Asking someone out at work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really that much of a loser that you can only meet potential dates at work?

I don’t understand this mentality at all. Other than my house, the place I spend the most time is work, with a thousand other people. Why would I automatically rule all of them out?

Because you are supposed to be working not socializing, lusting, crushing, limmering, or any of that other nonsense that you are not being paid to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really that much of a loser that you can only meet potential dates at work?

I don’t understand this mentality at all. Other than my house, the place I spend the most time is work, with a thousand other people. Why would I automatically rule all of them out?

Because you are supposed to be working not socializing, lusting, crushing, limmering, or any of that other nonsense that you are not being paid to do.

Haha. It's possible to work, socialize and find love

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really that much of a loser that you can only meet potential dates at work?

I don’t understand this mentality at all. Other than my house, the place I spend the most time is work, with a thousand other people. Why would I automatically rule all of them out?

Because you are supposed to be working not socializing, lusting, crushing, limmering, or any of that other nonsense that you are not being paid to do.

Haha. It's possible to work, socialize and find love

I can respect the “you’re there to work not socialize” argument (even though I don’t agree exactly) but that’s different from the first PP who is suggesting that there’s something lame about meeting people at/through work. There isn’t. If you’re serious about wanting to meet people you should take advantage of all opportunities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really that much of a loser that you can only meet potential dates at work?

I don’t understand this mentality at all. Other than my house, the place I spend the most time is work, with a thousand other people. Why would I automatically rule all of them out?

Because you are supposed to be working not socializing, lusting, crushing, limmering, or any of that other nonsense that you are not being paid to do.

Haha. It's possible to work, socialize and find love

Not and give your employer an honest 8 hours a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really that much of a loser that you can only meet potential dates at work?

I don’t understand this mentality at all. Other than my house, the place I spend the most time is work, with a thousand other people. Why would I automatically rule all of them out?

Because you are supposed to be working not socializing, lusting, crushing, limmering, or any of that other nonsense that you are not being paid to do.

Haha. It's possible to work, socialize and find love

Not and give your employer an honest 8 hours a day.

A happy employee is a productive employee. Lighten up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really that much of a loser that you can only meet potential dates at work?

I don’t understand this mentality at all. Other than my house, the place I spend the most time is work, with a thousand other people. Why would I automatically rule all of them out?

Because you are supposed to be working not socializing, lusting, crushing, limmering, or any of that other nonsense that you are not being paid to do.

Haha. It's possible to work, socialize and find love

Not and give your employer an honest 8 hours a day.

A happy employee is a productive employee. Lighten up.

They're not paying you to be "happy". They're paying you to give them 8 hours of work. It is your responsibility, as an adult professional, to be productive even without goofing off to "socialize and find love".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really that much of a loser that you can only meet potential dates at work?

I don’t understand this mentality at all. Other than my house, the place I spend the most time is work, with a thousand other people. Why would I automatically rule all of them out?

Because you are supposed to be working not socializing, lusting, crushing, limmering, or any of that other nonsense that you are not being paid to do.

Haha. It's possible to work, socialize and find love

Not and give your employer an honest 8 hours a day.

A happy employee is a productive employee. Lighten up.

They're not paying you to be "happy". They're paying you to give them 8 hours of work. It is your responsibility, as an adult professional, to be productive even without goofing off to "socialize and find love".

My employer pays me for 7 hours of work, so cut it with the 8 hours crap. It doesn’t apply to everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really that much of a loser that you can only meet potential dates at work?

I don’t understand this mentality at all. Other than my house, the place I spend the most time is work, with a thousand other people. Why would I automatically rule all of them out?

Because you are supposed to be working not socializing, lusting, crushing, limmering, or any of that other nonsense that you are not being paid to do.

Haha. It's possible to work, socialize and find love

Not and give your employer an honest 8 hours a day.

A happy employee is a productive employee. Lighten up.

They're not paying you to be "happy". They're paying you to give them 8 hours of work. It is your responsibility, as an adult professional, to be productive even without goofing off to "socialize and find love".

Do you have Asperger's?

[Anonymous]

The "recent threads" page now has this thread, that we're in, plus a "Harassment in the office" thread.

Anyone have a story they are willing to tell? I think something that recently happened to me could be classified as sexual harassment but I don’t want to make a big deal of it because I work predominantly with men.

This is why you don't shit where you eat.

And yet idiots in this thread are all "don't be aspie, it's possible to work, socialize and find love!"

I repeat: do not shit where you eat.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Come on guys, I'd be asking her out in the hopes of dating and with luck, eventual relationship. This is not a guy trying to hit on a girl at a bar slapping her ass or whatever and then pushing the edge with her consent when he takes her home as part of a one night stand.

This is a typical office romance that I'm considering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really that much of a loser that you can only meet potential dates at work?

I don’t understand this mentality at all. Other than my house, the place I spend the most time is work, with a thousand other people. Why would I automatically rule all of them out?

Because you are supposed to be working not socializing, lusting, crushing, limmering, or any of that other nonsense that you are not being paid to do.

Haha. It's possible to work, socialize and find love

Not and give your employer an honest 8 hours a day.

Only the guys who do the least amount of work say things like this.

[Anonymous]

Wait, you work in the same building, for different employers? This shouldn't even be a question.

Ask her out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. There is a woman who I know is interested at work and I've toyed around with the idea of asking her out. I work in an office environment and she works in a different part of the building that I have to walk by in order to get to the cafeteria. She works for the health insurance company we get our health insurance from, so I feel like that does help that she at least doesn't work for the same company. If things didn't work out, I'd have the option of avoiding walking to this part of the building if I wanted to, but I'd hope we could be mature enough to be civil in time.

Still, something is telling me to avoid anything with someone at work. It's nice to have the separation between work and home life. However, I don't have a lot of other good options and am generally stuck with meeting people online, which isn't so great.

What have been your experiences with dating people you've met at work?

I got money says the experiences are no better or worse on average than strictly dating people from dating apps.
If there was a secret code or a sure-fire method to dating there wouldn't be so many people struggling to find someone to be with now would there?
Just roll the dice and try not to be a jerk and hope for the best dude it's all you can do.

[Anonymous]

If you date a break up and IF she decides to bad mouth you it WILL get to your employer.
Sure she is at a different company but your company is the client of her company.

It is very dangerous for any male these days. Be very careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. There is a woman who I know is interested at work and I've toyed around with the idea of asking her out. I work in an office environment and she works in a different part of the building that I have to walk by in order to get to the cafeteria. She works for the health insurance company we get our health insurance from, so I feel like that does help that she at least doesn't work for the same company. If things didn't work out, I'd have the option of avoiding walking to this part of the building if I wanted to, but I'd hope we could be mature enough to be civil in time.

Still, something is telling me to avoid anything with someone at work. It's nice to have the separation between work and home life. However, I don't have a lot of other good options and am generally stuck with meeting people online, which isn't so great.

What have been your experiences with dating people you've met at work?

17 years and two kids later, we're still happily married. We don't work together any more, though.