Harmless crush while married

[Anonymous]

I've had a few. Two were pretty harmless, the other was only "harmless" because I was careful not to flirt or put myself into situations where I would have had to make a difficult choice (i.e. where I would have had to say no to letting things escalate, because I am not sure I could have said no). The first two dissipated because i basically stopped seeing them at work, and the 3rd just fizzled over time, for no real reason. In each case, something was going on in my marriage/life that was causing me to seek escapism fantasy in these work crushes, something that made the idea of "blowing it all up" somewhat tempting.

This of course isn't true for everyone. My attraction to others arises not just from pure physical attraction, there is a lot behind it.