When and why did your friends get divorced?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most likely the men got tired of a sexless marriage. I see more and more waiting until kids are off to college rear way they are not paying hold support with little to no custody or visitation.

I am guessing you do not have sex in your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Husband's hoarding gradually grew out of control. Wife couldn't live that way.

[Anonymous]

Couple 1: H was a physically and mentally abusive, alcoholic creep. He was arrested many times for violence against wife. Once kids were old enough to stand before a judge and say they didn’t want joint custody, wife initiated divorce.

Couple 2 were married at 22. Divorced at 23. She had an affair with a grad school classmate.

[Anonymous]

To the previous post about women 60+ afraid of being alone is a myth. The truth is, she don't want to be a nurse maid to an old man that she can't stand!

[Anonymous]

His wife had an affair but he also cheated in his previous marriage. So. Karma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the previous post about women 60+ afraid of being alone is a myth. The truth is, she don't want to be a nurse maid to an old man that she can't stand!

+1. Once women that age are independent, whether by divorce or by widowhood, they are calculating in their heads the benefits of marrying again and often women have less to gain at that age by marrying again. I don’t think it’s a widow/divorce thing.

These women are making conscious decisions on what they want. None of this cat lady stuff. That’s old thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most likely the men got tired of a sexless marriage. I see more and more waiting until kids are off to college rear way they are not paying hold support with little to no custody or visitation.

What? Men can get 50/50 if they want and if they are willing to make effort to keep their 50/50 (i.e. adjust work hours to accommodate kids schedules).

I think what you are referring to is a situation when dads don’t want to make compromises to keep the 50/50 and then complain that they have to pay more because other parent has kids more.

[Anonymous]

Well I must say this thread made me feel better. Have been sitting around all day feeling down in the dumps about all the holiday engagements (I'm single). Maybe I'm better off that way!

[Anonymous]

Husband had contempt for his wife pre-marriage. I predicted a divorce. Another couple I know who divorced, also, the husband stated he couldn’t stand his wife before they got married. I was shocked when they got engaged. Maybe her wealth was attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most likely the men got tired of a sexless marriage. I see more and more waiting until kids are off to college rear way they are not paying hold support with little to no custody or visitation.

There’s always someone who says this in every troubled relationship thread. I wonder if it’s the same man every time.

[Anonymous]

What does contempt mean in a marriage? examples? Isn't it the same as hate and disrespect?

[Anonymous]

My WOHM girlfriend was the primary breadwinner (and for most part she was the sole breadwinner). She disliked being married to her DH. She had an affair with a womanizer at work, believed that he would leave his wife and she divorced her DH. Later on she found that her AP was having affairs with 3 more women. She really managed to mess up her kids and break her family.

Another SAHM DW we knew was having an affair with a SAHD. She thought that the affair was love. Divorced her high earning DH who had no clue what went wrong. AP disappeared because no one wants to marry 40 yr old women with two kids. Kids are very messed up. DH who was cheated on, started dating shady women. He is in some trouble now.

A WOHM DW was having an affair with her DH's friend. Both married with kids. She got caught and she decided to divorce. She lost custody and has to pay alimony to her ex-DH. KIds are very messed up.

WOH DW was being abused my her DH. She was sick of being beaten. She divorced him. Now married to a nice guy and has a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are kidding yourselves if you think you can really know what's going on in somebody else's marriage. Most of us have enough trouble knowing what's going on in our own.

Well sometimes friends actually talk to each other and act as friends, you know.

[Anonymous]

I’d love to be in a *good* LTR. But I don’t see men as a worthwhile risk anymore. Certainly not for marriage. Single lady, if you do marry, get a pre nup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My WOHM girlfriend was the primary breadwinner (and for most part she was the sole breadwinner). She disliked being married to her DH. She had an affair with a womanizer at work, believed that he would leave his wife and she divorced her DH. Later on she found that her AP was having affairs with 3 more women. She really managed to mess up her kids and break her family.

Another SAHM DW we knew was having an affair with a SAHD. She thought that the affair was love. Divorced her high earning DH who had no clue what went wrong. AP disappeared because no one wants to marry 40 yr old women with two kids. Kids are very messed up. DH who was cheated on, started dating shady women. He is in some trouble now.

A WOHM DW was having an affair with her DH's friend. Both married with kids. She got caught and she decided to divorce. She lost custody and has to pay alimony to her ex-DH. KIds are very messed up.

WOH DW was being abused my her DH. She was sick of being beaten. She divorced him. Now married to a nice guy and has a kid.

How is it possible to have so many loser friends?