Mean "big" kids at the community pool

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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

He had no right to take her toys and bulky her. Bullies should be banned from pool.

Of course he had no right, but its a kid and they make stupid decisions. Ask for the toy back first. If this is a repeated incident where this one kid is targeting you or your kid, then you escalate. But this one thing doesn't sound like a big deal. Also, keep the toys at home if your kid can't handle the idea of sharing or freaks out if another kid touches her toys.

That isn't what happened here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The lifeguard won’t do anything. It’s not their job. I would have tried to let them handle it on their own and once I saw that it was getting out of hand I would step in.

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Other parent is not going to step in, they are going to pretend they don't see it happening. I have seen grown adults steal other kid's goggles from the side of the pool. People are gross, OP.

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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

He had no right to take her toys and bulky her. Bullies should be banned from pool.

Of course he had no right, but its a kid and they make stupid decisions. Ask for the toy back first. If this is a repeated incident where this one kid is targeting you or your kid, then you escalate. But this one thing doesn't sound like a big deal. Also, keep the toys at home if your kid can't handle the idea of sharing or freaks out if another kid touches her toys.

That isn't what happened here.

+ 1. But what a perfect and classic DCUM parent response: craft a shitty answer to a different scenario than what the OP presents.

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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

He had no right to take her toys and bulky her. Bullies should be banned from pool.

Of course he had no right, but its a kid and they make stupid decisions. Ask for the toy back first. If this is a repeated incident where this one kid is targeting you or your kid, then you escalate. But this one thing doesn't sound like a big deal. Also, keep the toys at home if your kid can't handle the idea of sharing or freaks out if another kid touches her toys.

That isn't what happened here.

+ 1. But what a perfect and classic DCUM parent response: craft a shitty answer to a different scenario than what lol the OP presents.

Well its not bullying either so here we are. OP has greatly exaggerated the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want my kids to stand up for themselves, but I do think in that situation I would walk up and say “cut it out—give back the toy” in a firm voice. Kids think they can get away with stuff if nobody is watching. Then at home talk about how she can do it next time. Practice it with her. Sometimes kids need adult help to avoid bullies, that’s ok. Especially at age 6.

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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

He had no right to take her toys and bulky her. Bullies should be banned from pool.

Of course he had no right, but its a kid and they make stupid decisions. Ask for the toy back first. If this is a repeated incident where this one kid is targeting you or your kid, then you escalate. But this one thing doesn't sound like a big deal. Also, keep the toys at home if your kid can't handle the idea of sharing or freaks out if another kid touches her toys.

That isn't what happened here.

+ 1. But what a perfect and classic DCUM parent response: craft a shitty answer to a different scenario than what lol the OP presents.

Well its not bullying either so here we are. OP has greatly exaggerated the situation.

She didn’t call it bullying. Log off and work on that reading comprehension, you need to put your time there.

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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

He had no right to take her toys and bulky her. Bullies should be banned from pool.

Of course he had no right, but its a kid and they make stupid decisions. Ask for the toy back first. If this is a repeated incident where this one kid is targeting you or your kid, then you escalate. But this one thing doesn't sound like a big deal. Also, keep the toys at home if your kid can't handle the idea of sharing or freaks out if another kid touches her toys.

That isn't what happened here.

+ 1. But what a perfect and classic DCUM parent response: craft a shitty answer to a different scenario than what lol the OP presents.

Well its not bullying either so here we are. OP has greatly exaggerated the situation.

She didn’t call it bullying. Log off and work on that reading comprehension, you need to put your time there.

She also called it kids when it was only one. She was too distraught to figure out how to ask for a toy back. And I think you are OP sockpuppeting. So give it a rest troll.

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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

He had no right to take her toys and bulky her. Bullies should be banned from pool.

Of course he had no right, but its a kid and they make stupid decisions. Ask for the toy back first. If this is a repeated incident where this one kid is targeting you or your kid, then you escalate. But this one thing doesn't sound like a big deal. Also, keep the toys at home if your kid can't handle the idea of sharing or freaks out if another kid touches her toys.

That isn't what happened here.

+ 1. But what a perfect and classic DCUM parent response: craft a shitty answer to a different scenario than what lol the OP presents.

Well its not bullying either so here we are. OP has greatly exaggerated the situation.

She didn’t call it bullying. Log off and work on that reading comprehension, you need to put your time there.

She also called it kids when it was only one. She was too distraught to figure out how to ask for a toy back. And I think you are OP sockpuppeting. So give it a rest troll.

You need to reread and get your head examined. I’m not OP. Tattle to Jeff, if you must, oh batshit one.

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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

He had no right to take her toys and bulky her. Bullies should be banned from pool.

Of course he had no right, but its a kid and they make stupid decisions. Ask for the toy back first. If this is a repeated incident where this one kid is targeting you or your kid, then you escalate. But this one thing doesn't sound like a big deal. Also, keep the toys at home if your kid can't handle the idea of sharing or freaks out if another kid touches her toys.

That isn't what happened here.

+ 1. But what a perfect and classic DCUM parent response: craft a shitty answer to a different scenario than what lol the OP presents.

Well its not bullying either so here we are. OP has greatly exaggerated the situation.

She didn’t call it bullying. Log off and work on that reading comprehension, you need to put your time there.

She also called it kids when it was only one. She was too distraught to figure out how to ask for a toy back. And I think you are OP sockpuppeting. So give it a rest troll.

You need to reread and get your head examined. I’m not OP. Tattle to Jeff, if you must, oh batshit one.

You are way too invested in fragile moms pool drama.

[Anonymous]

I feel bad for your daughter. You could’ve said to the older kid “hi there. This is sally’s toy. Time to give it back to her now?” I would be shocked if that didn’t work. Use your mommy voice. I can’t imagine that wouldn’t work. I feel bad for your daughter.

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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

He had no right to take her toys and bulky her. Bullies should be banned from pool.

Of course he had no right, but its a kid and they make stupid decisions. Ask for the toy back first. If this is a repeated incident where this one kid is targeting you or your kid, then you escalate. But this one thing doesn't sound like a big deal. Also, keep the toys at home if your kid can't handle the idea of sharing or freaks out if another kid touches her toys.

That isn't what happened here.

+ 1. But what a perfect and classic DCUM parent response: craft a shitty answer to a different scenario than what lol the OP presents.

Well its not bullying either so here we are. OP has greatly exaggerated the situation.

She didn’t call it bullying. Log off and work on that reading comprehension, you need to put your time there.

She also called it kids when it was only one. She was too distraught to figure out how to ask for a toy back. And I think you are OP sockpuppeting. So give it a rest troll.

You need to reread and get your head examined. I’m not OP. Tattle to Jeff, if you must, oh batshit one.

You are way too invested in fragile moms pool drama.

+1

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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

He had no right to take her toys and bulky her. Bullies should be banned from pool.

Of course he had no right, but its a kid and they make stupid decisions. Ask for the toy back first. If this is a repeated incident where this one kid is targeting you or your kid, then you escalate. But this one thing doesn't sound like a big deal. Also, keep the toys at home if your kid can't handle the idea of sharing or freaks out if another kid touches her toys.

That isn't what happened here.

+ 1. But what a perfect and classic DCUM parent response: craft a shitty answer to a different scenario than what lol the OP presents.

Well its not bullying either so here we are. OP has greatly exaggerated the situation.

She didn’t call it bullying. Log off and work on that reading comprehension, you need to put your time there.

She also called it kids when it was only one. She was too distraught to figure out how to ask for a toy back. And I think you are OP sockpuppeting. So give it a rest troll.

You need to reread and get your head examined. I’m not OP. Tattle to Jeff, if you must, oh batshit one.

You are way too invested in fragile moms pool drama.

+1

…say the dopes repeat-posting to misconstrue an OP.

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At the pool yesterday, an older boy took some of my daughter's pool toys. My daughter is 6, but tall for her age. When DD asked for the toy back, the older boy gleefully held it out of her reach and refused to give it to her. DD started crying and yelling at him, but he still wouldn't give it back.

My DH said we shouldn't intervene, but I was disgusted that this boy, probably 10 years old and much larger than DD, was taking things and taunting my daughter. His mother did not intervene at all, nor did the lifeguard. I wanted to have a few words with the little twit, but DH wanted DD to handle it.

What would you have done? How would you tell your DD to handle this?

I would have spoken to the life guard and asked for a .meeting with whoever is the boss of the pool and get the other kid one warning and if he did it again then he is banned from pool. His mother sounds like she doesn' care.

LOL BANNED from the pool over a toy??? Get over yourself

He had no right to take her toys and bulky her. Bullies should be banned from pool.

Of course he had no right, but its a kid and they make stupid decisions. Ask for the toy back first. If this is a repeated incident where this one kid is targeting you or your kid, then you escalate. But this one thing doesn't sound like a big deal. Also, keep the toys at home if your kid can't handle the idea of sharing or freaks out if another kid touches her toys.

That isn't what happened here.

+ 1. But what a perfect and classic DCUM parent response: craft a shitty answer to a different scenario than what lol the OP presents.

Well its not bullying either so here we are. OP has greatly exaggerated the situation.

She didn’t call it bullying. Log off and work on that reading comprehension, you need to put your time there.

She also called it kids when it was only one. She was too distraught to figure out how to ask for a toy back. And I think you are OP sockpuppeting. So give it a rest troll.

You need to reread and get your head examined. I’m not OP. Tattle to Jeff, if you must, oh batshit one.

You are way too invested in fragile moms pool drama.

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…say the dopes repeat-posting to misconstrue an OP.

If you didn’t write it what do you care? OP isn’t even responding anymore.

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You have no idea if he was 7 or 8 or 9 or who even knows. My kid who’s 7 looks 10. So, that’s a non issue. Another is, calm down. Don’t bring toys to the pool if it’s going to cause this level of drama. The mom may well have taught this child to swim and is watching another. The lifeguard; come on, lady. Get over yourself. If a kid drowned because a lifeguard had to save your kid’s toy you’d feel pretty ridiculous, no? Bottom line, this is dumb. Your kid should be able to figure it out or not bring toys. This wasn’t “bullying.”

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Anonymous wrote:You have no idea if he was 7 or 8 or 9 or who even knows. My kid who’s 7 looks 10. So, that’s a non issue. Another is, calm down. Don’t bring toys to the pool if it’s going to cause this level of drama. The mom may well have taught this child to swim and is watching another. The lifeguard; come on, lady. Get over yourself. If a kid drowned because a lifeguard had to save your kid’s toy you’d feel pretty ridiculous, no? Bottom line, this is dumb. Your kid should be able to figure it out or not bring toys. This wasn’t “bullying.”

+1. Agree. This is a stupid post. Kids will tease other kids and take toys. Teach your kid how to deal with it, and if it’s really bad, walk over and make the kid give it back. “Tell the lifeguard?” Absurd.