Switched DS to Private School- Now He Refuses to Play Soccer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, because OP doesn't know anything about truly competitive soccer.

I suspect this is more about OP's social climbing. She's having a hard time finding a foothold with the private school social scene she wants to be a part of, and thinks that if her kid joins the soccer team, that will be her "in."

I suspect neither of you read all the posts before commenting. Several of us believe OP obfuscated details to remain anonymous in their town. Smart really. This is more likely about a DD playing field hockey for Madeira while being recruited by Brown.

That doesn't change my suspicion that this has at least as much to do with OP's social climbing as an concern about her child. It also doesn't change the fact that OP is a terrible person based on her attacks on other posters and their kids, and that she shows little regard for her child's actual wellbeing.

Oh. My. Gawd.

Step away from your computer lady. Get a grip. Take a deep breath. Call your mom. Someone is not a "terrible person" because they hurt your feelings on the internet.

Stalin was a terrible person.
Hitler was a terrible person.
Dahmer was a terrible person.

Some anonymous stranger on the interwebs alluding that your kid is fat and playing video games (which, face it, huge numbers of kids are, it's a national crisis if you really want to take it there) is not the end of the world or indicative of one's self worth.

Maybe it hurt because its true.

Jeeeeeesus Christ some of you are lunatics.

Dp But, the op asked US what our opinions were and then insulted kids whom she doesn't know! I didn't ask for advice on my kids and anyhoo it is beside the point. Op doesn't like the advice given so she is childish and fat shames. I let my kids follow their passion and when they no longer had that passion I let them quit.

[Anonymous]

OP, let your kid steer the ship. There’s so little they have control over right now. DD was also a competitive travel player (traveled overseas etc). Decided she did not want to play HS. But it was because she wanted to get involved in other activities - which she did and loved. Had I pushed her to play soccer, she would have - and would have missed out on the wonderful activity she became involved in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, because OP doesn't know anything about truly competitive soccer.

I suspect this is more about OP's social climbing. She's having a hard time finding a foothold with the private school social scene she wants to be a part of, and thinks that if her kid joins the soccer team, that will be her "in."

I suspect neither of you read all the posts before commenting. Several of us believe OP obfuscated details to remain anonymous in their town. Smart really. This is more likely about a DD playing field hockey for Madeira while being recruited by Brown.

Except field hockey is not a spring sport (at least where I am). Maybe lacrosse?

Private school HS soccer is played in the Fall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, because OP doesn't know anything about truly competitive soccer.

I suspect this is more about OP's social climbing. She's having a hard time finding a foothold with the private school social scene she wants to be a part of, and thinks that if her kid joins the soccer team, that will be her "in."

I suspect neither of you read all the posts before commenting. Several of us believe OP obfuscated details to remain anonymous in their town. Smart really. This is more likely about a DD playing field hockey for Madeira while being recruited by Brown.

Except field hockey is not a spring sport (at least where I am). Maybe lacrosse?

Private school HS soccer is played in the Fall.

Uhhh, not this year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, because OP doesn't know anything about truly competitive soccer.

I suspect this is more about OP's social climbing. She's having a hard time finding a foothold with the private school social scene she wants to be a part of, and thinks that if her kid joins the soccer team, that will be her "in."

I suspect neither of you read all the posts before commenting. Several of us believe OP obfuscated details to remain anonymous in their town. Smart really. This is more likely about a DD playing field hockey for Madeira while being recruited by Brown.

That doesn't change my suspicion that this has at least as much to do with OP's social climbing as an concern about her child. It also doesn't change the fact that OP is a terrible person based on her attacks on other posters and their kids, and that she shows little regard for her child's actual wellbeing.

Oh. My. Gawd.

Step away from your computer lady. Get a grip. Take a deep breath. Call your mom. Someone is not a "terrible person" because they hurt your feelings on the internet.

Stalin was a terrible person.
Hitler was a terrible person.
Dahmer was a terrible person.

Some anonymous stranger on the interwebs alluding that your kid is fat and playing video games (which, face it, huge numbers of kids are, it's a national crisis if you really want to take it there) is not the end of the world or indicative of one's self worth.

Maybe it hurt because its true.

Jeeeeeesus Christ some of you are lunatics.

DP. Eh, stop the drama. You sound lunatic yourself with this Godwin's law nonsense. It's no big deal to say OP sounds pretty terrible. The baseline for terrible behavior isn't Stalin, fortunately.

Also, she obviously knows nothing about competitive soccer.

[Anonymous]

^^I agree with PP and am chortling over this excellent sentence: “The baseline for terrible behavior isn't Stalin, fortunately.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^I agree with PP and am chortling over this excellent sentence: “The baseline for terrible behavior isn't Stalin, fortunately.”

This is the content I come here for.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he can do a play! Do they have a theater program?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If he was truly competitive in soccer he would be playing Academy and couldn't play HS anyhow. So why bother with school soccer? I don't understand why you care.

OP again. You don't understand why I think my son would benefit from a positive connection with his new school?

Does the positive connection have to be soccer?

OP again- it's the most logical one. And he's already being recruited by colleges and universities so it would be beneficial to stay in that realm.

I will add- lots of you must have abject failures for kids. Insisting your child stay disciplined in something he excels at is a positive, not a negative. But, something tells me your kids are fat and sitting on a play station in the basement.

Well, I posted that you are making a big mistake, with a TJ kid who just posted a 3.8 first semester with 19 credits in a tough STEM and a transition to college during COVID. He’s also a talented musician, and most importantly, a kind kid with good values and empathy. There we broad limits on college, but he chose which one. We have always expected him to work hard. But no one forced TJ on an unwilling kid, forced him to stay, chose which track he took, chose his college, chose his major, chooses his college classes.

Your kid is either going to rebel or burn out. If he’s working so hard, at least given him options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, because OP doesn't know anything about truly competitive soccer.

I suspect this is more about OP's social climbing. She's having a hard time finding a foothold with the private school social scene she wants to be a part of, and thinks that if her kid joins the soccer team, that will be her "in."

I suspect neither of you read all the posts before commenting. Several of us believe OP obfuscated details to remain anonymous in their town. Smart really. This is more likely about a DD playing field hockey for Madeira while being recruited by Brown.

That doesn't change my suspicion that this has at least as much to do with OP's social climbing as an concern about her child. It also doesn't change the fact that OP is a terrible person based on her attacks on other posters and their kids, and that she shows little regard for her child's actual wellbeing.

Oh. My. Gawd.

Step away from your computer lady. Get a grip. Take a deep breath. Call your mom. Someone is not a "terrible person" because they hurt your feelings on the internet.

Stalin was a terrible person.
Hitler was a terrible person.
Dahmer was a terrible person.

Some anonymous stranger on the interwebs alluding that your kid is fat and playing video games (which, face it, huge numbers of kids are, it's a national crisis if you really want to take it there) is not the end of the world or indicative of one's self worth.

Maybe it hurt because its true.

Jeeeeeesus Christ some of you are lunatics.

This. So. Much. This.

[Anonymous]

The worst part of this thread is the abusive parents that refuse to set rules for their children! Yes, children! Unless they are 18 they are KIDS!!!! And you are supposed to raise them, not let them fend for themselves. Shame on all you child abusers!!!

[Anonymous]

OP, I understand where you are coming from but there comes a point when you no longer can force your kids to do anything. My son is very musically talented but he decided to not continue it in high school and really I just cant make him. In your situation he is already playing club and rec team so is keeping him skills up. This is also pandemic year so a lot of kids are not playing the sports that they usually do.
Just let it go and hopefully he will come around and join the team next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was truly competitive in soccer he would be playing Academy and couldn't play HS anyhow. So why bother with school soccer? I don't understand why you care.

OP again. You don't understand why I think my son would benefit from a positive connection with his new school?

Does the positive connection have to be soccer?

OP again- it's the most logical one. And he's already being recruited by colleges and universities so it would be beneficial to stay in that realm.

I will add- lots of you must have abject failures for kids. Insisting your child stay disciplined in something he excels at is a positive, not a negative. But, something tells me your kids are fat and sitting on a play station in the basement.

DP. Wow. Sorry I tried to help you by using my experience as a parent of a kid who transferred into a rigorous private school who competes on three teams in his sport. Good luck to your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The worst part of this thread is the abusive parents that refuse to set rules for their children! Yes, children! Unless they are 18 they are KIDS!!!! And you are supposed to raise them, not let them fend for themselves. Shame on all you child abusers!!!

You must be posting in the wrong thread. Where are the posts of people who set no rules for their kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a troll, because OP doesn't know anything about truly competitive soccer.

I suspect this is more about OP's social climbing. She's having a hard time finding a foothold with the private school social scene she wants to be a part of, and thinks that if her kid joins the soccer team, that will be her "in."

I suspect neither of you read all the posts before commenting. Several of us believe OP obfuscated details to remain anonymous in their town. Smart really. This is more likely about a DD playing field hockey for Madeira while being recruited by Brown.

That doesn't change my suspicion that this has at least as much to do with OP's social climbing as an concern about her child. It also doesn't change the fact that OP is a terrible person based on her attacks on other posters and their kids, and that she shows little regard for her child's actual wellbeing.

Oh. My. Gawd.

Step away from your computer lady. Get a grip. Take a deep breath. Call your mom. Someone is not a "terrible person" because they hurt your feelings on the internet.

Stalin was a terrible person.
Hitler was a terrible person.
Dahmer was a terrible person.

Some anonymous stranger on the interwebs alluding that your kid is fat and playing video games (which, face it, huge numbers of kids are, it's a national crisis if you really want to take it there) is not the end of the world or indicative of one's self worth.

Maybe it hurt because its true.

Jeeeeeesus Christ some of you are lunatics.

This. So. Much. This.

Nice try sock-puppeting, OP. You are officially nuts.