Parents poaching teens friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True friends can't be poached. If you kid was really liked, they wouldn't stop hanging out with them.

The other kid is very kind and looked like an easy target. That is different than what you are saying. You sound like one of the socially stunted moms that are involved to an extremely unhealthy degree. You probably attack other moms, while you are at it. If they defend themselves, and they do, you try to flip it around. So overdone and predictable. Learn to step off, instead of trying to flip things around - you and your kid will be much happier.

You're calling someone out for being unhealthy and stunted when they say MYOFB? Meanwhile, you're advocating for doing the SAME thing you are accusing the "crazy Mom" of dong. Look into the mirror crazy, hypocritical, helicopter Mom.

For noticing that a mom is out to hurt a teen? In what world is this normal behavior to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True friends can't be poached. If you kid was really liked, they wouldn't stop hanging out with them.

The other kid is very kind and looked like an easy target. That is different than what you are saying. You sound like one of the socially stunted moms that are involved to an extremely unhealthy degree. You probably attack other moms, while you are at it. If they defend themselves, and they do, you try to flip it around. So overdone and predictable. Learn to step off, instead of trying to flip things around - you and your kid will be much happier.

You're calling someone out for being unhealthy and stunted when they say MYOFB? Meanwhile, you're advocating for doing the SAME thing you are accusing the "crazy Mom" of dong. Look into the mirror crazy, hypocritical, helicopter Mom.

Sounds personal for that Mom. Maybe she had no friends growing up? Sounds like we can understand why.

This is what I was wondering about the social engineering mom. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True friends can't be poached. If you kid was really liked, they wouldn't stop hanging out with them.

The other kid is very kind and looked like an easy target. That is different than what you are saying. You sound like one of the socially stunted moms that are involved to an extremely unhealthy degree. You probably attack other moms, while you are at it. If they defend themselves, and they do, you try to flip it around. So overdone and predictable. Learn to step off, instead of trying to flip things around - you and your kid will be much happier.

You're calling someone out for being unhealthy and stunted when they say MYOFB? Meanwhile, you're advocating for doing the SAME thing you are accusing the "crazy Mom" of dong. Look into the mirror crazy, hypocritical, helicopter Mom.

For noticing that a mom is out to hurt a teen? In what world is this normal behavior to you?

Hurting a teen? Please, the drama. Teens are more than capable of deciding for themselves who they want to hang out with. NO MOM at that age can socially engineer anything. Face it, your kid isn't liked by this friend and possibly others. Maybe instead of complaining about others, you should look closer to home.

[Anonymous]

This is so weird to me-- it takes months for DS14 to admit to me that he has friends, and then more months to admit that they have names. One of his friend's parents owns some local restaurants so I've encouraged DS to get in good with that kid in case we can get coupons for free appetizers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True friends can't be poached. If you kid was really liked, they wouldn't stop hanging out with them.

The other kid is very kind and looked like an easy target. That is different than what you are saying. You sound like one of the socially stunted moms that are involved to an extremely unhealthy degree. You probably attack other moms, while you are at it. If they defend themselves, and they do, you try to flip it around. So overdone and predictable. Learn to step off, instead of trying to flip things around - you and your kid will be much happier.

You're calling someone out for being unhealthy and stunted when they say MYOFB? Meanwhile, you're advocating for doing the SAME thing you are accusing the "crazy Mom" of dong. Look into the mirror crazy, hypocritical, helicopter Mom.

For noticing that a mom is out to hurt a teen? In what world is this normal behavior to you?

Hurting a teen? Please, the drama. Teens are more than capable of deciding for themselves who they want to hang out with. NO MOM at that age can socially engineer anything. Face it, your kid isn't liked by this friend and possibly others. Maybe instead of complaining about others, you should look closer to home.

It's not about me. Nor is it about you. But you think it is, so you are unreasonably defensive. What/WHO else do you poach? Where does it end? Why can't you get your own friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so weird to me-- it takes months for DS14 to admit to me that he has friends, and then more months to admit that they have names. One of his friend's parents owns some local restaurants so I've encouraged DS to get in good with that kid in case we can get coupons for free appetizers.

LOL this is one of the benefits of having boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True friends can't be poached. If you kid was really liked, they wouldn't stop hanging out with them.

The other kid is very kind and looked like an easy target. That is different than what you are saying. You sound like one of the socially stunted moms that are involved to an extremely unhealthy degree. You probably attack other moms, while you are at it. If they defend themselves, and they do, you try to flip it around. So overdone and predictable. Learn to step off, instead of trying to flip things around - you and your kid will be much happier.

You're calling someone out for being unhealthy and stunted when they say MYOFB? Meanwhile, you're advocating for doing the SAME thing you are accusing the "crazy Mom" of dong. Look into the mirror crazy, hypocritical, helicopter Mom.

For noticing that a mom is out to hurt a teen? In what world is this normal behavior to you?

Hurting a teen? Please, the drama. Teens are more than capable of deciding for themselves who they want to hang out with. NO MOM at that age can socially engineer anything. Face it, your kid isn't liked by this friend and possibly others. Maybe instead of complaining about others, you should look closer to home.

It's not about me. Nor is it about you. But you think it is, so you are unreasonably defensive. What/WHO else do you poach? Where does it end? Why can't you get your own friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True friends can't be poached. If you kid was really liked, they wouldn't stop hanging out with them.

The other kid is very kind and looked like an easy target. That is different than what you are saying. You sound like one of the socially stunted moms that are involved to an extremely unhealthy degree. You probably attack other moms, while you are at it. If they defend themselves, and they do, you try to flip it around. So overdone and predictable. Learn to step off, instead of trying to flip things around - you and your kid will be much happier.

You're calling someone out for being unhealthy and stunted when they say MYOFB? Meanwhile, you're advocating for doing the SAME thing you are accusing the "crazy Mom" of dong. Look into the mirror crazy, hypocritical, helicopter Mom.

For noticing that a mom is out to hurt a teen? In what world is this normal behavior to you?

Hurting a teen? Please, the drama. Teens are more than capable of deciding for themselves who they want to hang out with. NO MOM at that age can socially engineer anything. Face it, your kid isn't liked by this friend and possibly others. Maybe instead of complaining about others, you should look closer to home.

It's not about me. Nor is it about you. But you think it is, so you are unreasonably defensive. What/WHO else do you poach? Where does it end? Why can't you get your own friends?

NP. OP seems very passionate bout this issue. It appears more is going on here than just normal girls changing friends in the teen years (which happened to all 3 of my daughters friends groups from 12-17). Perhaps, she can speak with a professional?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True friends can't be poached. If you kid was really liked, they wouldn't stop hanging out with them.

The other kid is very kind and looked like an easy target. That is different than what you are saying. You sound like one of the socially stunted moms that are involved to an extremely unhealthy degree. You probably attack other moms, while you are at it. If they defend themselves, and they do, you try to flip it around. So overdone and predictable. Learn to step off, instead of trying to flip things around - you and your kid will be much happier.

You're calling someone out for being unhealthy and stunted when they say MYOFB? Meanwhile, you're advocating for doing the SAME thing you are accusing the "crazy Mom" of dong. Look into the mirror crazy, hypocritical, helicopter Mom.

For noticing that a mom is out to hurt a teen? In what world is this normal behavior to you?

Hurting a teen? Please, the drama. Teens are more than capable of deciding for themselves who they want to hang out with. NO MOM at that age can socially engineer anything. Face it, your kid isn't liked by this friend and possibly others. Maybe instead of complaining about others, you should look closer to home.

Agree. Teen girls will not be bullied or forced to hang out with girls they wish to avoid for social or other reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True friends can't be poached. If you kid was really liked, they wouldn't stop hanging out with them.

The other kid is very kind and looked like an easy target. That is different than what you are saying. You sound like one of the socially stunted moms that are involved to an extremely unhealthy degree. You probably attack other moms, while you are at it. If they defend themselves, and they do, you try to flip it around. So overdone and predictable. Learn to step off, instead of trying to flip things around - you and your kid will be much happier.

You're calling someone out for being unhealthy and stunted when they say MYOFB? Meanwhile, you're advocating for doing the SAME thing you are accusing the "crazy Mom" of dong. Look into the mirror crazy, hypocritical, helicopter Mom.

For noticing that a mom is out to hurt a teen? In what world is this normal behavior to you?

Hurting a teen? Please, the drama. Teens are more than capable of deciding for themselves who they want to hang out with. NO MOM at that age can socially engineer anything. Face it, your kid isn't liked by this friend and possibly others. Maybe instead of complaining about others, you should look closer to home.

It's not about me. Nor is it about you. But you think it is, so you are unreasonably defensive. What/WHO else do you poach? Where does it end? Why can't you get your own friends?

NP. OP seems very passionate bout this issue. It appears more is going on here than just normal girls changing friends in the teen years (which happened to all 3 of my daughters friends groups from 12-17). Perhaps, she can speak with a professional?

I would agree with this.

[Anonymous]

The only really bizarre thing on this thread was the Mom and the teen boy. Everything else is sadly, normal girl drama in MS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:True friends can't be poached. If you kid was really liked, they wouldn't stop hanging out with them.

The other kid is very kind and looked like an easy target. That is different than what you are saying. You sound like one of the socially stunted moms that are involved to an extremely unhealthy degree. You probably attack other moms, while you are at it. If they defend themselves, and they do, you try to flip it around. So overdone and predictable. Learn to step off, instead of trying to flip things around - you and your kid will be much happier.

You're calling someone out for being unhealthy and stunted when they say MYOFB? Meanwhile, you're advocating for doing the SAME thing you are accusing the "crazy Mom" of dong. Look into the mirror crazy, hypocritical, helicopter Mom.

For noticing that a mom is out to hurt a teen? In what world is this normal behavior to you?

Hurting a teen? Please, the drama. Teens are more than capable of deciding for themselves who they want to hang out with. NO MOM at that age can socially engineer anything. Face it, your kid isn't liked by this friend and possibly others. Maybe instead of complaining about others, you should look closer to home.

+1

[Anonymous]

If I tried to do this with my DD while she was a teen she would have laughed at me and told me she would die of embarrassment. I will tell you that any time my DD didn't want to hang out with another girl at this age, she would blame it on me. "My Moms says I can't". "My Mom made other plans for me" etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a really strange situation, so I acknowledge that first. We have a group of mom friends (I know, I hate that term too - call it whatever) from way back when. Some have boys, some have girls, most in the same age range. One of the moms is talking about (and preoccupied with) which teens are friends with which, and who could she "get to hang out with" her teen. Specifically, she was talking about "poaching" a particular teen friend from one of the nice teens. I though it sounded evil and contorted, and over involved, so I said so. She got really angry with me, and says she (basically has "exigent circumstances" for doing so - we are all in the same boat, so no, she does not). She asked for our opinion, but didn't really want it. What she was talking about seemed really mean and contrived - like an adult mean girl. Should I tell the mom of the nice teen what transpired? This sounds like the mom has some teen score to settle of her own, and I don't think what she is doing is right. Or should I MYOB? Not sure what to think of a mom who has to know who other teens hang out with - that reeks of ill intent. Sorry if this question seems immature, the situation is.

You're way to involved in this teen drama. Yes, you should MYOB as you asked.

[Anonymous]

Where do these parents live and is this public or private? I can’t imagine having a conversation like this.