Not emotionally impacted by current events

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Anonymous wrote:Haven't read all the responses but OP, I don't think you are abnormal for not being emotionally impacted. I don't think it's a bad thing.

I am emotionally impacted for sure. But DH is less so, and he's in a helping profession. But I think it's good that he doesn't carry that emotional burden with him constantly - he wouldn't be able to do his job otherwise. He can be empathic in the moment, but he doesn't carry it around with him or let it take over. He's able to compartmentalize or create some kind of distance, which allows him to do his job more effectively.

Exactly. This is how oncologists survive. This is how people who work for Doctors Without Borders work. Most of the people doing the most good are dispassionate. If you decide you want to go to Africa because you are just sick about how much suffering there is, they won't send you because you won't last. Do what good you can, take action on the important things but carrying someone else's burden does not lighten it for them, it just adds to yours.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with you OP it is just women borrowing trouble. Assuming you vote and care and stay informed, carrying around sorrow for someone or something you don’t know is childish and attention seeking. It is not noble. Thousands of people die every day in myriad tragic and terrible ways. Do what you can and then move on with your life. You only get one!

This. Privileged people who can afford to center themselves at he middle of every tragedy so they can feel something for once in their little lives. This is nothing new for those of us in the trenches working in our communities since before there was clout in performing online while still doing nothing to actually help.

Clout? You're jealous that others are finally catching on to the horrors you yourself were already aware of? Good God, if this isn't narcissism I don't know what is. If you really cared, you'd be happy those who were previously blissfully unaware are not catching on. Instead you're jealous. Do your cause a favor and set your ego aside for a change. This isn't about you being more aware than others -- it's about everyone becoming more aware.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with you OP it is just women borrowing trouble. Assuming you vote and care and stay informed, carrying around sorrow for someone or something you don’t know is childish and attention seeking. It is not noble. Thousands of people die every day in myriad tragic and terrible ways. Do what you can and then move on with your life. You only get one!

This. Privileged people who can afford to center themselves at he middle of every tragedy so they can feel something for once in their little lives. This is nothing new for those of us in the trenches working in our communities since before there was clout in performing online while still doing nothing to actually help.

Clout? You're jealous that others are finally catching on to the horrors you yourself were already aware of? Good God, if this isn't narcissism I don't know what is. If you really cared, you'd be happy those who were previously blissfully unaware are not catching on. Instead you're jealous. Do your cause a favor and set your ego aside for a change. This isn't about you being more aware than others -- it's about everyone becoming more aware.

Are NOW catching on.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I feel bad, it just doesn’t “stay” with me.

I read these social media post from friends and activists and they seem to “carry” it with them. I read/watch...feel bad for a moment and move on. Like it doesn’t impact my work day, etc.

Same. And I can’t help but laugh inside at these people wearing masks all around. I have no doubt they may be helpful but they look so stupid. And I just never see evidence that the virus is continuing in places where it initially spread. Seems like it just moved through.

You sound like a fragile adolescent. Are you actually an adult? You think masks may work but they look stupid? This is the intellect of an American. Sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm like you op, but mostly because I am burned out of all this woke stuff. It seems everything is a issue or need to be fought these days.... at this point I just roll my eyes when I see some of this crap, like someone going on and on about how Paw Patrol (the children's cartoon) is misogynist and a bunch of other people going like "oh, I have never thought about it, but this is so true!"

And regarding BLM, I cannot understand why some people seem so shocked suddenly - did they live in la la land and didn't know police brutality is a thing in this country, specially towards black and, recently, latinos?

Politics: this has been a crappy year and I have already prepared myself that trump will be re-elected. I will still vote of course, but it is clear to me that this is the country we are living in - a majority of obnoxious, racists, ignorant and plain stupid people in one hand, and a bunch of woke and purists - also obnoxious, ignorant and plain stupid in the other hand that will not vote for Biden because he is not their choice. They apparantly never heard of the word compromise of the expression "the lesser of two evils."

Stuff like that drives me crazy. And those who act like that don't understand how damaging it all is for people to get burned out on the "woke stuff". I think my favorite experience (sarcastic) was when someone was telling me that a certain pattern on a sweater was cultural appropriation. That is part of my culture and I said something the lines of "well no a lot of us aren't bothered by things like that. It is really things like X and Y that are offensive" And that person that tried to argue that I was wrong and that it was offensive. I told her that she was being more offensive than the sweater but that just led her to dig deeper into her stance. It was beyond ridiculous.

Please stop spreading the materially false myth of the large number of leftists who won’t vote for Biden. It’s both-sidesing and it’s not true - and it’s going to tick people off necessarily. Signed - voted for Sanders in the primary in 2016 and then for Clinton in the general, as did everyone I know who shared my primary vote —- and is geared up to vote in person for Biden.

Don't feed the troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you? I was 16 when 9/11 happened, and I distinctly remember getting very "jaded" by current events after that because I was so turned off by how the news media exploited 9/11 for ratings. I guess I became cynical. Now, it just seems like such an endless cycle of "bad news" that I just tune most of it out.

I will say, one thing I was truly shocked by was when Trayvon Martin was killed. I remember hearing that on NPR and just being totally shocked that that could happen.

You are a shameless liar. No 16 year old gets upset that the news media exploits news for ratings. That was the biggest event to happen to this country in years. Do you think they SHOULDN'T have covered it? You were either a stupid 16 year old or are a bad liar. I'm guessing you are a bad liar.

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Anonymous wrote:Y’all realize bad things have always happened right? Life now is better than it has been for 99.999% of human history.

Too many people let the media tell them what to feel and think.

I’m with OP.

Sorry but i had never seen a person kneel on another person's neck until they were dead. That was new to me.

Well you have not personally witnessed any of the atrocities in history, have you? And yet they happened. We’ve never lived in a more fair and more just society. Take a walk through your history books. Go back to ancient civilizations and medieval history to the Roman Empire, to colonialism. Humanity has been brutal and violent and we are lucky to be living in a relatively fair and just world.

I haven't seen a child run over and killed by a car, but I would still be impacted by seeing it happen, even though I realize it must happen in the world all the time.

We're not talking about a stroll through history books. Seeing someone killed on cell phone video is a big deal. Learning about ancient civilizations has nothing to do with the conversation. At all.

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Hm. I have a long history of major depression and have experienced a considerable number of very traumatic personal events in my life in addition to things like the deaths of parents and others, job loss, etc--the thing that you see on the list of common stressors. I think more difficult experiences than average. When Trump was elected I was severely depressed for a week or so then started to get my bearings.

I think the Trump administration has had an outside numbing effect because the insanity has been so relentless. I feel like a lot of media are trying to tell us it's crazy, but hearing that message repeatedly almost takes away from the craziness.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with you OP it is just women borrowing trouble. Assuming you vote and care and stay informed, carrying around sorrow for someone or something you don’t know is childish and attention seeking. It is not noble. Thousands of people die every day in myriad tragic and terrible ways. Do what you can and then move on with your life. You only get one!

This. Privileged people who can afford to center themselves at he middle of every tragedy so they can feel something for once in their little lives. This is nothing new for those of us in the trenches working in our communities since before there was clout in performing online while still doing nothing to actually help.

Clout? You're jealous that others are finally catching on to the horrors you yourself were already aware of? Good God, if this isn't narcissism I don't know what is. If you really cared, you'd be happy those who were previously blissfully unaware are not catching on. Instead you're jealous. Do your cause a favor and set your ego aside for a change. This isn't about you being more aware than others -- it's about everyone becoming more aware.

Are NOW catching on.

I can sort of see where the pp was coming from, though. Like when you've gone through some kind of horrible struggle for years and then someone who got to be immune from it gets a taste of it and they're like they're the ones who discovered whatever it is. There's some bitterness that can come with that although it's not helpful to focus on it.

[Anonymous]

You are normal, OP.


Besides, few folks are truly empathic. They just like to lecture others on empathy because it makes them feel superior. Empathic people would understand where you are coming from because they've put themselves in your shoes.

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I compartmentalize. I have to. I have had a tough life so that is my natural reaction. I care but I turn off TV if I can and whatever I hear, I sort and compartamentalize. I think I would be crazy if I didn't. I can tell those who don't because their Facebook page is full of crazy stuff they hear from the media or end of the world shit.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I feel bad, it just doesn’t “stay” with me.

I read these social media post from friends and activists and they seem to “carry” it with them. I read/watch...feel bad for a moment and move on. Like it doesn’t impact my work day, etc.

It's agenda media 24/7 trying to further their cause. Most are sick of it and focus on their lives, or simply turn the channel to Geo. Yawn, the election will soon be over.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who doesn’t feel traumatized or fearful by current events - could be anything...shootings, sexism, racism, etc.

No, but I’m generally not.