Why do some women choose to be a sidepiece?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one wants to be with them in public / settle down with them / have kids with them. So they take others’ scraps and then brag about how good they have it, lol

I’m very sorry you were cheated on and still carry this baggage with you. I suggest therapy to address the bitterness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one wants to be with them in public / settle down with them / have kids with them. So they take others’ scraps and then brag about how good they have it, lol

I’m very sorry you were cheated on and still carry this baggage with you. I suggest therapy to address the bitterness.

I’m sorry your AP has with his wife right now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one wants to be with them in public / settle down with them / have kids with them. So they take others’ scraps and then brag about how good they have it, lol

I’m very sorry you were cheated on and still carry this baggage with you. I suggest therapy to address the bitterness.

I’m sorry your AP has with his wife right now

I don’t have an AP, I am happily married. I stand by my suggestion of therapy. It’s no fun going through life bitter and mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one wants to be with them in public / settle down with them / have kids with them. So they take others’ scraps and then brag about how good they have it, lol

I’m very sorry you were cheated on and still carry this baggage with you. I suggest therapy to address the bitterness.

I’m sorry your AP has with his wife right now

I don’t have an AP, I am happily married. I stand by my suggestion of therapy. It’s no fun going through life bitter and mean.

It’s not bitter and mean to tell somebody the truth. Fact is there are certain girls that are side piece and men don’t want to be seen with them in public. As soon as they’re caught they dump them and find somebody they wanna to spend their time with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please try to be polite and stop calling calling names.

If you go through life not caring about other people's feelings, such as these OW have clearly stated they don't care about the wife or kids, they have stated it isn't their business to worry about their feelings, they just want D why should people care about their feelings in return.

Well if they don't care for other people's feelings no one really has to care about their feelings either. If the OW don't show respect for others, then we don't need to respect them.

You can't have it both ways. If you treat people like crap chances are people will treat you like crap in return.

No I can't take these women seriously and not because I am an insecure wife. It's because I could never hurt others like these women do. I would hate myself if I walked around so self absorbed that I knowingly did things to hurt others and cause pain to others.

We are all different, these women truly don't care who they hurt, they are proud of it. They can't see the benefit in being kind to strangers and that says a lot about them and their way of thinking. They will hurt a lot of people not just families throughout their lives. That is hard to respect.

For the poster who cheated and ended up with the man because he was in an abusive relationship I do think these stories are different. If a spouse is treated horribly and they meet someone loving and kind then I am often happy for them.

+1

This is spot on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He and I and my relationship to him as a "side piece":

I am 49; he is 46. We dated in our early twenties; the sex was hot and incredible. We were crazy for each other even though we drove each other nuts. I went off to grad school and life went on. He married and she became pregnant with twins. Within three years the marriage was sexless. I had moved back to DC (he never left), and yes, I became his "side piece" (still mind blowing sex) with his wife agreeing he could step out. I was busy with my career and frankly he was easy to be with and didn't require much from me. He was a FWB and it felt cozy and familiar to be with him. I met another man and married. I was faithful during our marriage. He was killed in a car crash six years after we married. FWB came back to me and he was a comfort. By then, he was divorced. We married two years later. I have no regrets being a "side piece." It kind of seemed fated.

Wow.

The situation described is a tad different than just a "side piece."

[Anonymous]

Because I wanted the sex but not the commitment. This made it easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He and I and my relationship to him as a "side piece":

I am 49; he is 46. We dated in our early twenties; the sex was hot and incredible. We were crazy for each other even though we drove each other nuts. I went off to grad school and life went on. He married and she became pregnant with twins. Within three years the marriage was sexless. I had moved back to DC (he never left), and yes, I became his "side piece" (still mind blowing sex) with his wife agreeing he could step out. I was busy with my career and frankly he was easy to be with and didn't require much from me. He was a FWB and it felt cozy and familiar to be with him. I met another man and married. I was faithful during our marriage. He was killed in a car crash six years after we married. FWB came back to me and he was a comfort. By then, he was divorced. We married two years later. I have no regrets being a "side piece." It kind of seemed fated.

Wow.

The situation described is a tad different than just a "side piece."

Yes this is different, if the marriage is open then it's open. If all parties know what is going on that is very different from an affair where one person is in the dark. Honesty gives people choices and that makes a massive difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one wants to be with them in public / settle down with them / have kids with them. So they take others’ scraps and then brag about how good they have it, lol

I’m very sorry you were cheated on and still carry this baggage with you. I suggest therapy to address the bitterness.

I’m sorry your AP has with his wife right now

I don’t have an AP, I am happily married. I stand by my suggestion of therapy. It’s no fun going through life bitter and mean.

It’s not bitter and mean to tell somebody the truth. Fact is there are certain girls that are side piece and men don’t want to be seen with them in public. As soon as they’re caught they dump them and find somebody they wanna to spend their time with.

Is your girdle too tight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He and I and my relationship to him as a "side piece":

I am 49; he is 46. We dated in our early twenties; the sex was hot and incredible. We were crazy for each other even though we drove each other nuts. I went off to grad school and life went on. He married and she became pregnant with twins. Within three years the marriage was sexless. I had moved back to DC (he never left), and yes, I became his "side piece" (still mind blowing sex) with his wife agreeing he could step out. I was busy with my career and frankly he was easy to be with and didn't require much from me. He was a FWB and it felt cozy and familiar to be with him. I met another man and married. I was faithful during our marriage. He was killed in a car crash six years after we married. FWB came back to me and he was a comfort. By then, he was divorced. We married two years later. I have no regrets being a "side piece." It kind of seemed fated.

Wow.

The situation described is a tad different than just a "side piece."

Yes this is different, if the marriage is open then it's open. If all parties know what is going on that is very different from an affair where one person is in the dark. Honesty gives people choices and that makes a massive difference.

Well, this also sounds like it was a genuine love scenario where they were pretty much meant to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one wants to be with them in public / settle down with them / have kids with them. So they take others’ scraps and then brag about how good they have it, lol

Funny, but I am going out for a lot of dinners in the high end restarants in DMV with married AP. I would not want to settle down with him for several reasons. As much as he is great at bed, interesting person to walk to, he is an alfa, high achiever, and a big jerk inside his family. I enjoy spending a limited time with him, but would never ever want to live with him permanently. As to the kids, each of us have kids and none of us want common kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He and I and my relationship to him as a "side piece":

I am 49; he is 46. We dated in our early twenties; the sex was hot and incredible. We were crazy for each other even though we drove each other nuts. I went off to grad school and life went on. He married and she became pregnant with twins. Within three years the marriage was sexless. I had moved back to DC (he never left), and yes, I became his "side piece" (still mind blowing sex) with his wife agreeing he could step out. I was busy with my career and frankly he was easy to be with and didn't require much from me. He was a FWB and it felt cozy and familiar to be with him. I met another man and married. I was faithful during our marriage. He was killed in a car crash six years after we married. FWB came back to me and he was a comfort. By then, he was divorced. We married two years later. I have no regrets being a "side piece." It kind of seemed fated.

Wow.

The situation described is a tad different than just a "side piece."

Every side piece story is different, you just don't know the details to every single of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It feels good to be desired. Someone is so into you that they are willing to risk it all. Excitement, lust, being chosen sexually over someone else.

All the good parts without any of the baggage.

Like love and commitment? Wow.

Can't you get this with someone who isn't a dirty cheater? Someone who also cares about you?

I did.

How do you really know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one wants to be with them in public / settle down with them / have kids with them. So they take others’ scraps and then brag about how good they have it, lol

Funny, but I am going out for a lot of dinners in the high end restarants in DMV with married AP. I would not want to settle down with him for several reasons. As much as he is great at bed, interesting person to walk to, he is an alfa, high achiever, and a big jerk inside his family. I enjoy spending a limited time with him, but would never ever want to live with him permanently. As to the kids, each of us have kids and none of us want common kids.

Did you graduate from high school?

I'm sure you guys enjoy deep, important conversations about the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He and I and my relationship to him as a "side piece":

I am 49; he is 46. We dated in our early twenties; the sex was hot and incredible. We were crazy for each other even though we drove each other nuts. I went off to grad school and life went on. He married and she became pregnant with twins. Within three years the marriage was sexless. I had moved back to DC (he never left), and yes, I became his "side piece" (still mind blowing sex) with his wife agreeing he could step out. I was busy with my career and frankly he was easy to be with and didn't require much from me. He was a FWB and it felt cozy and familiar to be with him. I met another man and married. I was faithful during our marriage. He was killed in a car crash six years after we married. FWB came back to me and he was a comfort. By then, he was divorced. We married two years later. I have no regrets being a "side piece." It kind of seemed fated.

Wow.

The situation described is a tad different than just a "side piece."

Yes this is different, if the marriage is open then it's open. If all parties know what is going on that is very different from an affair where one person is in the dark. Honesty gives people choices and that makes a massive difference.

Well, this also sounds like it was a genuine love scenario where they were pretty much meant to be.

+1. Very sweet.