He proposed, I broke up with him because of zero intimacy

[Anonymous]

Am the only one who thinks it's kid of "funny" that the mom and sisters are bad mouth texting you?? It makes me wonder how he explained your breakup. The only person I would contact would be the ex BF. Tell him to tell them to stop communicating with you or you will tell them the truth. That should get his attention.

[Anonymous]

The poor guy is probably inconsolable right now and his mom and sister are assuming that Op must have done something terrible to him to destroy him like that.

I would not add salt to the wound. Give the man a some time to come to terms with what has happened. If Op responds to his mom and sister, she should do so respectfully. Threatening him to expose the truth to them would be beyond cruel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of two things: Block their number (which I would have done after the first nasty text) or tell them the truth (and then block their number so you don't get a reply.)

Do not tell them the reason.

That would be beyond cruel.

Just block their numbers.

Then maybe he shouldn't have given those 2 cun%s a BS story that made them angry enough to send psycho texts.

I'd put him on blast to get a handle on those two bitches or else he's getting exposed.

[Anonymous]

I think I would text them back and tell them that he is well aware of why the relationship did not work out and out of respect for his privacy you will not be disclosing the details. Then tell them you will be informing him of their texts. Then text him and tell him to get them off your back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s probably gay and none of them, including him, are going to admit that. It’s easier to blame you.

This, stay strong OP. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of two things: Block their number (which I would have done after the first nasty text) or tell them the truth (and then block their number so you don't get a reply.)

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of two things: Block their number (which I would have done after the first nasty text) or tell them the truth (and then block their number so you don't get a reply.)

Do not tell them the reason.

That would be beyond cruel.

Just block their numbers.

I would text him with a screenshot a couple of the meaner texts, and tell him that if you get one more text from with his mother or sister, you're telling them the reason for the breakup. If he doesn't want to be honest with his family, that's his business, until they make it your business. He's got no right to make you bear the brunt of his issues, or lack of transparency with his family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would take the middle ground to most of these pieces of advice.

I would text back to each person--"I adore your son/brother and he has a full understanding of the reason I am not able or willing to enter into a lifetime commitment with him and had no choice but to break off the relationship. Out of love and respect for his privacy, I do not feel it is my place to disclose this reason to you, but he is free to do so if he wishes for you to know the truth. I will truly miss him but know that this is the right decision for our futures...and I wish the best to all of you." And THEN block their numbers.

This is so passive-aggressive. Blah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you in your 20s? 30s? And a guy in his 20s or 30s can’t get it up? What is wrong with men?

Too much porn. DH says he warns SS all the time.

*facepalm*

Guys who watch porn are creeps.

95+% of men are creeps, then.
And plenty of women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had been dating for 2 years. I don’t know how it even lasted that long. We attempted intimacy 5 times in 2 years . Unsuccessful every time. We spoke of this often, every month. He wouldn’t go to the doctor for help. On Tuesday evening we were talking about it again, and out of the blue he proposes! He told me that I have been so patient and stayed with him that he knows I love him. Which I do. But I can’t handle ZERO intimacy. I told him this and broke up with him. I’m heart broken, but know that I do not want to be in a sexless relationship.

He went home for Thanksgiving and I don’t know what the conversation was, but I received MANY nasty texts from his mother and sister. They said some very mean and hurtful things. I haven’t responded to any of the texts. Between the 2 of them, I gotten about 17 mean texts.

What should I do?

I hate that they think I’m this cold hearted person because they clearly don’t know the situation, nor is it any of their business. They think I turned down a proposal and kicked him out.

Imagine having those crazy people as in-laws. You really dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am the only one who thinks it's kid of "funny" that the mom and sisters are bad mouth texting you?? It makes me wonder how he explained your breakup. The only person I would contact would be the ex BF. Tell him to tell them to stop communicating with you or you will tell them the truth. That should get his attention.

Am I the only one who thinks he can’t be intimate because of the psycho mother he was apparently raised by?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of two things: Block their number (which I would have done after the first nasty text) or tell them the truth (and then block their number so you don't get a reply.)

Do not tell them the reason.

That would be beyond cruel.

Just block their numbers.

He is clearly talking trash her to his family and has to know they are sending her nasty texts. Honestly, the best way to put an end to this and is respond back to both of them and let them know about their super star son and his little problem. Good riddance OP.

[Anonymous]

will you tell us what they said in the texts?

[Anonymous]

Forward the texts to him. Tell him you don't deserve this.

Then read the mean texts again and fell better about your decision before deleting and blocking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you in your 20s? 30s? And a guy in his 20s or 30s can’t get it up? What is wrong with men?

Too much porn. DH says he warns SS all the time.

*facepalm*

Guys who watch porn are creeps.

95+% of men are creeps, then.
And plenty of women.

who are your friends? ewwwww