DH slapping butts of DD 15 and DD 20

[Anonymous]

Baseball thing too

[Anonymous]

This is inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

As a woman whose grandfather used to do this to her it is incredibly uncomfortable, gross, infuriating, and inappropriate. It’s so gross that the odds of a teenaged girl speaking up and saying that she doesn’t like it are extremely unlikely due to the shame and embarrassment. So ignore all of the statements from people who are saying well how do the kids feel about it, because they may not feel comfortable sharing how they feel. So he needs to just stop. And everyone doing this needs to just stop.

[Anonymous]

How do they react? What does their body language convey? Can you simply ask them how they feel about it? Personally I would hate it, but not speak up. I would also want to knee him in the nuts every time he did it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband may not be a creepy person but that is a creepy thing to do. Even if your daughters don’t say anything about it, I’d be willing to bet it makes them at least a little uncomfortable and maybe they don’t know how to feel about it since it’s their dad who they presumably love and otherwise feel comfortable with but it’s inappropriate especially at their ages (but, frankly, I think, at any age)

Highly inappropriate.

Also unskilled. What is he trying to communicate? Trying to connect with them? Have fun? Geez there are a thousand ways to do that without slapping them on the butt. Do better, pal.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

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Haven't read the entire thread but that would be my reaction also.
My daughter is 12, and even at that age I can't imagine my husband slapping her butt in passing. Imagine doing that to a college graduate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. When they’re walking by. He’s always been like this but at their ages I think it’s weird. It would have made me uncomfortable if my Dad did this.

Does it make your daughters uncomfortable? They are not you.

I smack my boys' butts. Oldest is 12, though. I tell them it's time for a spanking because I don't like how tall they are getting when I walk by. They giggle. It's not a big deal. But, they are not 15 year old girls so it's different.

Yes it''s weird, and so is this. Being their parent doesn't give you the right to touch them any kind of way. Now I don't think abusive oe anything like that. Just weird.

But OP your kids are 15 and 20, well past the time to have said anything. How did this go on for so long?

Some families are more playful than others.

Many ways to play. Butt smacks or touching don’t need to be involved.

[Anonymous]

Would you smack your same aged teen boy on the butt? Didn’t think so. Flip the coin and you have your answer.

[Anonymous]

What is the purpose of smacking? For punishment? Or what?

[Anonymous]

Waspy thing again... to find this weird and inappropriate when it has always been done and kids are not complaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you smack your same aged teen boy on the butt? Didn’t think so. Flip the coin and you have your answer.

No, it’s a really simple rule: don’t slap anybody’s butt unless they specifically ask you to.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what's up with these girls but my girls lay out in the sun with their tops off including my wife. They come inside with just a g string like its natural. Come up to me and ask me "do I look tan" then open the fridge to get a cold drink and walk back outside.

[Anonymous]

Gross. Your daughters may feel uncomfortable telling him to stop or brining it up- it is awkward for them. So you do it, Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know what's up with these girls but my girls lay out in the sun with their tops off including my wife. They come inside with just a g string like its natural. Come up to me and ask me "do I look tan" then open the fridge to get a cold drink and walk back outside.

Not art all the same as smacking a teen and young adult daughters butt.