Mean "big" kids at the community pool

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

Have not read the previous responses but if this was my DD I can tell you I would have been all over it.

The ten year old would be told, in no uncertain terms to cut it out. I have dealt with similar once before, and I said something along the lines of, “Give her back the toy and leave her alone. DO. YOU. UNDERSTAND?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have no idea if he was 7 or 8 or 9 or who even knows. My kid who’s 7 looks 10. So, that’s a non issue. Another is, calm down. Don’t bring toys to the pool if it’s going to cause this level of drama. The mom may well have taught this child to swim and is watching another. The lifeguard; come on, lady. Get over yourself. If a kid drowned because a lifeguard had to save your kid’s toy you’d feel pretty ridiculous, no? Bottom line, this is dumb. Your kid should be able to figure it out or not bring toys. This wasn’t “bullying.”

+1. Agree. This is a stupid post. Kids will tease other kids and take toys. Teach your kid how to deal with it, and if it’s really bad, walk over and make the kid give it back. “Tell the lifeguard?” Absurd.

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[Anonymous]

At least you had a girl. You could be the mom of some little boy bully like this. What a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

Have not read the previous responses but if this was my DD I can tell you I would have been all over it.

The ten year old would be told, in no uncertain terms to cut it out. I have dealt with similar once before, and I said something along the lines of, “Give her back the toy and leave her alone. DO. YOU. UNDERSTAND?”

Funny that you’re being sane and calling “all over it”. We are talking about people drowning for the sake of toy rescuing now.

[Anonymous]

I’d suggest that your husband be the one who says something to the kid. Sounds like he could use an example of how to act like a gentleman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t bring toys to the pool if you aren’t prepared to share them or have kids grab them.

Nope. There's always one person with this ignorant answer. Probably a parent of one of these spoiled brats.

Ten years old (not two) is plenty old enough to understand that if I didn't bring it to the pool, it isn't mine and I don't grab it.

It's called parenting. Try it sometime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t bring toys to the pool if you aren’t prepared to share them or have kids grab them.

Nope. There's always one person with this ignorant answer. Probably a parent of one of these spoiled brats.

Ten years old (not two) is plenty old enough to understand that if I didn't bring it to the pool, it isn't mine and I don't grab it.

It's called parenting. Try it sometime.

Did she see the kids ID? OP is quick to point out that her daughter is tall for her age as if she could be mistaken for older. But she assumes the bigger kid is 10. Maybe he's a big 7 year old? Leave the toys at home if you don't want problems. Been there, done that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t bring toys to the pool if you aren’t prepared to share them or have kids grab them.

Nope. There's always one person with this ignorant answer. Probably a parent of one of these spoiled brats.

Ten years old (not two) is plenty old enough to understand that if I didn't bring it to the pool, it isn't mine and I don't grab it.

It's called parenting. Try it sometime.

Did she see the kids ID? OP is quick to point out that her daughter is tall for her age as if she could be mistaken for older. But she assumes the bigger kid is 10. Maybe he's a big 7 year old? Leave the toys at home if you don't want problems. Been there, done that.

Cool story. Seven is plenty old enough. Hell, any age over toddler is old enough if properly parented.

Now please be oh so predictable and drop the "but SN!!!" card next. Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t bring toys to the pool if you aren’t prepared to share them or have kids grab them.

Nope. There's always one person with this ignorant answer. Probably a parent of one of these spoiled brats.

Ten years old (not two) is plenty old enough to understand that if I didn't bring it to the pool, it isn't mine and I don't grab it.

It's called parenting. Try it sometime.

Did she see the kids ID? OP is quick to point out that her daughter is tall for her age as if she could be mistaken for older. But she assumes the bigger kid is 10. Maybe he's a big 7 year old? Leave the toys at home if you don't want problems. Been there, done that.

Cool story. Seven is plenty old enough. Hell, any age over toddler is old enough if properly parented.

Now please be oh so predictable and drop the "but SN!!!" card next. Please.

Funny this has never happened to me. Because this is such an easy problem to solve. I ask for the toys back or leave them at home. Problem solving is easy, maybe you should try it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t bring toys to the pool if you aren’t prepared to share them or have kids grab them.

Nope. There's always one person with this ignorant answer. Probably a parent of one of these spoiled brats.

Ten years old (not two) is plenty old enough to understand that if I didn't bring it to the pool, it isn't mine and I don't grab it.

It's called parenting. Try it sometime.

Did she see the kids ID? OP is quick to point out that her daughter is tall for her age as if she could be mistaken for older. But she assumes the bigger kid is 10. Maybe he's a big 7 year old? Leave the toys at home if you don't want problems. Been there, done that.

Cool story. Seven is plenty old enough. Hell, any age over toddler is old enough if properly parented.

Now please be oh so predictable and drop the "but SN!!!" card next. Please.

Funny this has never happened to me. Because this is such an easy problem to solve. I ask for the toys back or leave them at home. Problem solving is easy, maybe you should try it?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

This might get me flamed. But I'm 6'1, and 225 lbs and covered in tattoos. If that kid did that to my little girl, I would walked right up, and said in my deepest/gravelliest voice "give her the toys back."

It is my fundamental duty as her father to protect her. I have no problem scaring the sh#t out of some little prick in the process

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

Have not read the previous responses but if this was my DD I can tell you I would have been all over it.

The ten year old would be told, in no uncertain terms to cut it out. I have dealt with similar once before, and I said something along the lines of, “Give her back the toy and leave her alone. DO. YOU. UNDERSTAND?”

Funny that you’re being sane and calling “all over it”. We are talking about people drowning for the sake of toy rescuing now.

These assholes will create absurd, nonexistent scenarios to bash the OP. It gives them life, it gives them purpose, it’s absolutely pathetic. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOUR ABUSE OF LIFEGUARD PRIVILEGES CAUSED ALL THE OTHER KIDS TO DROWN HUH OP CALM DOWN EVERYONE ELSE WE GOT THIS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t bring toys to the pool if you aren’t prepared to share them or have kids grab them.

Nope. There's always one person with this ignorant answer. Probably a parent of one of these spoiled brats.

Ten years old (not two) is plenty old enough to understand that if I didn't bring it to the pool, it isn't mine and I don't grab it.

It's called parenting. Try it sometime.

Did she see the kids ID? OP is quick to point out that her daughter is tall for her age as if she could be mistaken for older. But she assumes the bigger kid is 10. Maybe he's a big 7 year old? Leave the toys at home if you don't want problems. Been there, done that.

Cool story. Seven is plenty old enough. Hell, any age over toddler is old enough if properly parented.

Now please be oh so predictable and drop the "but SN!!!" card next. Please.

Drop the "SN card?" What the h? Do you also write to drop [other discriminated against group' cards? Or just that one? Awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

Have not read the previous responses but if this was my DD I can tell you I would have been all over it.

The ten year old would be told, in no uncertain terms to cut it out. I have dealt with similar once before, and I said something along the lines of, “Give her back the toy and leave her alone. DO. YOU. UNDERSTAND?”

Funny that you’re being sane and calling “all over it”. We are talking about people drowning for the sake of toy rescuing now.

These assholes will create absurd, nonexistent scenarios to bash the OP. It gives them life, it gives them purpose, it’s absolutely pathetic. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOUR ABUSE OF LIFEGUARD PRIVILEGES CAUSED ALL THE OTHER KIDS TO DROWN HUH OP CALM DOWN EVERYONE ELSE WE GOT THIS.

It’s LIFEguard, Karen. LIFEguard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like your daughter did everything in her power to stand up for herself, that this was a clear cut case (ie, who was at fault was clear), the behavior had real effects (she couldn’t play with her toys - this wasn’t just teasing she could ignore) AND he was older and bigger than she is. With that set of circumstances, I would for sure intervene.

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