a friend mom-shamed me out of nowhere

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are on edge and acting off these days. I would hold off on responding and wait for her to contact again. If she comments on the lack of response I would just let her know you had no idea how to respond to such an email.

This. Lots of people I know are super tense right now. And maybe her kid’s party was a bust and she was feeling bad about that and wrongfully blaming you. Some people feel judged and therefore aggressive towards those who are more cautious in their covid approach, like somehow meat-eaters go after vegetarians even if the vegetarian has just been quietly going about their business.

Let it go this once but if she brings it up, just say you have a different take on covid but you value her friendship and your son values her son’s friendship, and you’re looking forward to normal life again! Then make a plan to do a social distance get-together.

This. why are people having parties right now?!

[Anonymous]

I'd just tell her to go to Hell.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, I have a friend who is capable of this kind of nonsense.

We are close enough where I wouldn't cut her off - she is probably closer to a sister than a friend at this point.
If she sent me such rubbish, I would call her and bite her head off. Fortunately she can take the heat.

If any "regular" friend said this to me, the friendship would be over.

[Anonymous]

Ghosting can serve it's intended purpose.

See what happens if you go silent. Don't engage. At all.

I did this with a smaller group of ever increasing cliquish moms: an odd combo of college friends, a queen bee, a social climber and another dealing with intense personal issues. Suddenly, the group turned into a competition to "help" (provide gifts, hang out with, talk to, host parties ...
curry favor for one w/ issues). Absolutely sickening with social media posts and photo ops and blogs.

I walked away and ghosted them all. Occasionally have run into one or two, I'll get the "we never see you..." and we'll exchange pleasantries but that's it. They don't care about me and I don't care about them - these are not friends.

I'm willing to guess that if you don't reach out, you won't hear from this friend again. You will not miss her and will actually be relieved that you've removed the toxicity!