Mean "big" kids at the community pool

[Anonymous]

Wow. Were none of you kids yourselves? Were you all only children with no older or younger siblings?

What ridiculous posts on a ridiculous thread.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you're going to intervene -- I think you say something to emphasize the age difference. Make them feel less-than for choosing to bullying someone so much younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Were none of you kids yourselves? Were you all only children with no older or younger siblings?

What ridiculous posts on a ridiculous thread.

Why are you here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Were none of you kids yourselves? Were you all only children with no older or younger siblings?

What ridiculous posts on a ridiculous thread.

Why are you here?

To SMH at all these responses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Were none of you kids yourselves? Were you all only children with no older or younger siblings?

What ridiculous posts on a ridiculous thread.

Why are you here?

To SMH at all these responses.

You could just be nice to OP and help her out. That’s a path too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Were none of you kids yourselves? Were you all only children with no older or younger siblings?

What ridiculous posts on a ridiculous thread.

Why are you here?

To SMH at all these responses.

You could just be nice to OP and help her out. That’s a path too.

Pp was the 10 year old at one point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Were none of you kids yourselves? Were you all only children with no older or younger siblings?

What ridiculous posts on a ridiculous thread.

Why are you here?

To SMH at all these responses.

So… not to actually be helpful. Got it.

[Anonymous]

I would have intervened. This is not a dispute among peers that my kid could have handled on their own. This was the case of a big kid being deliberately antagonistic and using their size to be a bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So dramatic. It wasn't "kids" it was one kid. If your daughter isn't successful getting the toys back then you just ask the boy for them. Almost all of the time he will hand them over. Does your daughter have no siblings? If she did you wouldn't be so "disgusted". Get over it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

Right? Who are you people who can’t handle the slightest confrontation? Is life always this hard? Have you been quarantining so hard you forgot how to function? This is not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Were none of you kids yourselves? Were you all only children with no older or younger siblings?

What ridiculous posts on a ridiculous thread.

Why are you here?

To SMH at all these responses.

So… not to actually be helpful. Got it.

Are you being helpful? Pot meet kettle. Are you the OP who is just stirring the pot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. What’s up with pools and 10 year old boys? Does chlorine cause some kind of feral reaction?

We belong to two pools this summer (because we got off the waitlist at one after committing to membership at the first), and so we have a huge sample of n=2, and the boys that age at both pools are absolute jerks. The lifeguards regularly pull boys this age from the pool for hitting kids with noodles, doing illegal dives off the board, yanking on lanelines, intentionally splashing adults or little kids, etc.

The stuff that doesn’t get policed by lifeguards is just as annoying: stealing little kids’ diving toys, wresting floaties away from smaller kids, causing total havoc in the locker room, and throwing wrappers all over the parking lot. I can’t tell if it’s a normal developmental stage or if parents of boys this age just give up or if they mistakenly think their kids are old enough to be unsupervised. Either way, I think it’s my new least favorite boy age.

Wow, really? Way to demonize young boys. You sound like a complete lunatic.

[Anonymous]

1. Your daughter did try. You or DH should have stepped in and told the kid to give your property back.


2. I would tell my daughter to knee him or step on his foot. Teach her early that if a guy doesn't listen to her, make him regret it not to cry about it.

3. You don't defer to your DH when he is clearly in the wrong and the outcome is harming your kid. Your daughter needs to see that you have a spine.

46 Don't bring home toys to the pool