anonymous]

You're fine to ask her out. Don't put her on the spot immediately, especially if she's walking with colleagues.

[Anonymous]

Gosh, you’ve gotten a lot of abuse for a simple question. By all means ask her out!!!

[Anonymous]

If she’s single and unattached just go for it. Don’t listen to the people who say don’t date someone you know through work becaus it could be awkward if you break up. Most people dated someone they went to college with and then broke up but survived the “same place” experience. FWIW, get rid of your dating insecurities as it doesn’t show well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she’s single and unattached just go for it. Don’t listen to the people who say don’t date someone you know through work becaus it could be awkward if you break up. Most people dated someone they went to college with and then broke up but survived the “same place” experience. FWIW, get rid of your dating insecurities as it doesn’t show well.

College isn't the same as the workplace, dummy.

Although it's getting there... you can be "fired" from college at the whim of a female, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she’s single and unattached just go for it. Don’t listen to the people who say don’t date someone you know through work becaus it could be awkward if you break up. Most people dated someone they went to college with and then broke up but survived the “same place” experience. FWIW, get rid of your dating insecurities as it doesn’t show well.

College isn't the same as the workplace, dummy.

Although it's getting there... you can be "fired" from college at the whim of a female, too.

Dating someone "you know through work" is different than dating someone "you work with". OP does not work with the person he is interested in but she is in the same office building.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she’s single and unattached just go for it. Don’t listen to the people who say don’t date someone you know through work becaus it could be awkward if you break up. Most people dated someone they went to college with and then broke up but survived the “same place” experience. FWIW, get rid of your dating insecurities as it doesn’t show well.

College isn't the same as the workplace, dummy.

Although it's getting there... you can be "fired" from college at the whim of a female, too.

Dating someone "you know through work" is different than dating someone "you work with". OP does not work with the person he is interested in but she is in the same office building.

Makes no difference. All she has to do is complain to his HR department, and he is toast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she’s single and unattached just go for it. Don’t listen to the people who say don’t date someone you know through work becaus it could be awkward if you break up. Most people dated someone they went to college with and then broke up but survived the “same place” experience. FWIW, get rid of your dating insecurities as it doesn’t show well.

College isn't the same as the workplace, dummy.

Although it's getting there... you can be "fired" from college at the whim of a female, too.

Dating someone "you know through work" is different than dating someone "you work with". OP does not work with the person he is interested in but she is in the same office building.

Makes no difference. All she has to do is complain to his HR department, and he is toast.

This is nonsense. OP's HR department is not going to respond to a non-employee's complaint. It ain't their problem.

And FWIW, asking for a date does not necessarily constitute harassment.