He proposed, I broke up with him because of zero intimacy
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We had been dating for 2 years. I don’t know how it even lasted that long. We attempted intimacy 5 times in 2 years . Unsuccessful every time. We spoke of this often, every month. He wouldn’t go to the doctor for help. On Tuesday evening we were talking about it again, and out of the blue he proposes! He told me that I have been so patient and stayed with him that he knows I love him. Which I do. But I can’t handle ZERO intimacy. I told him this and broke up with him. I’m heart broken, but know that I do not want to be in a sexless relationship.
He went home for Thanksgiving and I don’t know what the conversation was, but I received MANY nasty texts from his mother and sister. They said some very mean and hurtful things. I haven’t responded to any of the texts. Between the 2 of them, I gotten about 17 mean texts. What should I do? I hate that they think I’m this cold hearted person because they clearly don’t know the situation, nor is it any of their business. They think I turned down a proposal and kicked him out. |
Anonymous
| You dodged a bullet OP. |
Anonymous
| Block their numbers and email addresses. You don’t owe them an explanation. You did the right thing and for both you and your ex. Focus on your next steps. |
Anonymous
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You are entitled to a preference. Not be married to him is a preference.
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Anonymous
| One of two things: Block their number (which I would have done after the first nasty text) or tell them the truth (and then block their number so you don't get a reply.) |
Anonymous
| Just ignore them. They don’t know the whole story (and they shouldn’t!). Block their phone numbers from your phone. |
Anonymous
| Tell them after zero intimacy in two years you have concluded that he is is either gay or he doesn't want a complete marriage. |
Anonymous
| If you married that man, you would certainly regret it. |
Anonymous
Do not tell them the reason. That would be beyond cruel. Just block their numbers. |
Anonymous
This is mean. If you love this man, then you simply block their numbers and walk away. |
Anonymous
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F-them.
Tell them you’ve never been sexually intimate with their son/brother in 2 years. I’ve been patient and I love him, but I will not be in a sexless marriage. Then block them. |
Anonymous
Agree. As someone who is divorced (for different reasons) it is much better you broke it off now, then went through with a wedding and either lived miserably forever or broke it off after spending a zillion dollars on a party to celebrate marrying someone totally wrong for you. |
Anonymous
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I would take the middle ground to most of these pieces of advice.
I would text back to each person--"I adore your son/brother and he has a full understanding of the reason I am not able or willing to enter into a lifetime commitment with him and had no choice but to break off the relationship. Out of love and respect for his privacy, I do not feel it is my place to disclose this reason to you, but he is free to do so if he wishes for you to know the truth. I will truly miss him but know that this is the right decision for our futures...and I wish the best to all of you." And THEN block their numbers. |
Anonymous
| Are you in your 20s? 30s? And a guy in his 20s or 30s can’t get it up? What is wrong with men? |
Anonymous
He was cruel to blame to her. As Adele sang “Go 'head and sell me out and I'll lay your ship bare”. |