I just found out my boyfriend is super wealthy, and I don't know how to handle it
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Anonymous
No, so many who have BTDT and who speak from experience. |
Anonymous
Haha, I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot pole. That post is littered with red flags. When I was super naive and in my 20s, I wouldn't have picked up on all of the danger signs, but now? No effing way. Thank you, next. |
Anonymous
There are a lot of holes and red flags in tbr story |
Anonymous
YEP +1000 |
Anonymous
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OK, I'll play. I've been approached by one very wealthy man and another powerful but not blue blooded man. Neither were right for me, they were the pursuers and I was just not interested.
The very wealthy man laid it all out. If I had been interested, moving would have been required but he also specified the assets I would receive to offset my risk. It was an incredibly business-like discussion. I wasn't interested and although I found his pragmatic sensibility about relationships intriguing, I needed to want more than the money. I needed to want him, and I didn't. So it was an easy choice to walk away. It sounds like you have something that I didn't, which was a combination of being actually interested AND the man is wealthy. It doesn't surprise me that he laid out the facts of his situation directly. There's no easy way to tell someone about unusual financial circumstances and directly is perhaps the best way. But I wouldn't focus on that. I would focus on him as a person. If he is not the right man, no amount of money will make him be the right man. If he is, he deserves to be considered as a whole person. So my advice? Don't actually think about the money. Think about compatibility, shared values, lifestyle preferences, etc. You don't need to ask for the right gift or look a certain way. |
Anonymous
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I don’t understand why this is an issue. He’s the same person he was before you learned he was rich.
If you’re saving up for a Cartier watch then I imagine material possessions are important to you and maybe that’s why this seems like a big deal. But nonetheless...focus on the connection you have, and put everything else out of your mind. |
Anonymous
| LOL thanks for the laugh OP! Needed that tonight. |
Anonymous
That was honestly the weirdest detail. Who buys a Cartier watch??? Is it 1985 and Dynasty is on? |
Anonymous
| I think this is a troll? Or just a version of the plot from Crazy Rich Asians... |
Anonymous
| Should he renounce his thrown and no longer be prince of Zamunda? |
Anonymous
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“Wealthy” means nothing; it can all disappear overnight. Just carry on if you like him but don’t let his supposed wealth blur your vision. Wealthy can be fine, obviously. It can also mean overly privileged, expectations of being main decision maker, spoiled, snobby, etc.
- signed BTDT, divorced wealthy man and remarried someone in nonprofit |
Anonymous
Yeah, I think she outed herself as a troll with that comment. That’s just odd. |
Anonymous
| What happened to the OP....??! |
Anonymous
Yeah, this doesn’t sound like you are his girlfriend. Likely he has a number of women. Regardless of whether or not he is actually wealthy. I dated a man like this when I was newly divorced. I suspected he had women in many cities. I wasn’t emotionally invested and made him wear a condom, so I didn’t care. I broke it off with him because I went back to grad school and two weeks later, he posted on FB that he got married. He eloped with a woman in another East Coast city. |
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