Husband coming home at night after c section

[Anonymous]

That's what we did, OP, and it was great. The nurses helped more when DH wasn't there than they did when he was present, and they took the baby for a few hours so I could sleep. What hospital is this?

[Anonymous]

You’ll be fine. The only scenario I can think of where you might want DH around is if the baby needs to go to the NICU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do women chose to give birth at a no-nursery hospital? Is it insurance related? And it can't be that they are so amazing and provide specialty care because that's simply not true for a lot of these hospitals mentioned here.

Many nurseries shut down due to COVID. You don’t have a choice.

[Anonymous]

I sent my husband home and the baby to the nursery (during Covid, Fair Oaks Hospital). I had 2 glorious nights of sleep.

[Anonymous]

OP here! Thanks for all the input. Here is how it went...basically, fine. Would I recommend sending your husband home after a major surgery while caring for a newborn, no. Was I ok, yes.

We are not local to DC anymore so it wasn't a DC hospital. it was a 'baby friendly' hospital but it did have a nursery, which had been shut due to covid BUT opened just before I gave birth. I did use the nursery on night 2 when DH left b/c baby wouldn't settle with me in the room. Night 3 I didn't need it and kept baby with me. DH stayed night 1 and that was critical. However, I found the nurses to be very helpful...I was paging right and left when he left for refills on water, help picking up baby, etc. They seemed happy to help with these things and there was a good stock of floating nurse externs who were perfect for these jobs. I will admit I even enjoyed my alone time with baby. Maybe I also got a good group of nurses b/c everyone seemed very happy to make me tea, bring snacks on off hours, move the baby back and forth, hold the baby while I did a lap around the halls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here! Thanks for all the input. Here is how it went...basically, fine. Would I recommend sending your husband home after a major surgery while caring for a newborn, no. Was I ok, yes.

We are not local to DC anymore so it wasn't a DC hospital. it was a 'baby friendly' hospital but it did have a nursery, which had been shut due to covid BUT opened just before I gave birth. I did use the nursery on night 2 when DH left b/c baby wouldn't settle with me in the room. Night 3 I didn't need it and kept baby with me. DH stayed night 1 and that was critical. However, I found the nurses to be very helpful...I was paging right and left when he left for refills on water, help picking up baby, etc. They seemed happy to help with these things and there was a good stock of floating nurse externs who were perfect for these jobs. I will admit I even enjoyed my alone time with baby. Maybe I also got a good group of nurses b/c everyone seemed very happy to make me tea, bring snacks on off hours, move the baby back and forth, hold the baby while I did a lap around the halls.

OMG, high maintenance, PITA. Nurse, not waitress/server.

--MD (but nurse friends)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here! Thanks for all the input. Here is how it went...basically, fine. Would I recommend sending your husband home after a major surgery while caring for a newborn, no. Was I ok, yes.

We are not local to DC anymore so it wasn't a DC hospital. it was a 'baby friendly' hospital but it did have a nursery, which had been shut due to covid BUT opened just before I gave birth. I did use the nursery on night 2 when DH left b/c baby wouldn't settle with me in the room. Night 3 I didn't need it and kept baby with me. DH stayed night 1 and that was critical. However, I found the nurses to be very helpful...I was paging right and left when he left for refills on water, help picking up baby, etc. They seemed happy to help with these things and there was a good stock of floating nurse externs who were perfect for these jobs. I will admit I even enjoyed my alone time with baby. Maybe I also got a good group of nurses b/c everyone seemed very happy to make me tea, bring snacks on off hours, move the baby back and forth, hold the baby while I did a lap around the halls.

OMG, high maintenance, PITA. Nurse, not waitress/server.

--MD (but nurse friends)

This is OP. You were not allowed to do this yourself. The ice/water/snack station was closed b/c of covid and you were told to beep a nurse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here! Thanks for all the input. Here is how it went...basically, fine. Would I recommend sending your husband home after a major surgery while caring for a newborn, no. Was I ok, yes.

We are not local to DC anymore so it wasn't a DC hospital. it was a 'baby friendly' hospital but it did have a nursery, which had been shut due to covid BUT opened just before I gave birth. I did use the nursery on night 2 when DH left b/c baby wouldn't settle with me in the room. Night 3 I didn't need it and kept baby with me. DH stayed night 1 and that was critical. However, I found the nurses to be very helpful...I was paging right and left when he left for refills on water, help picking up baby, etc. They seemed happy to help with these things and there was a good stock of floating nurse externs who were perfect for these jobs. I will admit I even enjoyed my alone time with baby. Maybe I also got a good group of nurses b/c everyone seemed very happy to make me tea, bring snacks on off hours, move the baby back and forth, hold the baby while I did a lap around the halls.

OMG, high maintenance, PITA. Nurse, not waitress/server.

--MD (but nurse friends)

Uh doc? You want someone doing this for themselves after abdominal surgery while carrying their newborn? Or she’s supposed to get dehydrated to avoid being a “PITA” with her basic needs? Can you tell us where you practice so I avoid it like the plague?

—Mother with “fall risk” in her chart who was told to page for water.