DH slapping butts of DD 15 and DD 20

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. When they’re walking by. He’s always been like this but at their ages I think it’s weird. It would have made me uncomfortable if my Dad did this.

Does it make your daughters uncomfortable? They are not you.

I smack my boys' butts. Oldest is 12, though. I tell them it's time for a spanking because I don't like how tall they are getting when I walk by. They giggle. It's not a big deal. But, they are not 15 year old girls so it's different.

Yes it''s weird, and so is this. Being their parent doesn't give you the right to touch them any kind of way. Now I don't think abusive oe anything like that. Just weird.

But OP your kids are 15 and 20, well past the time to have said anything. How did this go on for so long?

[Anonymous]

He needs to keep his hands to himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. When they’re walking by. He’s always been like this but at their ages I think it’s weird. It would have made me uncomfortable if my Dad did this.

Does it make your daughters uncomfortable? They are not you.

I smack my boys' butts. Oldest is 12, though. I tell them it's time for a spanking because I don't like how tall they are getting when I walk by. They giggle. It's not a big deal. But, they are not 15 year old girls so it's different.

Yes it''s weird, and so is this. Being their parent doesn't give you the right to touch them any kind of way. Now I don't think abusive oe anything like that. Just weird.

But OP your kids are 15 and 20, well past the time to have said anything. How did this go on for so long?

Some families are more playful than others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:His kids, fine as long as it doesn't bother the kids.

I agree.

Do you REALLY think his daughters are going to be honest about this?

This is highly inappropriate. A big 'hell no' from me. Creepy

[Anonymous]

I’m a dad of a preteen girl and I couldn’t imagine doing that. We snuggle watching TV on clinch and hug in appropriate circumstances etc so I’m not a cold and distant guy, but the butt smacking is strange and indeed creepy. It crosses a line at least for so many people your husband would be suited to end it.

[Anonymous]

Couch not clinch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. When they’re walking by. He’s always been like this but at their ages I think it’s weird. It would have made me uncomfortable if my Dad did this.

Does it make your daughters uncomfortable? They are not you.

I smack my boys' butts. Oldest is 12, though. I tell them it's time for a spanking because I don't like how tall they are getting when I walk by. They giggle. It's not a big deal. But, they are not 15 year old girls so it's different.

Yes it''s weird, and so is this. Being their parent doesn't give you the right to touch them any kind of way. Now I don't think abusive oe anything like that. Just weird.

But OP your kids are 15 and 20, well past the time to have said anything. How did this go on for so long?

Why would you assume they mind, though? If they don’t mind, what is the problem? I don’t know about OP’s kids, but my kids are very vocal when there is something they do not like.

[Anonymous]

Watch DD’s reaction next time it happens. If it doesn’t bother them, leave it alone. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. When they’re walking by. He’s always been like this but at their ages I think it’s weird. It would have made me uncomfortable if my Dad did this.

It's not weird, but you're gonna make it weird.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. When they’re walking by. He’s always been like this but at their ages I think it’s weird. It would have made me uncomfortable if my Dad did this.

But your children are not you and they don't have the relationship with their father that you had with yours. I would tell each of them when you're alone, "You know, if Dad slapping you on the butt bothers you, you can tell him to stop doing it. I'll back you up." And then just let it be. They are both old enough to speak up if it's a problem FOR THEM.

[Anonymous]

At the end of the day, if I am doing something that makes my spouse feel uncomfortable, then I try best to stop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At the end of the day, if I am doing something that makes my spouse feel uncomfortable, then I try best to stop it.

WINNER.

[Anonymous]

Totally inappropriate and needs to be told to stop-not in front of kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a dad of a preteen girl and I couldn’t imagine doing that. We snuggle watching TV on clinch and hug in appropriate circumstances etc so I’m not a cold and distant guy, but the butt smacking is strange and indeed creepy. It crosses a line at least for so many people your husband would be suited to end it.

Exactly. I love how people want to pretend that butt slapping is the only way to be physically affectionate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. When they’re walking by. He’s always been like this but at their ages I think it’s weird. It would have made me uncomfortable if my Dad did this.

Does it make your daughters uncomfortable? They are not you.

I smack my boys' butts. Oldest is 12, though. I tell them it's time for a spanking because I don't like how tall they are getting when I walk by. They giggle. It's not a big deal. But, they are not 15 year old girls so it's different.

Yes it''s weird, and so is this. Being their parent doesn't give you the right to touch them any kind of way. Now I don't think abusive oe anything like that. Just weird.

But OP your kids are 15 and 20, well past the time to have said anything. How did this go on for so long?

Some families are more playful than others.

And some families and parents are weird. Yours is weird.