Why do some women choose to be a sidepiece?

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Anonymous wrote:My ex tells his girlfriends he is still married. There is something special about a side piece, the low expectations .... the ability to see them once a month or once a week or every day if you decide. Their inability to ask for what they want because they don’t think they deserve it.

Or because they don’t want what you think they want.

Right. Wives assume everyone else wants to be miserably married too but that's not everybody's dream.

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Women are much more powerful now. If you run into a married man, you just suck it up, or fu@ck it up, and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. So a serious question for the women AP’s: are there any traits you see in men who will cheat on their spouses vs. divorcing? I guess are there certain traits/ careers/ mindset that you find common in those men? Again, if they are unhappy in a marriage, they can divorce and so just trying to see if there’s any way to identify those men in advance.

My husband cheated and I divorced him and he just didn't seem the type, so I was not prepared. He was the typical nerdy guy who got a little money and salt n pepper and started looking distinguished and was getting more female attention that he had gotten in the years where he was shy and skinny with glasses. That feeling meant more to him than the feeling of having a wife who loved him, and a home and so on. I don't and won't ever understand it. I'm not built that way. I think all cheaters are cowards.

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[I'm not that PP but I was cheated on and I promise you that you don't know if you have been cheated on or not. I would not sit so high on that horse, the fall could be painful.
Not PP yiu are responding to, but I think some people really do know. I think there are men and women who just do not have it in their DNA to lie or cheat.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. So a serious question for the women AP’s: are there any traits you see in men who will cheat on their spouses vs. divorcing? I guess are there certain traits/ careers/ mindset that you find common in those men? Again, if they are unhappy in a marriage, they can divorce and so just trying to see if there’s any way to identify those men in advance.

The common trait is that they are looking to be desired and they want excitement. I’ve been with men who regularly have sex with their wife, but they describe it as obligatory, marital sex. What they aren’t looking for is a wife, and what I don’t want to be is a wife. Most are happy with the kids and wife portion, but long for the carefree, wild sex and excitement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thots

All around us, thots hot to trot.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like these posts really peak around the holidays.are people just slippy about their affairs around Christmas?

OW are a mess this week. Year after year after year.

Yup. It’s when they realize they’re always someone’s second choice. Who wants to live like that?

OW aren’t the ones starting these threads. It sucks when you have a nagging feeling that your spouse might be cheating, and they all but confirm it when they go out for milk on Christmas evening and don’t come back for three hours, and when you saw some charges on the credit card bill that don’t match what’s under the tree for you.

There whole hours

Vs cuddling in bed xmas morning with his kids giggling all around.

As he watches the clock waiting to escape you for a few blissful hours.

Hahahaha yep lol

It’s like those perfect Facebook posts with everyone in matching pajamas but everyone knows it’s gone to sh*t at home. You’re not fooling anyone with the giggling and cuddling—plenty of which is happening when he’s out of the house.

You failed wives aren’t going to make the OW feel bad. Get it through your head. They don’t care. They don’t all want relationships or to “win” over you anyway. You and your family and whatever names you call them mean nothing to them. Focus on what went wrong at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. So a serious question for the women AP’s: are there any traits you see in men who will cheat on their spouses vs. divorcing? I guess are there certain traits/ careers/ mindset that you find common in those men? Again, if they are unhappy in a marriage, they can divorce and so just trying to see if there’s any way to identify those men in advance.

The common trait is that they are looking to be desired and they want excitement. I’ve been with men who regularly have sex with their wife, but they describe it as obligatory, marital sex. What they aren’t looking for is a wife, and what I don’t want to be is a wife. Most are happy with the kids and wife portion, but long for the carefree, wild sex and excitement.

Got it. So it seems like guys who have a high need for excitement in their life is one trait to look out for. Wondering if there are others. I’m thinking guys who seem sensitive?

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Anonymous wrote:Insanely hot sex with a handsome and successful man. He was kind and thoughtful and extremely eager to please. Fancy hotel rooms on business trips and authentic connections.

I have moved on from it but no regrets, no one found out and apparently I was doing the "work" his wife had no interest in. Pity her.

Interesting. My cheating spouse is not particularly handsome or successful, is not thoughtful, and is not great in bed. I think some side pieces are really just that desperate.

Sounds like a real winner. Waita go marrying him.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. So a serious question for the women AP’s: are there any traits you see in men who will cheat on their spouses vs. divorcing? I guess are there certain traits/ careers/ mindset that you find common in those men? Again, if they are unhappy in a marriage, they can divorce and so just trying to see if there’s any way to identify those men in advance.

The common trait is that they are looking to be desired and they want excitement. I’ve been with men who regularly have sex with their wife, but they describe it as obligatory, marital sex. What they aren’t looking for is a wife, and what I don’t want to be is a wife. Most are happy with the kids and wife portion, but long for the carefree, wild sex and excitement.

Got it. So it seems like guys who have a high need for excitement in their life is one trait to look out for. Wondering if there are others. I’m thinking guys who seem sensitive?

I know there are sensitive cheating men out there, but I avoid them. Those are the ones who are clingy, messy, and honestly looking for wife #2. I was married to a sensitive type who wanted more of a wife than a partner. He wanted what I couldn’t give him, and we left on pretty good terms. He’s remarried to a kind wife and motherly type (SAHM), now living in California. She is a good step mother to our son (who is 19 and in college).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thots

All around us, thots hot to trot.

Yes. The trampy tramps are loud and proud on this thread.

[Anonymous]

The idea that all the OW on here were with dashing, handsome, and successful married men is laughable. 90% of married guys let themselves go or just were already unattractive. They look like Jeff Bezos or Kevin Hart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The idea that all the OW on here were with dashing, handsome, and successful married men is laughable. 90% of married guys let themselves go or just were already unattractive. They look like Jeff Bezos or Kevin Hart.

Those are pretty good looking men, IMO.

I’m not looking for a 25 year old.

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What’s your definition of down? Not as pretty? Not as rich? Not as “connected”? Sounds like he had that and decided to go for someone who was glad to see him.

People “affair down” by definition because anyone willing to cheat with a person they know is married is, at a minimum, morally bankrupt. And no, I have not been cheated on because my spouse and I have solid boundaries and respect each other.

I'm not that PP but I was cheated on and I promise you that you don't know if you have been cheated on or not. I would not sit so high on that horse, the fall could be painful.

+1, same here, completely blindsided. Would have guaranteed not my DH until it was. And when I disclosed to my best friend, her DH too. All men are capable of this.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. So a serious question for the women AP’s: are there any traits you see in men who will cheat on their spouses vs. divorcing? I guess are there certain traits/ careers/ mindset that you find common in those men? Again, if they are unhappy in a marriage, they can divorce and so just trying to see if there’s any way to identify those men in advance.

The common trait is that they are looking to be desired and they want excitement. I’ve been with men who regularly have sex with their wife, but they describe it as obligatory, marital sex. What they aren’t looking for is a wife, and what I don’t want to be is a wife. Most are happy with the kids and wife portion, but long for the carefree, wild sex and excitement.

Cheater here, this is exactly it. The marital only in one position and no more than once a week sex my wife is willing but doesn't want is my alternative. A fleeting moment of fun and passion again before I die is what this is about, nothing more. If my wife wanted to spice up the bedroom, I wouldnt affair. As my AP says, my wife could put her out of business