Girlfriend’s mother obsessed with my lack of height

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Anonymous wrote:Lol, OP here. I put a height range mainly for anonymity reasons because my Gf knows my exact height. I’m in the middle of that range. Yes there is a big difference between 5’3 and 5’6.

Um your GF would be able to ID you based on the rest of the story...

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I'm a 5'6 woman and my husband is a 5'6 man. Could not adore him any more. Our son is tall and our daughter is shorter than average. Life is uncertain, but don't invest in a relationship where you aren't mutually crazy about each other.

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Mom does not want her daughter to marry a manlet and breed manlet grandchildren.

Natural enough.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you 5’3” or 5’6”?

Realistically, this will be a negative for every woman you meet. In what context did your girlfriend bring this up? It’s not like it would even be possible to hide it.

He’s 5’4 and very probably a troll.

The short guy whose girlfriend openly admits she's with him only for the money, why would that be a troll?

I do find it funny how everyone is suddenly pretending that most women don't care about height at all, and that shorter guys don't struggle because of it.

You’re misreading based on your own bias. Lots of women care. There are some / many who won’t, and those are the ones OP should seek out. Dating is hard, but OP doesn’t need to settle for less love or less perfect of a relationship because he’s short.

No I'm not misreading. Folks are literally saying height shouldn't matter and women don't think about these things. Acting like gf is a bizarreo for having a preference most women have.

Read again. People are saying that height won’t matter to the right person. Some women care about height, just like *spoiler alert* it won’t matter to others. It’s going to matter more to white, MC and UMC, American born women who haven’t really experienced other cultures, than it is to a lot of other people.

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Anonymous wrote:That's quite a range OP, ha.

Depends on the heel of his boot.

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Anonymous wrote:The girlfriend obviously got passed it.

you either ignore her mom, or say, “quite frankly jean, I’m tired of you making comments about my height. Get over it.”

PAST

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Anonymous wrote:Mom does not want her daughter to marry a manlet and breed manlet grandchildren.

Natural enough.

I knew someone when I was young who was a "manlet" except where it counts. He had a huge amount of confidence and got a lot of action. Once you got to know him : ) you learned why. He had an unusually large penis.

You don't, or your DH doesn't, PP. Sorry but height doesn't begin to compare to length.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't like that your gf is framing the problem as her mother's problem. It's cowardly and dishonest on her part. If your height bothers her, she should own it and not make her mother the bad guy.

Even if her mother said it, why did she feel the need to repeat it? Height is out of your control so it's not worth discussing and not something you can work to improve.

Also, 5'3- 5'6 is a strange way to list height. Unlike weight, height can't fluctuate, lol. You are either one or the other. Further, 5'6 is also short for a man, so no point in stretching a truth that still places you in the same category.

Because OP is also insecure about his height. as someone says he needs to own it and match with someone who is shorter than himself or someone taller who doesn't care that much.

GF has a problem with the height, but I suspect her bluntness is a cultural difference.

That's the thing-- she's not actually being blunt; she's being passive aggressive.

I am not sure this is right. OP is obviously insecure. Did he ask his girlfriend what she thinks? Did he ask if anyone has said anything to her?

Most guys I dated who had some sort of insecurity would ask stuff like that so I am guessing he got these comments only after quizzing.

I was never insecure about my height growing up, mainly because I was clueless that women even cared about height until I was 20 or so. Once I realized it was a major issue I definitely became hyper aware for a while and blamed it for my lack of dating success. As for the quizzing, my girlfriend brought it up first and has always been the one to mention it. I never talk about my height with women because I know it will do absolutely no good and it’s already plainly obvious that I’m short. I let the girl bring it up and I shrug it off without getting angry or defensive, it’s really the only thing you can do. A man becoming visibly insecure is like blood in the water.

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Anonymous wrote:You guys. He FOUND a girl who doesn’t care about height “that much” (isn’t a realbreaker). He should dump her and find a girl who cares absolutely not even a little? None exist. Not from any culture. Come ON.

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I am 5’0 and had qualms about my now long term boyfriend because he’s 5’8. Women Are biologically wired to want want the best for their offspring and that includes not being too short. Don’t think it’s a red flag.

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Anonymous wrote:Mom does not want her daughter to marry a manlet and breed manlet grandchildren.

Natural enough.

I knew someone when I was young who was a "manlet" except where it counts. He had a huge amount of confidence and got a lot of action. Once you got to know him : ) you learned why. He had an unusually large penis.

You don't, or your DH doesn't, PP. Sorry but height doesn't begin to compare to length.

I'm a middle aged woman. The last boyfriend I dated was 5'6" and had unusually large you know what.

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My husband and are both 5’4’’. Never been a problem and we don’t even consider ourselves short people. I think it’s rude of them to point this out. By the way, My son is tall (got his genes from my dad side). Nothing wrong with not being tall. There are many places in the world were people are shorter and no one has a problem with it.

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Anonymous wrote:My stepfather is 5'4". Didn't stop him from marrying my awesome mom.

I'd be wary of marrying into this unkind family. Your girlfriend sounds insipid and her mom is a witch.

Ok, but your mom had some baggage. Doubt she would wpuld have qent for him if she was 25 with no kids. She took what she could get.

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Anonymous wrote:Gf also said she probably would have gone for a different guy if I hadn’t tried hard in the beginning because my height was a negative for her as well

"That's funny, I felt I was settling because of your small tits/flat butt/stomach/nose/insert insecurity here. I guess we're really well suited!"

The difference is: all those things can be changed and don't automatically get passed on to your own offspring. Unfortunately, short stature, especially for men, is seen as a negative. I married a man just below average height and my DS, who fortunately, grew eventually to almost 5' 11" worried his entire childhoold that he would wind up short and asking us why to short people would get married knowing their children would also be short. With that being said, GF is a jerk for sharing that. I would move along.

That’s ridiculous. Of course noses and breast size are heritable. I have my father’s nose and my tits are exactly like my mother’s.

Correct. But you can change them. You cannot make yourself tall.

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Prince was short and the sexiest man alive