Husband coming home at night after c section

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, you'll be fine. There are nurses to take care of you My husband went home after my second c-section because we have a younger child and no family to help. I was fine. In fact, I slept better after my second c-section without him there than I did after my first.

Let him go home and rest, send the baby to the nursery. Tell the nurse to wake you up when the baby is hungry. If you can't send the baby to the nursery, just make sure you hit the call button as soon as the baby gets fussy so that they can come hand you the baby to nurse. It's not hard.

This. You can manage.

Yes, you can. I had friends ask me to stay, and I couldn't figure out why. I've had 2 c-sections and managed fine with the nurses at night. Op, your husband can go home.

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My husband never spent the night with me after any of my sections. The nurses helped a lot the first time but not the second time. It was fine. Actually, my 2 yr old was with me as well the second time. The nurses gave me a hard time about that.

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I was fine having my husband at home the second night. My eldest was having trouble at our friend’s house so he went home to stay with him. I had no problem lifting baby from bassinet. First night I was throwing up from the anesthesia, but second was fine. I actually stayed a third night solo (pre Covid) because my baby needed some extra blood work. As long as you don’t have complications, I think you’ll be okay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, you'll be fine. There are nurses to take care of you My husband went home after my second c-section because we have a younger child and no family to help. I was fine. In fact, I slept better after my second c-section without him there than I did after my first.

Let him go home and rest, send the baby to the nursery. Tell the nurse to wake you up when the baby is hungry. If you can't send the baby to the nursery, just make sure you hit the call button as soon as the baby gets fussy so that they can come hand you the baby to nurse. It's not hard.

I'd agree with you except OP said there is no newborn nursery at the hospital.

I had 2 c sections and slept SO MUCH BETTER without my loud ass snoring husband on the couch in the room. But, there was a nursery for the baby, and i didn't even have them bring me the baby overnight, i just slept. And did skin to skin/ breastfeeding all day long from 8am-10pm. It was glorious- take percocet, lay in bed watching TV, cuddling my infant with no distractions.

But without a nursery overnight I dunno.

You didn't read the second part of my post -- if there's no nursery, then OP can just call the nurse to help her. I delivered at VHC, the nurses were AMAZING and so kind.

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Anonymous wrote:Read the OP people! There isn’t a nursery. I would not have survived without someone staying with me after my 3 C sections. I was in a lot of pain and getting out of bed every 2 hours to change the baby’s diaper, then climbing back up into the bed carrying the baby to nurse was very difficult. With baby #3, the nurses kept returning her to us, saying her crying kept waking the other babies. I was exhausted and could not imagine doing that by myself for 3-4 nights.

This is what the nurses are for - to give you the baby, change the baby, take the baby back to the bassinet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, you'll be fine. There are nurses to take care of you My husband went home after my second c-section because we have a younger child and no family to help. I was fine. In fact, I slept better after my second c-section without him there than I did after my first.

Let him go home and rest, send the baby to the nursery. Tell the nurse to wake you up when the baby is hungry. If you can't send the baby to the nursery, just make sure you hit the call button as soon as the baby gets fussy so that they can come hand you the baby to nurse. It's not hard.

I'd agree with you except OP said there is no newborn nursery at the hospital.

I had 2 c sections and slept SO MUCH BETTER without my loud ass snoring husband on the couch in the room. But, there was a nursery for the baby, and i didn't even have them bring me the baby overnight, i just slept. And did skin to skin/ breastfeeding all day long from 8am-10pm. It was glorious- take percocet, lay in bed watching TV, cuddling my infant with no distractions.

But without a nursery overnight I dunno.

You didn't read the second part of my post -- if there's no nursery, then OP can just call the nurse to help her. I delivered at VHC, the nurses were AMAZING and so kind.

That's true- but the nurse:patient ratio in mother/baby units is high, and even higher overnight. So if you and 3 other moms are all trying to breastfeed/ change your babies at the same time at 3am while simultaneously trying to not rip out your c section staples, you're SOL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Read the OP people! There isn’t a nursery. I would not have survived without someone staying with me after my 3 C sections. I was in a lot of pain and getting out of bed every 2 hours to change the baby’s diaper, then climbing back up into the bed carrying the baby to nurse was very difficult. With baby #3, the nurses kept returning her to us, saying her crying kept waking the other babies. I was exhausted and could not imagine doing that by myself for 3-4 nights.

This is what the nurses are for - to give you the baby, change the baby, take the baby back to the bassinet.

No, the nurses are there to monitor you for complications s/p your major abdominal surgery- blood clots, cardiac or blood pressure complications, hemorrhage, infection. They also are able to help with changing your baby, but usually the newborn nurses did that. Up until they cancelled newborn nurseries, which is an atrocity. At GBMC, pre-covid, I had my own nurse and my baby had HIS own nurse.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe we as a society allowed them to phase out nurseries. Truly absurd.

+1000

Nurse here. It’s an embarrassment

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I was just delivered at WHC (no nursery!) and there are signs all over saying to call the nurses if you need help with your baby, specifically about getting your baby in and out of the bassinet. I think as long as you’re comfortable getting up and walking around a bit on day 2, you should be fine. Lean on the nurses! They are there to help you (and if you’re at WHC, the PP nurses are amazing).

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I am a single mom so there are a diff set of expectations but I did basically this last summer and there was no problem. I had a c-section bc the baby was breech.
My dear friend who is a nurse was my +1 at the delivery and she could only stay 1 night so she could get back to her family.

There were no visitors bc of Covid so my family couldnt replace her. The recovery nurse was lovely and arranged to take the baby for all her testing in a block for a few hours the evening of the 2nd day after my friend left so I could get a chunk of sleep. I stayed in the hospital 2 nights today (1 alone) and discharged late morning on the 3rd day. It was really fine. Side note: The pain was fine. I took both the acetaminophen and ibuprofen on schedule regardless of what I was feeling in the moment and I didnt have much if any discomfort.

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My husband went home after my c-sections (plural). I was fine with it. It's been a big day, go get some sleep, stock up, we'll need it. Who wants to stay overnight in a hospital room if they don't have to? It's such an unnatural environment, medical staff begin making rounds on the 30 at 4 a.m. If it were my husband in the hospital he would send me home, too.

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Your bed will have a big, red nurse call button on it. Press if you're distressed. They will come help.

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I wouldn’t. I wasn’t allowed out of bed due to fall risk and I did not find the nurses particularly responsive on very basic things like helping me use the bathroom. I would have hated to be waiting for them listening to my baby cry in hunger. I think the nurses were doing their best, but it was a holiday weekend...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your bed will have a big, red nurse call button on it. Press if you're distressed. They will come help.

That wasn't my experience (many years ago now). I would press the button and an hour would pass before anyone responded.

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Would it be doable, yes. But likely difficult and painful. For the first three days after my C section I couldn’t sit up without help and needed significant help to get to/from the bathroom. Also had the experience where you push the call button and no one comes for an hour. Cannot imagine counting on a nurse’s help to nurse/change baby in that scenario. If you can plan ahead and have an extra pair of hands to help out at home so DH can stay, would definitely do it. Even if it’s not your first and you’re not in as much pain as I was, those first few days are tough and any bit of extra support can be super helpful.