Harmless crush while married

[Anonymous]

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Having a crush is not active, it's passive. You could have a crush and no one would ever know, not even the object of your crush. I think it happens to most people.

Flirting? That's different, and unless you're very sure that it won't get back to any co-workers, friends or spouse, it has the potential of turning people against you, sometimes permanently. There are few circumstances when you could flirt without anyone you know witnessing that, unless you're a traveling salesperson or similar.

Being just friends: that's a grey area. Lots of people have work wives or work husbands, ie, someone of the opposite sex at work with whom they get along well. You could have a crush on them too, but not flirt, just... spend time with them in a friendly way.

That part. Work spouses are for the immature and will likely bring more drama than needed.

Nonsense. People who can't handle their spouse having a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex are immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Having a crush is not active, it's passive. You could have a crush and no one would ever know, not even the object of your crush. I think it happens to most people.

Flirting? That's different, and unless you're very sure that it won't get back to any co-workers, friends or spouse, it has the potential of turning people against you, sometimes permanently. There are few circumstances when you could flirt without anyone you know witnessing that, unless you're a traveling salesperson or similar.

Being just friends: that's a grey area. Lots of people have work wives or work husbands, ie, someone of the opposite sex at work with whom they get along well. You could have a crush on them too, but not flirt, just... spend time with them in a friendly way.

That part. Work spouses are for the immature and will likely bring more drama than needed.

Nonsense. People who can't handle their spouse having a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex are immature.

A friendship sure. A relationship or a work spouse np? If you want this kind of things marriage isn't for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Having a crush is not active, it's passive. You could have a crush and no one would ever know, not even the object of your crush. I think it happens to most people.

Flirting? That's different, and unless you're very sure that it won't get back to any co-workers, friends or spouse, it has the potential of turning people against you, sometimes permanently. There are few circumstances when you could flirt without anyone you know witnessing that, unless you're a traveling salesperson or similar.

Being just friends: that's a grey area. Lots of people have work wives or work husbands, ie, someone of the opposite sex at work with whom they get along well. You could have a crush on them too, but not flirt, just... spend time with them in a friendly way.

That part. Work spouses are for the immature and will likely bring more drama than needed.

Sounds like you have a very weak marriage if these harmless relationships pose such a threat.

Nonsense. People who can't handle their spouse having a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex are immature.

A friendship sure. A relationship or a work spouse np? If you want this kind of things marriage isn't for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Having a crush is not active, it's passive. You could have a crush and no one would ever know, not even the object of your crush. I think it happens to most people.

Flirting? That's different, and unless you're very sure that it won't get back to any co-workers, friends or spouse, it has the potential of turning people against you, sometimes permanently. There are few circumstances when you could flirt without anyone you know witnessing that, unless you're a traveling salesperson or similar.

Being just friends: that's a grey area. Lots of people have work wives or work husbands, ie, someone of the opposite sex at work with whom they get along well. You could have a crush on them too, but not flirt, just... spend time with them in a friendly way.

That part. Work spouses are for the immature and will likely bring more drama than needed.

Nonsense. People who can't handle their spouse having a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex are immature.

A friendship sure. A relationship or a work spouse np? If you want this kind of things marriage isn't for you.

Sounds like you have a very weak marriage if you think these harmless work relationships pose such a threat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Having a crush is not active, it's passive. You could have a crush and no one would ever know, not even the object of your crush. I think it happens to most people.

Flirting? That's different, and unless you're very sure that it won't get back to any co-workers, friends or spouse, it has the potential of turning people against you, sometimes permanently. There are few circumstances when you could flirt without anyone you know witnessing that, unless you're a traveling salesperson or similar.

Being just friends: that's a grey area. Lots of people have work wives or work husbands, ie, someone of the opposite sex at work with whom they get along well. You could have a crush on them too, but not flirt, just... spend time with them in a friendly way.

That part. Work spouses are for the immature and will likely bring more drama than needed.

Nonsense. People who can't handle their spouse having a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex are immature.

A friendship sure. A relationship or a work spouse np? If you want this kind of things marriage isn't for you.

Sounds like you have a very weak marriage if you think these harmless work relationships pose such a threat.

I was waiting for that attack, a classic sign of immaturity. If you knew anything work friendships are often a threat to marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Having a crush is not active, it's passive. You could have a crush and no one would ever know, not even the object of your crush. I think it happens to most people.

Flirting? That's different, and unless you're very sure that it won't get back to any co-workers, friends or spouse, it has the potential of turning people against you, sometimes permanently. There are few circumstances when you could flirt without anyone you know witnessing that, unless you're a traveling salesperson or similar.

Being just friends: that's a grey area. Lots of people have work wives or work husbands, ie, someone of the opposite sex at work with whom they get along well. You could have a crush on them too, but not flirt, just... spend time with them in a friendly way.

That part. Work spouses are for the immature and will likely bring more drama than needed.

Nonsense. People who can't handle their spouse having a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex are immature.

A friendship sure. A relationship or a work spouse np? If you want this kind of things marriage isn't for you.

Sounds like you have a very weak marriage if you think these harmless work relationships pose such a threat.

I'll echo pp and say the concept of a work spouse is immature, and go a step further and call it disrespectful. DH and I both have friends that are opposite sex at work and outside of work we'd never even playful refer to them as our spouses. And I question your need to refer to a friend as a spouse even playfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Having a crush is not active, it's passive. You could have a crush and no one would ever know, not even the object of your crush. I think it happens to most people.

Flirting? That's different, and unless you're very sure that it won't get back to any co-workers, friends or spouse, it has the potential of turning people against you, sometimes permanently. There are few circumstances when you could flirt without anyone you know witnessing that, unless you're a traveling salesperson or similar.

Being just friends: that's a grey area. Lots of people have work wives or work husbands, ie, someone of the opposite sex at work with whom they get along well. You could have a crush on them too, but not flirt, just... spend time with them in a friendly way.

That part. Work spouses are for the immature and will likely bring more drama than needed.

Nonsense. People who can't handle their spouse having a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex are immature.

A friendship sure. A relationship or a work spouse np? If you want this kind of things marriage isn't for you.

Sounds like you have a very weak marriage if you think these harmless work relationships pose such a threat.

I'll echo pp and say the concept of a work spouse is immature, and go a step further and call it disrespectful. DH and I both have friends that are opposite sex at work and outside of work we'd never even playful refer to them as our spouses. And I question your need to refer to a friend as a spouse even playfully.

Eh. My wife and I are happy in our marriage and aren’t threatened by each other’s platonic, opposite -sex relationships. Because we are mature adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are no harmless crushes while you're married.

You should focus on being 100% present in your marriage.

LOL um, no. crushes are perfectly healthy and fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Having a crush is not active, it's passive. You could have a crush and no one would ever know, not even the object of your crush. I think it happens to most people.

Flirting? That's different, and unless you're very sure that it won't get back to any co-workers, friends or spouse, it has the potential of turning people against you, sometimes permanently. There are few circumstances when you could flirt without anyone you know witnessing that, unless you're a traveling salesperson or similar.

Being just friends: that's a grey area. Lots of people have work wives or work husbands, ie, someone of the opposite sex at work with whom they get along well. You could have a crush on them too, but not flirt, just... spend time with them in a friendly way.

That part. Work spouses are for the immature and will likely bring more drama than needed.

Nonsense. People who can't handle their spouse having a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex are immature.

A friendship sure. A relationship or a work spouse np? If you want this kind of things marriage isn't for you.

Sounds like you have a very weak marriage if you think these harmless work relationships pose such a threat.

I was waiting for that attack, a classic sign of immaturity. If you knew anything work friendships are often a threat to marriages.

DP. I've had lots of very close relationships with coworkers I'm attracted to. They're not a threat to my relationship in the least, because I'm faithful. Some people will struggle with having those relationships and remaining faithful, but not every one does. It's weird to insist they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know. I have a crush on my married coworker. He's tall with a really sexy deep voice. I don't flirt with him I just enjoy listening to him talk and thinking about his talk, and watching him walk. But definitely no flirting.

Wow, lucky you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Having a crush is not active, it's passive. You could have a crush and no one would ever know, not even the object of your crush. I think it happens to most people.

Flirting? That's different, and unless you're very sure that it won't get back to any co-workers, friends or spouse, it has the potential of turning people against you, sometimes permanently. There are few circumstances when you could flirt without anyone you know witnessing that, unless you're a traveling salesperson or similar.

Being just friends: that's a grey area. Lots of people have work wives or work husbands, ie, someone of the opposite sex at work with whom they get along well. You could have a crush on them too, but not flirt, just... spend time with them in a friendly way.

That part. Work spouses are for the immature and will likely bring more drama than needed.

Nonsense. People who can't handle their spouse having a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex are immature.

A friendship sure. A relationship or a work spouse np? If you want this kind of things marriage isn't for you.

Sounds like you have a very weak marriage if you think these harmless work relationships pose such a threat.

I was waiting for that attack, a classic sign of immaturity. If you knew anything work friendships are often a threat to marriages.

DP. I've had lots of very close relationships with coworkers I'm attracted to. They're not a threat to my relationship in the least, because I'm faithful. Some people will struggle with having those relationships and remaining faithful, but not every one does. It's weird to insist they do.

I'm not insisting they do, pp erroneously said those types of relationships are not a threat, and they are not they are the #1 type of relationship for cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Having a crush is not active, it's passive. You could have a crush and no one would ever know, not even the object of your crush. I think it happens to most people.

Flirting? That's different, and unless you're very sure that it won't get back to any co-workers, friends or spouse, it has the potential of turning people against you, sometimes permanently. There are few circumstances when you could flirt without anyone you know witnessing that, unless you're a traveling salesperson or similar.

Being just friends: that's a grey area. Lots of people have work wives or work husbands, ie, someone of the opposite sex at work with whom they get along well. You could have a crush on them too, but not flirt, just... spend time with them in a friendly way.

That part. Work spouses are for the immature and will likely bring more drama than needed.

Nonsense. People who can't handle their spouse having a non-sexual relationship with a member of the opposite sex are immature.

A friendship sure. A relationship or a work spouse np? If you want this kind of things marriage isn't for you.

Sounds like you have a very weak marriage if you think these harmless work relationships pose such a threat.

I'll echo pp and say the concept of a work spouse is immature, and go a step further and call it disrespectful. DH and I both have friends that are opposite sex at work and outside of work we'd never even playful refer to them as our spouses. And I question your need to refer to a friend as a spouse even playfully.

Eh. My wife and I are happy in our marriage and aren’t threatened by each other’s platonic, opposite -sex relationships. Because we are mature adults.

Your wife is cool with calling your female friends your spouse? Well isn't she super cool!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know. I have a crush on my married coworker. He's tall with a really sexy deep voice. I don't flirt with him I just enjoy listening to him talk and thinking about his talk, and watching him walk. But definitely no flirting.

Wow, lucky you.

That I am! If he weren't married I'd climb him like a tree. No shame.

[Anonymous]

Crushes are fine. Crush away. Mildly flirt if you want. But don’t act sleep with them, go out solo, or call/text them ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been experiencing a crush and I can tell it’s mutual. I totally get butterflies, it’s an exciting feeling. Both married so just a crush and will fade.

How can you tell it’s going to fade? I’m going through the same thing and I’m like… giddy and tormented. Even though I know it’s impossible. I don’t want it to be.