Your child is a spoiled brat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love lax parents. Every time I hear a parent say, "Now Everrett/Mary, is it nice to kick the cat? How do you fink the wittle kittie feels when you do that?" or see them ignore their kids' spitting, hitting, disrespectful speech as toddlers, preschoolers, and elementary schoolers, I see dollar signs. Those kids are inevitable future clients for me.

Keep up the poor parenting, DC Metro!

Please tell me you're not a therapist b/c those lines rub me the wrong way.

talk about going into a field for the wrong reasons

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love lax parents. Every time I hear a parent say, "Now Everrett/Mary, is it nice to kick the cat? How do you fink the wittle kittie feels when you do that?" or see them ignore their kids' spitting, hitting, disrespectful speech as toddlers, preschoolers, and elementary schoolers, I see dollar signs. Those kids are inevitable future clients for me.

Keep up the poor parenting, DC Metro!


Please tell me you're not a therapist b/c those lines rub me the wrong way.

talk about going into a field for the wrong reasons

I'm sure it's a lawyer. Takes an asshole to work with an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:13:50, I think I have the same son. I have him on a short leash at all times and it's exhausting.

Lord, these kids are so hard. And the flipping brilliant IQ only makes it that much more miserable in dealing with him.

i would feel like a total failure if my other child weren't sunny, sweet and well-behaved.

That said, yes OP, there are a whole lot of parents in this area who have a hard time being the grown up. It's truly horrible to be around them and their children and I regularly avoid a close friend over this very issue.

I think it is comforting to believe that misbehavior is a side effect of brilliance, but it is not. There are brilliant kids who are very well-behaved.

Brilliant or not, some kids are just a pain the *ss. I have two like that. I have no idea if they have high IQs or not. But, I can tell you that they are just brattier than a lot of other kids. Or "spirited" if you prefer. (They are cute and lovable, too). We are not wimpy parents. We are firm. Sometimes we yell. We consistently use time outs. But, they are tough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love lax parents. Every time I hear a parent say, "Now Everrett/Mary, is it nice to kick the cat? How do you fink the wittle kittie feels when you do that?" or see them ignore their kids' spitting, hitting, disrespectful speech as toddlers, preschoolers, and elementary schoolers, I see dollar signs. Those kids are inevitable future clients for me.

Keep up the poor parenting, DC Metro!


Please tell me you're not a therapist b/c those lines rub me the wrong way.

talk about going into a field for the wrong reasons

I'm sure it's a lawyer. Takes an asshole to work with an asshole.

Could be a corrections officer.

[Anonymous]

"What on earth would give you the impression that this (or any parenting or other behavior) is exclusive to the DC area?"

There does seem to be a high concentration of socially inept adults. Just an observation. Strike a nerve, PP?

[Anonymous]

OK, Brat Parents. So far I have seen nothing but rationalizations, taunts, and excuses. The list so far:

1. High IQ either comes with behavior problems or makes them harder to control. Sorry, unless your kid is named Wolfgang and is currently working on a new piece for the harpsichord, it's no excuse. Stop deluding yourself that this is the cost of mental greatness.

2. MYOB. Great, if you keep bad behavior out of the way of others, that's fine. But you don't. Your kid is bad to other kids and is a bad influence on them as well.

3. You have the things that upset you as a parent, I have the things that upset me as a parent. To each their own. No, this is not about personal preferences. This is about generally agreed bratty behavior.

4. Picky parent. If you are so picky about other children, you will lose all your friends because of your unrealistic standards. Yeah, right. Fortunately brats are the minority and the standards are not all that tight. Just too tight for you.

5. Parents have been whining about kids for eons. They aren't any different than in the past. Not a chance. Kids absolutely do things today that they did not do decades ago. I can't believe this point even needs to be defended in an age where kids are sexting each other.

6. If your parenting is so good, then why are you worried about my brat acting up in front of your kid? Any good parent knows that we need to keep our kids away from bad influences.



I saw maybe one poster who actually said their kids are badly behaved, they really do use consistent and reasonable discipline, but they are still brats and it's a struggle. I can respect that and have sympathy.

But for the rest of you, enough with the crap. Owning up to your situation is the first step to changing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love lax parents. Every time I hear a parent say, "Now Everrett/Mary, is it nice to kick the cat? How do you fink the wittle kittie feels when you do that?" or see them ignore their kids' spitting, hitting, disrespectful speech as toddlers, preschoolers, and elementary schoolers, I see dollar signs. Those kids are inevitable future clients for me.

Keep up the poor parenting, DC Metro!

LOL! btw, we poor parents just can't win. I know people may think my children are bratty sometimes because you know what, they are CHILDREN and sometimes children are bratty. 95% of the time they are angels but that other 5% they are devils. My goal is just to make sure they are angels 100% of the time with old people.

[Anonymous]

Meh. This stinks of "when I was a kid we trudge 20 miles in the snow w/o shoes. . . ." A bunch of crumudgeons.

Yeah, there are bratty kids. There were bratty kids ages ago and there are now. But what exactly do people have to "own up to"? Differences in parenting?

I do some of the things that people are stating are not effective or lead to brats. My kid is not a brat. She is 2. She has her moments. But, overall, is a thoughtful, sweet, very smart (no idea about her IQ and don't care) girl.

I'm so sick of the people saying "kids these days" are coddled or whatever. You sound like your parents. And your parents before that. Get a life. Stay out of mine. Parent your own kids. And stuff your opinion about mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who don't have children who are defiant, stubborn, and have very high IQs have no idea how difficult it can be to parent those children. My kid is unbelievably difficult, but he is also extremely smart and has a wicked sense of humor. AND he hits me, screams at me, and defies me several times every day. He is always punished for the behavior, but it continues. He also tells me how much he loves me and is extremely polite to strangers and helps younger kids and his teachers adore him. So, he may be a brat at times, but anyone who suggests I'm not trying to raise him properly can F off.

You are so describing my son and my life. It's super hard. I am right there with you. I am a teacher with years of training under my belt, My FIL is a well known and respected psychologist whom I turn to for advice often and I still don't feel like I have things under control. My son is 3 1/2 and I am hoping that at 4 he will chill out a bit.

[Anonymous]

OK, Brat Parents. So far I have seen nothing but rationalizations, taunts, and excuses. The list so far:

1. High IQ either comes with behavior problems or makes them harder to control. Sorry, unless your kid is named Wolfgang and is currently working on a new piece for the harpsichord, it's no excuse. Stop deluding yourself that this is the cost of mental greatness.

2. MYOB. Great, if you keep bad behavior out of the way of others, that's fine. But you don't. Your kid is bad to other kids and is a bad influence on them as well.

3. You have the things that upset you as a parent, I have the things that upset me as a parent. To each their own. No, this is not about personal preferences. This is about generally agreed bratty behavior.

4. Picky parent. If you are so picky about other children, you will lose all your friends because of your unrealistic standards. Yeah, right. Fortunately brats are the minority and the standards are not all that tight. Just too tight for you.

5. Parents have been whining about kids for eons. They aren't any different than in the past. Not a chance. Kids absolutely do things today that they did not do decades ago. I can't believe this point even needs to be defended in an age where kids are sexting each other.

6. If your parenting is so good, then why are you worried about my brat acting up in front of your kid? Any good parent knows that we need to keep our kids away from bad influences.



I saw maybe one poster who actually said their kids are badly behaved, they really do use consistent and reasonable discipline, but they are still brats and it's a struggle. I can respect that and have sympathy.

But for the rest of you, enough with the crap. Owning up to your situation is the first step to changing it.

Lady, I saw you and your kid out the other day and your kids are BRATS. I'm sure others thought the same thing.

Stop spending so much time on the damn computer and start parenting your kids.

[Anonymous]

OK, Brat Parents. So far I have seen nothing but rationalizations, taunts, and excuses. The list so far:

1. High IQ either comes with behavior problems or makes them harder to control. Sorry, unless your kid is named Wolfgang and is currently working on a new piece for the harpsichord, it's no excuse. Stop deluding yourself that this is the cost of mental greatness. Some smart kids are better at manipulating, sneaking, and getting into trouble than their dim counterparts. Maybe yours aren't so smart, so you don't understand this concept. Smart kids get bored with their peers and often times among youth boredom leads to mischief.

2. MYOB. Great, if you keep bad behavior out of the way of others, that's fine. But you don't. Your kid is bad to other kids and is a bad influence on them as well. If you have great control of your kids and they are so well disciplined, this shouldn't be a problem for you. Sorry to break it to you, but all your child's bad behavior isn't the result of mimicking a bratty child. Your child is a brat, too.

3. You have the things that upset you as a parent, I have the things that upset me as a parent. To each their own. No, this is not about personal preferences. This is about generally agreed bratty behavior. Generally agreed on by who? Why do you assume your personal preferences are "generally agreed on" across the board? You sound like a brat yourself.

4. Picky parent. If you are so picky about other children, you will lose all your friends because of your unrealistic standards. Yeah, right. Fortunately brats are the minority and the standards are not all that tight. Just too tight for you. I didn't see anyone making this argument. I saw posters asking the whining moms why they are friends with people they clearly can't stand. If your friend's behavior upsets you so much that it causes you to think about it days later and rant to strangers about it, and you fear how it is going to influence your darling child . . . . time to act like a parent and limit access to those dear friends.

5. Parents have been whining about kids for eons. They aren't any different than in the past. Not a chance. Kids absolutely do things today that they did not do decades ago. I can't believe this point even needs to be defended in an age where kids are sexting each other. LOL . . . what rock did you climb out from? Yes, cell phones weren't around in the 1980s, but imagine what DCUM's would have thought of "free love" of the 1960s, living in communes, the drug use of the 1970s, sex parties in high school in the 1980s, games like "the lipstick game" and "poker face" in the 1990s and still some today . . . that is just off the top of my head. Just because cell phones weren't invented years ago doesn't mean kids are suddenly worse today. Parents have been saying "Kids these days!" for decades. Every generation thinks the kids of its generation are just awful. People thought it about you and your generation . . . and look at you!

6. If your parenting is so good, then why are you worried about my brat acting up in front of your kid? Any good parent knows that we need to keep our kids away from bad influences. They why don't you? If a child is a bad influence on your child, limit access to those bad influences. Then the problem isn't your problem anymore. See #2 above. It may require you to actually parent.



I saw maybe one poster who actually said their kids are badly behaved, they really do use consistent and reasonable discipline, but they are still brats and it's a struggle. I can respect that and have sympathy. [b] LOL, glad you agree with the one person in this discussion who agrees with you.

But for the rest of you, enough with the crap. Owning up to your situation is the first step to changing it.

[Anonymous]

Why is there always so much talk about IQ on these boards? Geez, we all know that if you really had a high IQ, and therefore may be able to pass that onto your kids, you wouldn't be here bragging about it or desperately trying to get your kids the right schools. You would be out there using that gift and possibly even be handsomely rewarded (and not talking about being a banker, lawyer, etc) for that kind of talent. The truly gifted naturally rise to the top; no need for the parents to bully and battle the way to second tier for their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, Brat Parents. So far I have seen nothing but rationalizations, taunts, and excuses. The list so far:

1. High IQ either comes with behavior problems or makes them harder to control. Sorry, unless your kid is named Wolfgang and is currently working on a new piece for the harpsichord, it's no excuse. Stop deluding yourself that this is the cost of mental greatness. Some smart kids are better at manipulating, sneaking, and getting into trouble than their dim counterparts. Maybe yours aren't so smart, so you don't understand this concept. Smart kids get bored with their peers and often times among youth boredom leads to mischief.

2. MYOB. Great, if you keep bad behavior out of the way of others, that's fine. But you don't. Your kid is bad to other kids and is a bad influence on them as well. If you have great control of your kids and they are so well disciplined, this shouldn't be a problem for you. Sorry to break it to you, but all your child's bad behavior isn't the result of mimicking a bratty child. Your child is a brat, too.

3. You have the things that upset you as a parent, I have the things that upset me as a parent. To each their own. No, this is not about personal preferences. This is about generally agreed bratty behavior. Generally agreed on by who? Why do you assume your personal preferences are "generally agreed on" across the board? You sound like a brat yourself.

4. Picky parent. If you are so picky about other children, you will lose all your friends because of your unrealistic standards. Yeah, right. Fortunately brats are the minority and the standards are not all that tight. Just too tight for you. I didn't see anyone making this argument. I saw posters asking the whining moms why they are friends with people they clearly can't stand. If your friend's behavior upsets you so much that it causes you to think about it days later and rant to strangers about it, and you fear how it is going to influence your darling child . . . . time to act like a parent and limit access to those dear friends.

5. Parents have been whining about kids for eons. They aren't any different than in the past. Not a chance. Kids absolutely do things today that they did not do decades ago. I can't believe this point even needs to be defended in an age where kids are sexting each other. LOL . . . what rock did you climb out from? Yes, cell phones weren't around in the 1980s, but imagine what DCUM's would have thought of "free love" of the 1960s, living in communes, the drug use of the 1970s, sex parties in high school in the 1980s, games like "the lipstick game" and "poker face" in the 1990s and still some today . . . that is just off the top of my head. Just because cell phones weren't invented years ago doesn't mean kids are suddenly worse today. Parents have been saying "Kids these days!" for decades. Every generation thinks the kids of its generation are just awful. People thought it about you and your generation . . . and look at you!

6. If your parenting is so good, then why are you worried about my brat acting up in front of your kid? Any good parent knows that we need to keep our kids away from bad influences. They why don't you? If a child is a bad influence on your child, limit access to those bad influences. Then the problem isn't your problem anymore. See #2 above. It may require you to actually parent.



I saw maybe one poster who actually said their kids are badly behaved, they really do use consistent and reasonable discipline, but they are still brats and it's a struggle. I can respect that and have sympathy. [b] LOL, glad you agree with the one person in this discussion who agrees with you.

But for the rest of you, enough with the crap. Owning up to your situation is the first step to changing it.

Sorry hon. If you can't see the validity of a single point, then you are the problem. You and your sex parties.

[Anonymous]

22:13, here is what I don't get.

Why is it that when you see a child misbehave, that child is a brat, but when your darling child misbehaves, it is because they MUST have picked up the behavior from a "bad influence?"

For every time you think your child picks up a negative behavior from a bad influence, there is another parent out there thinking YOUR child is the bad influence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm really sick of snotty bitches like you. Am neither speaking directly to you, nor accusing you of anything. Merely offering an example. I shouldn't actually have to explain this particular incident in full--but in fact, the parents weren't friends of ours, in spite of the fact that they were at our house. Don't you have anything better to do than to try to jump on every individual response from someone and pick on that individual to make it about them? Seriously, fuck off back to whatever hole you crawled out off. Really really tired of you.

Hi, I'm part of a discussion but I'm not actually talking to anyone in the discussion, so don't respond to my post. And if I give an example that doesn't make sense, don't question me on it because I'm not going to offer further details. In fact, I'll just demonstrate poor parenting skills by swearing at people who question me.

Oh, grow up already. Obviously her comment hit a nerve with you, and by your replies, it's obvious why: because you are a bad parent. If you were a good parent, you could handle feedback without getting defensive and nasty. Do your kids a favor and start teaching them a thing or two about manners, instead of attacking people who actually expect good behavior from them as being unreasonable or having a problem. The only one with a "problem" here is YOU, as evidenced.

Have a nice day.