DH slapping butts of DD 15 and DD 20

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. When they’re walking by. He’s always been like this but at their ages I think it’s weird. It would have made me uncomfortable if my Dad did this.

Does it make your daughters uncomfortable? They are not you.

I smack my boys' butts. Oldest is 12, though. I tell them it's time for a spanking because I don't like how tall they are getting when I walk by. They giggle. It's not a big deal. But, they are not 15 year old girls so it's different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is inappropriate. Like Joe Biden kissing his granddaughter full on the mouth kind of inappropriate. Anyone doing those things needs permission from the person it's being done to.

Some families kiss like that. Its fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. When they’re walking by. He’s always been like this but at their ages I think it’s weird. It would have made me uncomfortable if my Dad did this.

My kids get annoyed when we don't do it. My DH is a bottom patter. Not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

That's screwed up.

[Anonymous]

Annoying. Not appropriate for any kid over 13.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they on a football team? Otherwise, not only no... hell no!

Why is it okay on a football team, but not in this situation? It's either weird or it isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did he all of the sudden start this now, at these ages? Or has he always done it? I come from a family of bum pinchers/swatters, so I don't think it's inherently weird.

+1

Also how are you DD reacting? If they're fine, I'd be fine.

If you socialize them to not think creepy things are creepy it's fine and they go out into the world not knowing right from wrong... so no!

[Anonymous]

Dad of teen girls here. I would never. But I secretly love the hell out of it when they snuggle with me on the couch.

[Anonymous]

If they are his biological kids, no problem.

[Anonymous]

Inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

It's probably sending a wrong message.

[Anonymous]

I come from a family of butt smackers—my otherwise fairly reserved grandmother used to gently smack her grandkids’ and kids’ bums when we walked by. My dad used to do the same to us, though not that often. I didn’t like it, but I’ve caught myself a couple of times swatting my kids’ bums as they walk by. I was doing it affectionately and without thinking, but they think it’s bizarre (it is, honestly, in this day and age) so I’ve made a point of stopping.

[Anonymous]

just no

[Anonymous]

Slapping dat azz!

[Anonymous]

Your husband may not be a creepy person but that is a creepy thing to do. Even if your daughters don’t say anything about it, I’d be willing to bet it makes them at least a little uncomfortable and maybe they don’t know how to feel about it since it’s their dad who they presumably love and otherwise feel comfortable with but it’s inappropriate especially at their ages (but, frankly, I think, at any age)