He proposed, I broke up with him because of zero intimacy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had been dating for 2 years. I don’t know how it even lasted that long. We attempted intimacy 5 times in 2 years . Unsuccessful every time. We spoke of this often, every month. He wouldn’t go to the doctor for help. On Tuesday evening we were talking about it again, and out of the blue he proposes! He told me that I have been so patient and stayed with him that he knows I love him. Which I do. But I can’t handle ZERO intimacy. I told him this and broke up with him. I’m heart broken, but know that I do not want to be in a sexless relationship.

He went home for Thanksgiving and I don’t know what the conversation was, but I received MANY nasty texts from his mother and sister. They said some very mean and hurtful things. I haven’t responded to any of the texts. Between the 2 of them, I gotten about 17 mean texts.

What should I do?

I hate that they think I’m this cold hearted person because they clearly don’t know the situation, nor is it any of their business. They think I turned down a proposal and kicked him out.

How old is he and how is his general health? Is he on any meds?

Does it matter? Op says the guy refused to go to the doctor over his inability to perform. It doesn't sound like he wants to have a sexual relationship with Op. Maybe the guy is asexual? Maybe he is turned on by something that is not Op? Who knows. Op is now free to find someone that she can enjoy a physical relationship with. And this guy is free to do the same....or not.

Op did the right thing for herself. That's all she can really do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have seen few threads like this where a guy in 20s and 30s wouldn’t want to be intimate with his partner. I don’t get it. Could there be a medical reason?

Low T is more common than you think. It is unfortunate that many doctors are dismissive of it as a problem, and won't recommend TRT. Even young guys can suffer from it. But the first step is that the guy has to realize he has a problem, and has to want to treat it. This is harder than you might think. When someone goes on TRT, one of the first things they say is, "I had no idea what I was missing!"

I’ll tell you what I’m missing since I’ve been on TRT - my hair. My urologist put me on trt and I went from a full head of dark hair and being reasonably attractive to looking like Moby in a year. I realized it was falling out after a friend noticed and I dicontinued meds immediately. It was too late though my hair had been pretty damaged. After I quit taking the meds my doc diagnosed me with a varicocoelle as the reason for my low test. After a simple surgery and a few months of good sleeping/eating/working out I was back in the high normal range.

Doctors NEED to be prudent with prescribing hormone therapy. I sure as hell wish mine had.

My hair was thin even before I started TRT. Hair loss has a lot more to do with genetic predisposition than anything else. But even if I'd known up front it was going to cause hair loss:
- on the one hand, high energy, high libido, and rock-hard dick
- on the other hand, I'm bald

Hmmmmm, let me think, what to choose, what to choose...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have seen few threads like this where a guy in 20s and 30s wouldn’t want to be intimate with his partner. I don’t get it. Could there be a medical reason?

Low T is more common than you think. It is unfortunate that many doctors are dismissive of it as a problem, and won't recommend TRT. Even young guys can suffer from it. But the first step is that the guy has to realize he has a problem, and has to want to treat it. This is harder than you might think. When someone goes on TRT, one of the first things they say is, "I had no idea what I was missing!"

I’ll tell you what I’m missing since I’ve been on TRT - my hair. My urologist put me on trt and I went from a full head of dark hair and being reasonably attractive to looking like Moby in a year. I realized it was falling out after a friend noticed and I dicontinued meds immediately. It was too late though my hair had been pretty damaged. After I quit taking the meds my doc diagnosed me with a varicocoelle as the reason for my low test. After a simple surgery and a few months of good sleeping/eating/working out I was back in the high normal range.

Doctors NEED to be prudent with prescribing hormone therapy. I sure as hell wish mine had.

My hair was thin even before I started TRT. Hair loss has a lot more to do with genetic predisposition than anything else. But even if I'd known up front it was going to cause hair loss:
- on the one hand, high energy, high libido, and rock-hard dick
- on the other hand, I'm bald

Hmmmmm, let me think, what to choose, what to choose...

Or, you could address the underlying issue and not be on any meds while having everything you mentioned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have seen few threads like this where a guy in 20s and 30s wouldn’t want to be intimate with his partner. I don’t get it. Could there be a medical reason?

Low T is more common than you think. It is unfortunate that many doctors are dismissive of it as a problem, and won't recommend TRT. Even young guys can suffer from it. But the first step is that the guy has to realize he has a problem, and has to want to treat it. This is harder than you might think. When someone goes on TRT, one of the first things they say is, "I had no idea what I was missing!"

I’ll tell you what I’m missing since I’ve been on TRT - my hair. My urologist put me on trt and I went from a full head of dark hair and being reasonably attractive to looking like Moby in a year. I realized it was falling out after a friend noticed and I dicontinued meds immediately. It was too late though my hair had been pretty damaged. After I quit taking the meds my doc diagnosed me with a varicocoelle as the reason for my low test. After a simple surgery and a few months of good sleeping/eating/working out I was back in the high normal range.

Doctors NEED to be prudent with prescribing hormone therapy. I sure as hell wish mine had.

My hair was thin even before I started TRT. Hair loss has a lot more to do with genetic predisposition than anything else. But even if I'd known up front it was going to cause hair loss:
- on the one hand, high energy, high libido, and rock-hard dick
- on the other hand, I'm bald

Hmmmmm, let me think, what to choose, what to choose...

Or, you could address the underlying issue and not be on any meds while having everything you mentioned.

Also, if I was that good looking dude in the pic you posted I would have shaved it off myself.

[Anonymous]

My husband is now bald from TRT and not in a good way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or, you could address the underlying issue and not be on any meds while having everything you mentioned.

The premise that the underlying issue in your body not producing enough testosterone can always be addressed by some other method than TRT is false.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you the same poster whose sex-less partner wanted her to do IVF to have a baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is now bald from TRT and not in a good way.

I don’t think that there’s much he can do to fix it outside of a transplant which is expensive and often doesn’t look that great either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is now bald from TRT and not in a good way.

How long was he on it? Did he have a full head of hair before?

[Anonymous]

Bah, if you're on TRT, shave your head, but also work out (which TRT will make you want to do) so you don't look like a cancer patient. There, done, problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bah, if you're on TRT, shave your head, but also work out (which TRT will make you want to do) so you don't look like a cancer patient. There, done, problem solved.

This. Get really fit, buzz cut your head and wear a 5 o’clock shadow. That’s a good look.

[Anonymous]

A side effect of TRT is lower sperm counts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A side effect of TRT is lower sperm counts.

I call this a benefit, not a side effect.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of two things: Block their number (which I would have done after the first nasty text) or tell them the truth (and then block their number so you don't get a reply.)

Do not tell them the reason.

That would be beyond cruel.

Just block their numbers.

He is clearly talking trash her to his family and has to know they are sending her nasty texts. Honestly, the best way to put an end to this and is respond back to both of them and let them know about their super star son and his little problem. Good riddance OP.

That is horrible and cruel.

Be a grown up OP, and not a psycho teenager like this poster.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s a tiny percentage of young men with low T and mostly gay men who are closeted or straight men with hang ups like a porn addiction or fetishes.