He proposed, I broke up with him because of zero intimacy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you in your 20s? 30s? And a guy in his 20s or 30s can’t get it up? What is wrong with men?

Too much porn. DH says he warns SS all the time.

[Anonymous]

His mother is probably the reason for his sexual hangups, so it would actually be a form of justice to tell her what the problem is.

[Anonymous]

At the very least, if you tell his mom and sis, you might spare the next woman some grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At the very least, if you tell his mom and sis, you might spare the next woman some grief.

Nah, they'll just think OP is lying.

Hopefully, this break up will spur the poor man to address his problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you in your 20s? 30s? And a guy in his 20s or 30s can’t get it up? What is wrong with men?

Too much porn. DH says he warns SS all the time.

*facepalm*

Guys who watch porn are creeps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At the very least, if you tell his mom and sis, you might spare the next woman some grief.

Nah, they'll just think OP is lying.

Hopefully, this break up will spur the poor man to address his problem.

Not if he can blame it on OP.

[Anonymous]

Let them know why, it will shut them up.

[Anonymous]

Wow.

Just ignore and revel in the fact that you seriously dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Block their numbers and email addresses. You don’t owe them an explanation. You did the right thing and for both you and your ex. Focus on your next steps.

This. And your ‘next steps’ should be getting your head examined for spending two years with a guy who can’t be intimate and won’t fix it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:His mother is probably the reason for his sexual hangups, so it would actually be a form of justice to tell her what the problem is.

But then mama might start discussing sex with her and she might be ruined for life too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:His mother is probably the reason for his sexual hangups, so it would actually be a form of justice to tell her what the problem is.

But then mama might start discussing sex with her and she might be ruined for life too.

Ehhh... if you're not a total dumb-dumb and your boyfriend's mom starts talking sex with her baby boy.... let 'er rip I say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Block their numbers and email addresses. You don’t owe them an explanation. You did the right thing and for both you and your ex. Focus on your next steps.

This. And your ‘next steps’ should be getting your head examined for spending two years with a guy who can’t be intimate and won’t fix it.

I agree with this. What made you stay so long?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Block their numbers and email addresses. You don’t owe them an explanation. You did the right thing and for both you and your ex. Focus on your next steps.

+1

[Anonymous]

He’s probably gay and none of them, including him, are going to admit that. It’s easier to blame you.

[Anonymous]

You stayed in an exclusive (and sexless) relationship with this guy for 2 years! That was your choice to stay with him, Op. Something about the relationship must have been working out for both of you to stay with him so long.

You say you both loved each other but you couldn't see resigning yourself to never having sex again so you broke up with him. Fair enough and certainly understandable.

While it is also totally understandable that this guy is heartbroken, even devastated over losing you, it is terrible for his mother and sister to be hounding YOU like this. My guess is the guy is distraught and his mom and sister have been dealing with quite a train wreck. They are appalled by the state he is in and are crediting you with his despair.

Your ex extremely emotionally fragile right now and his mom and sister are his support system. I think it would be extremely unkind of you to tell his family the private details of your sex life (or lack thereof) with this guy. You were just as much a part of that scenario as he was for the past two years.

Don't say anything to his mom and sister. Or if you do say anything keep it respectful "I loved Stan but I did not see our relationship working out long term. This is a very sad time for me, too. Please, no more texts."