Girlfriend’s mother obsessed with my lack of height

[Anonymous]

Your gf should be able to decide for herself if you are marriage material, how she feels about the height difference now that you have been dating, and how she feels about you. Her mom should not be in the middle of your relationship. The question is if this is relationship immaturity or is it part of who she is and one of those packaged deals.

The red flag to me is that she needs her mom to help make up her mind and she repeats back what her mom says.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 20’s guy dating a woman of similar age for the past year. I’m pretty short for a man (5’3-5’6 range) and my girlfriend tells me her mother likes everything about me besides the fact I am short. Besides my height, her mother says I am considered marriage material (probably based on my career). Gf also said she probably would have gone for a different guy if I hadn’t tried hard in the beginning because my height was a negative for her as well. [b]Is this a red flag?

It's a red flag that gf would tell you something hurtful which should have no bearing on your relationship. It's almost as if she is trying to undermine your confidence.

So true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mom does not want her daughter to marry a manlet and breed manlet grandchildren.

Natural enough.

I knew someone when I was young who was a "manlet" except where it counts. He had a huge amount of confidence and got a lot of action. Once you got to know him : ) you learned why. He had an unusually large penis.

You don't, or your DH doesn't, PP. Sorry but height doesn't begin to compare to length.

This is such a weird post.

Who wants to date a short man-whore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Prince was short and the sexiest man alive

"Big D energy" was coined because of him.

[Anonymous]

There was a a short, nice looking, flirty guy in my dorm who seemed to date very successfully. I mean, this guy had "game" and he got lots of action. Over the years, he had multiple girlfriends over 5 feet 9 inches tall. Progressive borderline super models seemed to really like him.

Anyway, after a while, his name became part of what was almost a call and response style cheer that women in the dorm would say to one another.

Woman no. 1: "Joe Smith."

Woman no. 2: "Sure he's short, but it doesn't matter when you're lying down!"

OP should use this line to his GF's mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 5’7” and my college boyfriend was about 5’4”. He had great parents, and was amazingly self-confident and an all-around good, smart and interesting person.

Your gf shouldn’t be saying these sorts of things to you. It’s flat out rude and unkind. It could be she’s just immature, or it could be a sign of poor character. You’ll have to figure out which, and decide if there’s really a future there with here.

This. I’d have to wonder why GF is sharing what her mother is saying and why she feels the need to add her own “I wouldn’t have dated you, if...”. How old is she? I think she has some more maturing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How tall are you compared to your girlfriend? Is she taller than you? How do you look together as a couple? My DD is 5’1” and her boyfriend is 6’4” and quite handsome. They look a bit funky together but he adores her and that is much more important to me.

This is 100% note relevant to the OP's situation.

[Anonymous]

There is actually a subset of women who like short men, and in DC they seems to be in strong supply.

But your GF mother is just concerned about grandkids. Fact is taller people generally do better...you can see how the gene pool has evolved to favor taller people. Maybe show her pictured of tall relatives so she knows there are some recessive genes working?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How tall are you compared to your girlfriend? Is she taller than you? How do you look together as a couple? My DD is 5’1” and her boyfriend is 6’4” and quite handsome. They look a bit funky together but he adores her and that is much more important to me.

That he adores her is *more* important to you? It should be the ONLY thing that’s imporant. How they look together shouldn’t be a consideration at all, geez (“funky”.?? Wtf).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh. Im 5'4" and dh is 5'6". He is awesome and a badass. Of course i noticed his height right away but fell in love and still in love 10 years later. He is a great husband, wonderful, caring father. But also works out and keeps in good shape and has some great muscles and is only getting hotter with age.

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I don’t think of 5’6” men as short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 20’s guy dating a woman of similar age for the past year. I’m pretty short for a man (5’3-5’6 range) and my girlfriend tells me her mother likes everything about me besides the fact I am short. Besides my height, her mother says I am considered marriage material (probably based on my career). Gf also said she probably would have gone for a different guy if I hadn’t tried hard in the beginning because my height was a negative for her as well. Is this a red flag?

WTH? I think both statements from your GF are red flags and you should consider running. Unless there is some heavy context missing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom does not want her daughter to marry a manlet and breed manlet grandchildren.

Natural enough.

I knew someone when I was young who was a "manlet" except where it counts. He had a huge amount of confidence and got a lot of action. Once you got to know him : ) you learned why. He had an unusually large penis.

You don't, or your DH doesn't, PP. Sorry but height doesn't begin to compare to length.

This is such a weird post.

Who wants to date a short man-whore?

Plenty of women. That's the point of the post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Prince was short and the sexiest man alive

Subjective.

[Anonymous]

My colleague's husband is that height and she said she initially ghosted him because of it. He was confident, aware of why, and came back. Totally won her over and they are happy now with two kids. She acknowledges today that walking away initially was silly and shallow. She was in her mid 20s too.

[Anonymous]

This place is so white that it's calling 5'6" extremely short. Do you not know any Hispanics or Asians?