Irritated with my husband, but am I wrong?
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Anonymous
| Full disclaimer. We are dangerously close to getting divorced. We just do not communicate well. I told him last week that this weekend I would like to set up the Christmas tree. Every Saturday he finds a reason to be gone all day long. He leaves in the morning and comes back around 7 or later. During that time I run errands, clean, you know the usual grown up stuff. I carry some resentment that he doesn’t participate in any of these activities, I admit. He had to work yesterday so I asked him to set up the tree today. He wants to participate in this, he loves Christmas. But he doesn’t want to give up his day of roaming around. He got up at 9:30 this morning made breakfast and took his time eating it. Finally around 10:45 he said he was leaving. I asked when he was going to be back. He said he has a bunch of errands to run (none of which HAVE to be done today). He probably won’t be back until 6. Am I right to be irritated? It’s one day I asked him to not be gone all day and gave him plenty of notice. |
Anonymous
| Hmmm....sounds like you are not matched. Do you have kids? If not...get out especially if you are planning on it. |
Anonymous
This is my second marriage and I have one child. |
Anonymous
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So your priorities should be his priorities but you don’t have to care about what is important to him.
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Anonymous
Oh brother! |
Anonymous
| Christmas is a month away you have plenty of time to set up a tree. |
Anonymous
Yeah, I know. Not good. |
Anonymous
| And he spends his free time avoiding you...don't get married again. spend some time alone. |
Anonymous
His priorities are more important every other weekend. I asked for one day. |
Anonymous
| I think he should leave you. |
Anonymous
Care to elaborate? |
Anonymous
Is the child from first marriage or this one? I personally wouldn't mind my spouse doing that sometimes but all the time and not checking in with me would be a problem. Go get the tree without him...if you can. This sounds like a situation that needs more communication. |
Anonymous
True, but it is our tradition to do it the Thanksgiving weekend. And we both agreed on today. |
Anonymous
| What's the big deal? He always takes Saturday to run his errands and maybe just relax for a bit. I do the same thing on Fridays. Sunday would be the better day to mess with a Christmas tree anyway. |
Anonymous
Child is from my first marriage. I think I’ll get the tree myself if he doesn’t get back until 3 or 4. That still gives him a chance to run some errands and get back at a decent hour. And yes, he is gone every Saturday all day whether it’s seeing friends or family or just driving around. |