How are your 3/4/5 year olds handling this?

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Anonymous wrote:Some posters are incapable of understanding nuance.

It's okay to worry about our privileged children who have lost their sense of normalcy. Yes, they are safe and will probably not remember this time. That doesn't invalidate moments of sadness, anxiety, or frustration. Same goes for us parents.

It's also okay to worry about the state of the world and all of the children who are not safe. I worry about all of the families who are going hungry right now. I worry about all of the parents who are losing their jobs and their insurance. I try to do the best I can to help my own child and those who are already disenfranchised by a cynical world.

Finding perspective is so healthy and also encourages us to help others in need. But we can't go through life comparing ourselves to Anne Frank.

I find extreme navel-gazing and self-pity among the privileged (and I am one of them) disgusting. You do you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some posters are incapable of understanding nuance.

It's okay to worry about our privileged children who have lost their sense of normalcy. Yes, they are safe and will probably not remember this time. That doesn't invalidate moments of sadness, anxiety, or frustration. Same goes for us parents.

It's also okay to worry about the state of the world and all of the children who are not safe. I worry about all of the families who are going hungry right now. I worry about all of the parents who are losing their jobs and their insurance. I try to do the best I can to help my own child and those who are already disenfranchised by a cynical world.

Finding perspective is so healthy and also encourages us to help others in need. But we can't go through life comparing ourselves to Anne Frank.

I find extreme navel-gazing and self-pity among the privileged (and I am one of them) disgusting. You do you.

Someone asked how kids were handling this and some people answered. Thinking that that's "extreme navel-gazing" or that wishing your child wasn't upset is some how inappropriate just makes it seem like you're looking for a reason to be angry at people.

If you're worried about less fortunate or the people suffering more, do something to help them. Using them as a cudgel against people who wish their kids could see their friends doesn't do that, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some posters are incapable of understanding nuance.

It's okay to worry about our privileged children who have lost their sense of normalcy. Yes, they are safe and will probably not remember this time. That doesn't invalidate moments of sadness, anxiety, or frustration. Same goes for us parents.

It's also okay to worry about the state of the world and all of the children who are not safe. I worry about all of the families who are going hungry right now. I worry about all of the parents who are losing their jobs and their insurance. I try to do the best I can to help my own child and those who are already disenfranchised by a cynical world.

Finding perspective is so healthy and also encourages us to help others in need. But we can't go through life comparing ourselves to Anne Frank.

I find extreme navel-gazing and self-pity among the privileged (and I am one of them) disgusting. You do you.

Well your reaction is also extreme and you missed my point. Of course totally oblivious people are obnoxious, but most people are not extreme. Save yourself some drama and don’t worry about them. Follow your own advice and do you.

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My 3-year old goes with the flow most of the time. He is more sensitive when his days aren't well-structured or if he can't run around outside, but that is to be expected. Fortunately our jobs are not essential and none of our family members are ill. Though I do worry that some of my in-laws will stop taking CDC guidelines seriously.

I want everyone to stay as safe and healthy as possible. Several people have pointed out that our pre-schoolers likely won't remember this time. I agree, but that means it's so important for us to protect our vulnerable family members so they can be part of our children's first memories.

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Anonymous wrote:4yo DD has started having near daily potty accidents after having been fully trained for over a year. Tantrums have become frequent and brutal. She's generally a happy, easy-going kid. DH and I both WOH full-time, so she's used to all day daycare/preschool. She's very much an extrovert and thrives off of play with others.
DH and I both have to WFH full-time now. We are both on telecons half the day, and she is desperate for attention. We are trying to alternate who takes over keeping her occupied and happy, but, after nearly 5 weeks, it is starting to take a toll on all of us. She misses her grandparents tremendously. She's gone from seeing them weekly to only via FaceTime, and it just isn't the same for her. She asks repeatedly when she can play with her friends again, and she's starting to show some fear of other people she sees when we are outside on walks or playing in the yard. We don't watch the news or discuss COVID around her. Yes, I do worry very much about the long-term impacts to these young children.

Really? I worry about the long term impact of the kids I see sleeping on medians in the countries I travel to. I worry about the long term impact of kids in abusive homes here in the United States. I worry about the long term impact of the kids who have been brutalized by wars all over the middle east, about the kids in detention centers at our borders. I do not worry about the long term impact of Larla not being able to see her grandparents in person for a few months, or missing her dance class or whatever. Please get a grip. Your child is fed, clothed, safe, warm, has toys and probably an Ipad, access to hundred of miles of clean and lovely hiking and biking trails, parents who are alive and safe who love her, grandparents who are alive and safe who love her, teachers who check in on her, Door Dash, Amazon, Disney+, Netflix, Spotify...

This is change, transition, something different than what they are accustomed to. This is different, and different can be hard. But the things you are describing are not devastating, not trauma, not hardship.

I'm the PP you are responding to. Back off. Yes, I worry about those children, too. But this is MY child. I have severe anxiety issues, brought on in part by things I saw and experienced as a very young child. Yes, I do worry about the implications of some of this in my kid because I don't want such experiences to set off anxiety issues in her in the long run. I know first hand how awful it is to live with an anxiety disorder. We are doing everything we can to shelter my DD and keep things as normal as possible for her, but she's very sensitive, as was I, so...yes, as her mother, I'm concerned.

You might be surprised to learn that I can worry about my own child in this way while also having deep empathy for others in far worse situations. It doesn't have to be one or the other.

Ding ding ding. Parent has anxiety issues, therefore child picks up on them and develops her own anxiety issues. I suspect most of the children being described on here who are “devastated” by the “trauma” of missing preschool and music and gym class are the children of depressed and anxiety-ridden parents. The parents don’t know how to be resilient and grateful for what they have and how to focus on the positives rather than the negatives. They have no coping skills to pass on to their children. It is what it is.

I too, am worried about the abused kids. They no longer have school as an escape. I donated to House of Ruth and DC Volunteer Lawyers

NP. I don't think this is fair. My husband and I both still have our jobs and we have had the flexibility to be able to work from home pretty easily. Neither one of us is anxious or nervous or upset right now. We're actually doing really well. HOWEVER, our kids, who just turned six, have cried about not getting to see their nanny anymore and not getting to play with their friends. They're doing great with their virtual schooling, they get to ride bikes every day it's not raining, we have a huge yard with a play set, we have a big house with tons of toys, and they are even still getting to ride their ponies. So, their life is pretty great right now, but that doesn't mean they aren't sad about the things that have changed. And that's not coming from my me or my husband, and we don't have the news on at home. So for you to say that it's the parents' fault if kids are upset is really unkind and unfair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:4yo DD has started having near daily potty accidents after having been fully trained for over a year. Tantrums have become frequent and brutal. She's generally a happy, easy-going kid. DH and I both WOH full-time, so she's used to all day daycare/preschool. She's very much an extrovert and thrives off of play with others.
DH and I both have to WFH full-time now. We are both on telecons half the day, and she is desperate for attention. We are trying to alternate who takes over keeping her occupied and happy, but, after nearly 5 weeks, it is starting to take a toll on all of us. She misses her grandparents tremendously. She's gone from seeing them weekly to only via FaceTime, and it just isn't the same for her. She asks repeatedly when she can play with her friends again, and she's starting to show some fear of other people she sees when we are outside on walks or playing in the yard. We don't watch the news or discuss COVID around her. Yes, I do worry very much about the long-term impacts to these young children.

Really? I worry about the long term impact of the kids I see sleeping on medians in the countries I travel to. I worry about the long term impact of kids in abusive homes here in the United States. I worry about the long term impact of the kids who have been brutalized by wars all over the middle east, about the kids in detention centers at our borders. I do not worry about the long term impact of Larla not being able to see her grandparents in person for a few months, or missing her dance class or whatever. Please get a grip. Your child is fed, clothed, safe, warm, has toys and probably an Ipad, access to hundred of miles of clean and lovely hiking and biking trails, parents who are alive and safe who love her, grandparents who are alive and safe who love her, teachers who check in on her, Door Dash, Amazon, Disney+, Netflix, Spotify...

This is change, transition, something different than what they are accustomed to. This is different, and different can be hard. But the things you are describing are not devastating, not trauma, not hardship.

I'm the PP you are responding to. Back off. Yes, I worry about those children, too. But this is MY child. I have severe anxiety issues, brought on in part by things I saw and experienced as a very young child. Yes, I do worry about the implications of some of this in my kid because I don't want such experiences to set off anxiety issues in her in the long run. I know first hand how awful it is to live with an anxiety disorder. We are doing everything we can to shelter my DD and keep things as normal as possible for her, but she's very sensitive, as was I, so...yes, as her mother, I'm concerned.

You might be surprised to learn that I can worry about my own child in this way while also having deep empathy for others in far worse situations. It doesn't have to be one or the other.

Ding ding ding. Parent has anxiety issues, therefore child picks up on them and develops her own anxiety issues. I suspect most of the children being described on here who are “devastated” by the “trauma” of missing preschool and music and gym class are the children of depressed and anxiety-ridden parents. The parents don’t know how to be resilient and grateful for what they have and how to focus on the positives rather than the negatives. They have no coping skills to pass on to their children. It is what it is.

I too, am worried about the abused kids. They no longer have school as an escape. I donated to House of Ruth and DC Volunteer Lawyers

NP. I don't think this is fair. My husband and I both still have our jobs and we have had the flexibility to be able to work from home pretty easily. Neither one of us is anxious or nervous or upset right now. We're actually doing really well. HOWEVER, our kids, who just turned six, have cried about not getting to see their nanny anymore and not getting to play with their friends. They're doing great with their virtual schooling, they get to ride bikes every day it's not raining, we have a huge yard with a play set, we have a big house with tons of toys, and they are even still getting to ride their ponies. So, their life is pretty great right now, but that doesn't mean they aren't sad about the things that have changed. And that's not coming from my me or my husband, and we don't have the news on at home. So for you to say that it's the parents' fault if kids are upset is really unkind and unfair.

You lost me at ponies.

[Anonymous]

My 4.5 year old is struggling. He's a lot clingier than he was 2 months ago, and he's also been having a lot accidents.

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Anonymous wrote:4yo DD has started having near daily potty accidents after having been fully trained for over a year. Tantrums have become frequent and brutal. She's generally a happy, easy-going kid. DH and I both WOH full-time, so she's used to all day daycare/preschool. She's very much an extrovert and thrives off of play with others.
DH and I both have to WFH full-time now. We are both on telecons half the day, and she is desperate for attention. We are trying to alternate who takes over keeping her occupied and happy, but, after nearly 5 weeks, it is starting to take a toll on all of us. She misses her grandparents tremendously. She's gone from seeing them weekly to only via FaceTime, and it just isn't the same for her. She asks repeatedly when she can play with her friends again, and she's starting to show some fear of other people she sees when we are outside on walks or playing in the yard. We don't watch the news or discuss COVID around her. Yes, I do worry very much about the long-term impacts to these young children.

Really? I worry about the long term impact of the kids I see sleeping on medians in the countries I travel to. I worry about the long term impact of kids in abusive homes here in the United States. I worry about the long term impact of the kids who have been brutalized by wars all over the middle east, about the kids in detention centers at our borders. I do not worry about the long term impact of Larla not being able to see her grandparents in person for a few months, or missing her dance class or whatever. Please get a grip. Your child is fed, clothed, safe, warm, has toys and probably an Ipad, access to hundred of miles of clean and lovely hiking and biking trails, parents who are alive and safe who love her, grandparents who are alive and safe who love her, teachers who check in on her, Door Dash, Amazon, Disney+, Netflix, Spotify...

This is change, transition, something different than what they are accustomed to. This is different, and different can be hard. But the things you are describing are not devastating, not trauma, not hardship.

I'm the PP you are responding to. Back off. Yes, I worry about those children, too. But this is MY child. I have severe anxiety issues, brought on in part by things I saw and experienced as a very young child. Yes, I do worry about the implications of some of this in my kid because I don't want such experiences to set off anxiety issues in her in the long run. I know first hand how awful it is to live with an anxiety disorder. We are doing everything we can to shelter my DD and keep things as normal as possible for her, but she's very sensitive, as was I, so...yes, as her mother, I'm concerned.

You might be surprised to learn that I can worry about my own child in this way while also having deep empathy for others in far worse situations. It doesn't have to be one or the other.

Ding ding ding. Parent has anxiety issues, therefore child picks up on them and develops her own anxiety issues. I suspect most of the children being described on here who are “devastated” by the “trauma” of missing preschool and music and gym class are the children of depressed and anxiety-ridden parents. The parents don’t know how to be resilient and grateful for what they have and how to focus on the positives rather than the negatives. They have no coping skills to pass on to their children. It is what it is.

I too, am worried about the abused kids. They no longer have school as an escape. I donated to House of Ruth and DC Volunteer Lawyers

NP. I don't think this is fair. My husband and I both still have our jobs and we have had the flexibility to be able to work from home pretty easily. Neither one of us is anxious or nervous or upset right now. We're actually doing really well. HOWEVER, our kids, who just turned six, have cried about not getting to see their nanny anymore and not getting to play with their friends. They're doing great with their virtual schooling, they get to ride bikes every day it's not raining, we have a huge yard with a play set, we have a big house with tons of toys, and they are even still getting to ride their ponies. So, their life is pretty great right now, but that doesn't mean they aren't sad about the things that have changed. And that's not coming from my me or my husband, and we don't have the news on at home. So for you to say that it's the parents' fault if kids are upset is really unkind and unfair.

You lost me at ponies.

OMG! I didn't see that the first time I read the post. Talk about privileged, even by DCUM standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5 year old only child, cries every other day or so. Said explicitly that she is glad to not have to go to pre-K but cries on her usual gymnastics and dance days. She cries after FaceTime play dates because she “just wants to be next to my friends”. Strangely, she also said she misses going to Trader Joe’s. She’s specific enough about what she misses that it’s very clear she’s not echoing what we say, but her longings are much more narrow and focused than ours as adults. Her upset comes in bursts. One day she’ll be fine but the next day she realizes that she won’t see a certain relative this summer or do a special thing at school and she’ll lose it for a half hour or more.

I wish I handled it more like her. I am so sad but can’t seem to cry. And I’m usually a crier.

A child after my own heart - I miss going to TJ's too.

My nearly 5 year old is fine but can't wait for this to be over. He misses 'school' and his grandparents. He is also loving the extra time with mom and dad. My 1 year old has no idea this is different, but I notice that she's much better behaved on days we go outside than on days we do not...

[Anonymous]

Mine is doing very well because she has a sibling who is only a couple of years older. They are inseparable, and they play very well together. I think it will be much different if either sibling did not have a playmate.

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Anonymous wrote:5 year old only child, cries every other day or so. Said explicitly that she is glad to not have to go to pre-K but cries on her usual gymnastics and dance days. She cries after FaceTime play dates because she “just wants to be next to my friends”. Strangely, she also said she misses going to Trader Joe’s. She’s specific enough about what she misses that it’s very clear she’s not echoing what we say, but her longings are much more narrow and focused than ours as adults. Her upset comes in bursts. One day she’ll be fine but the next day she realizes that she won’t see a certain relative this summer or do a special thing at school and she’ll lose it for a half hour or more.

I wish I handled it more like her. I am so sad but can’t seem to cry. And I’m usually a crier.

A child after my own heart - I miss going to TJ's too.

My nearly 5 year old is fine but can't wait for this to be over. He misses 'school' and his grandparents. He is also loving the extra time with mom and dad. My 1 year old has no idea this is different, but I notice that she's much better behaved on days we go outside than on days we do not...

Same! My family has just been going to our small, local grocery store, because it is closer and much less crowded than TJ's. I actually dreamed that I was eating stuff from TJ's last night!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:5 year old only child, cries every other day or so. Said explicitly that she is glad to not have to go to pre-K but cries on her usual gymnastics and dance days. She cries after FaceTime play dates because she “just wants to be next to my friends”. Strangely, she also said she misses going to Trader Joe’s. She’s specific enough about what she misses that it’s very clear she’s not echoing what we say, but her longings are much more narrow and focused than ours as adults. Her upset comes in bursts. One day she’ll be fine but the next day she realizes that she won’t see a certain relative this summer or do a special thing at school and she’ll lose it for a half hour or more.

I wish I handled it more like her. I am so sad but can’t seem to cry. And I’m usually a crier.

A child after my own heart - I miss going to TJ's too.

My nearly 5 year old is fine but can't wait for this to be over. He misses 'school' and his grandparents. He is also loving the extra time with mom and dad. My 1 year old has no idea this is different, but I notice that she's much better behaved on days we go outside than on days we do not...

Same! My family has just been going to our small, local grocery store, because it is closer and much less crowded than TJ's. I actually dreamed that I was eating stuff from TJ's last night!

I went to TJs yesterday—they are doing an amazing job. Stand in line with marks for distance. They wipe each cart before you get it. They only allow a certain amount of people in the store so you have space to shop. You’re told to stay away from the cashier. They bag it for you in their own brown bags (no charge). It was a good experience! I wouldn’t bring my kids, but it was good for a shopping trip.

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Anonymous wrote:4yo DD has started having near daily potty accidents after having been fully trained for over a year. Tantrums have become frequent and brutal. She's generally a happy, easy-going kid. DH and I both WOH full-time, so she's used to all day daycare/preschool. She's very much an extrovert and thrives off of play with others.
DH and I both have to WFH full-time now. We are both on telecons half the day, and she is desperate for attention. We are trying to alternate who takes over keeping her occupied and happy, but, after nearly 5 weeks, it is starting to take a toll on all of us. She misses her grandparents tremendously. She's gone from seeing them weekly to only via FaceTime, and it just isn't the same for her. She asks repeatedly when she can play with her friends again, and she's starting to show some fear of other people she sees when we are outside on walks or playing in the yard. We don't watch the news or discuss COVID around her. Yes, I do worry very much about the long-term impacts to these young children.

Really? I worry about the long term impact of the kids I see sleeping on medians in the countries I travel to. I worry about the long term impact of kids in abusive homes here in the United States. I worry about the long term impact of the kids who have been brutalized by wars all over the middle east, about the kids in detention centers at our borders. I do not worry about the long term impact of Larla not being able to see her grandparents in person for a few months, or missing her dance class or whatever. Please get a grip. Your child is fed, clothed, safe, warm, has toys and probably an Ipad, access to hundred of miles of clean and lovely hiking and biking trails, parents who are alive and safe who love her, grandparents who are alive and safe who love her, teachers who check in on her, Door Dash, Amazon, Disney+, Netflix, Spotify...

This is change, transition, something different than what they are accustomed to. This is different, and different can be hard. But the things you are describing are not devastating, not trauma, not hardship.

I'm the PP you are responding to. Back off. Yes, I worry about those children, too. But this is MY child. I have severe anxiety issues, brought on in part by things I saw and experienced as a very young child. Yes, I do worry about the implications of some of this in my kid because I don't want such experiences to set off anxiety issues in her in the long run. I know first hand how awful it is to live with an anxiety disorder. We are doing everything we can to shelter my DD and keep things as normal as possible for her, but she's very sensitive, as was I, so...yes, as her mother, I'm concerned.

You might be surprised to learn that I can worry about my own child in this way while also having deep empathy for others in far worse situations. It doesn't have to be one or the other.

Ding ding ding. Parent has anxiety issues, therefore child picks up on them and develops her own anxiety issues. I suspect most of the children being described on here who are “devastated” by the “trauma” of missing preschool and music and gym class are the children of depressed and anxiety-ridden parents. The parents don’t know how to be resilient and grateful for what they have and how to focus on the positives rather than the negatives. They have no coping skills to pass on to their children. It is what it is.

I too, am worried about the abused kids. They no longer have school as an escape. I donated to House of Ruth and DC Volunteer Lawyers

NP. I don't think this is fair. My husband and I both still have our jobs and we have had the flexibility to be able to work from home pretty easily. Neither one of us is anxious or nervous or upset right now. We're actually doing really well. HOWEVER, our kids, who just turned six, have cried about not getting to see their nanny anymore and not getting to play with their friends. They're doing great with their virtual schooling, they get to ride bikes every day it's not raining, we have a huge yard with a play set, we have a big house with tons of toys, and they are even still getting to ride their ponies. So, their life is pretty great right now, but that doesn't mean they aren't sad about the things that have changed. And that's not coming from my me or my husband, and we don't have the news on at home. So for you to say that it's the parents' fault if kids are upset is really unkind and unfair.

You lost me at ponies.

OMG! I didn't see that the first time I read the post. Talk about privileged, even by DCUM standards.

That was precisely my point, since you both seem unable to grasp it and can't read past the fact that my kids ride. Anyway, my kids are privileged, ridiculously so, and their lives even now are pretty awesome. BUT they're still sometimes sad about things. PP said that anxious kids only exist because they have anxious parents and I refuted that statement and said it was unfair. Sorry you couldn't read past the fact that my kids have ponies. I mean, honestly, that bothered you so much?

[Anonymous]

We haven’t made a big deal about it and have called it an extended staycation, so 4 and 5 year old have been doing great, talked once about missing some specific friends so we arranged regular FaceTime calls with those friends. Otherwise they’ve been riding bikes, digging holes in the backyard, playing on their iPads and watching Home Alone for the 30th time. They’ve had no interest in any of the zoom meetings for preschool, which is awesome for me because it’s hard to keep my eyes from rolling when listening to some of the moms talk about how “devastating” this is for their precious little one and how they’re going through bottles of wine trying to figure out how to homeschool. Devastating is not having food on the table or a home to live in or losing a loved one, it’s not devastating to not see your friends for a few weeks, especially at this age. Hell, the 4 year old couldn’t even remember half the kids in the school photo taken a few weeks ago.

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Anonymous wrote:4yo DD has started having near daily potty accidents after having been fully trained for over a year. Tantrums have become frequent and brutal. She's generally a happy, easy-going kid. DH and I both WOH full-time, so she's used to all day daycare/preschool. She's very much an extrovert and thrives off of play with others.
DH and I both have to WFH full-time now. We are both on telecons half the day, and she is desperate for attention. We are trying to alternate who takes over keeping her occupied and happy, but, after nearly 5 weeks, it is starting to take a toll on all of us. She misses her grandparents tremendously. She's gone from seeing them weekly to only via FaceTime, and it just isn't the same for her. She asks repeatedly when she can play with her friends again, and she's starting to show some fear of other people she sees when we are outside on walks or playing in the yard. We don't watch the news or discuss COVID around her. Yes, I do worry very much about the long-term impacts to these young children.

Really? I worry about the long term impact of the kids I see sleeping on medians in the countries I travel to. I worry about the long term impact of kids in abusive homes here in the United States. I worry about the long term impact of the kids who have been brutalized by wars all over the middle east, about the kids in detention centers at our borders. I do not worry about the long term impact of Larla not being able to see her grandparents in person for a few months, or missing her dance class or whatever. Please get a grip. Your child is fed, clothed, safe, warm, has toys and probably an Ipad, access to hundred of miles of clean and lovely hiking and biking trails, parents who are alive and safe who love her, grandparents who are alive and safe who love her, teachers who check in on her, Door Dash, Amazon, Disney+, Netflix, Spotify...

This is change, transition, something different than what they are accustomed to. This is different, and different can be hard. But the things you are describing are not devastating, not trauma, not hardship.

I'm the PP you are responding to. Back off. Yes, I worry about those children, too. But this is MY child. I have severe anxiety issues, brought on in part by things I saw and experienced as a very young child. Yes, I do worry about the implications of some of this in my kid because I don't want such experiences to set off anxiety issues in her in the long run. I know first hand how awful it is to live with an anxiety disorder. We are doing everything we can to shelter my DD and keep things as normal as possible for her, but she's very sensitive, as was I, so...yes, as her mother, I'm concerned.

You might be surprised to learn that I can worry about my own child in this way while also having deep empathy for others in far worse situations. It doesn't have to be one or the other.

Ding ding ding. Parent has anxiety issues, therefore child picks up on them and develops her own anxiety issues. I suspect most of the children being described on here who are “devastated” by the “trauma” of missing preschool and music and gym class are the children of depressed and anxiety-ridden parents. The parents don’t know how to be resilient and grateful for what they have and how to focus on the positives rather than the negatives. They have no coping skills to pass on to their children. It is what it is.

I too, am worried about the abused kids. They no longer have school as an escape. I donated to House of Ruth and DC Volunteer Lawyers

NP. I don't think this is fair. My husband and I both still have our jobs and we have had the flexibility to be able to work from home pretty easily. Neither one of us is anxious or nervous or upset right now. We're actually doing really well. HOWEVER, our kids, who just turned six, have cried about not getting to see their nanny anymore and not getting to play with their friends. They're doing great with their virtual schooling, they get to ride bikes every day it's not raining, we have a huge yard with a play set, we have a big house with tons of toys, and they are even still getting to ride their ponies. So, their life is pretty great right now, but that doesn't mean they aren't sad about the things that have changed. And that's not coming from my me or my husband, and we don't have the news on at home. So for you to say that it's the parents' fault if kids are upset is really unkind and unfair.

You lost me at ponies.

OMG! I didn't see that the first time I read the post. Talk about privileged, even by DCUM standards.

That was precisely my point, since you both seem unable to grasp it and can't read past the fact that my kids ride. Anyway, my kids are privileged, ridiculously so, and their lives even now are pretty awesome. BUT they're still sometimes sad about things. PP said that anxious kids only exist because they have anxious parents and I refuted that statement and said it was unfair. Sorry you couldn't read past the fact that my kids have ponies. I mean, honestly, that bothered you so much?

Stop. Just stop. I mean, maybe keep going because your posts are so hilariously ridiculous, but you should probably stop.