Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents

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Anonymous wrote:I judge mothers who breastfeed any child over the age of two. I breastfeed exclusively and was breastfed, so you know I am coming from a pro-nursing position. But, honestly think nursing an older child is a very specific form of sexual abuse and emotionally harmful to the child. Watching children old enough to be potty trained yell and scream at their mother to “take off your shirt” (yes, I’ve watched this happen) and the mother proceeds to nurse on demand, is painful to watch. Babies need moms and need breast milk, but if your kid can eat a sandwich, you are putting your boob in their mouth for YOU, or them.

I'm breastfeeding an almost 4 y/o, and I've never judged anyone for feeding their kids - breast milk, formula, or both.
Outside blatant neglect or child abuse, I judge laziness or not going the extra mile For example, I heard things like I hate blueberries so I never buy blueberries, even if my kids like them.

That is for your needs, not the child's at this point.

Interesting! I breastfed my child twice a day until he was about 25 months old (so shortly after 2) when he quit on his own. What is the specific sexual abuse?

Agree with the first pp. extending breastfeeding is gross and weird and done solely to meet the emotional needs of the mom. If your child can eat food and also ask for your boob in a full sentence you’ve let it go on too long.

I judge people who let their young toddler watch videos on a cell phone or tablet 24/7.

+1 child is three and obsessed with peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and ice cream. She has no interest in breastfeeding at this point and no need for it. It’s a hang up of the mother at this point. Can’t imagine an almost four year old hanging off a boob, judging so so hard.

I would have a hard time with my child being obsessed with junk food. We don't really eat processed sugar or bread. The lady who cooks for us makes homemade ice cream with grass-fed milk sometimes, as a very special treat, but my kids never ask for junk food.
Could be a reason why we're all tall and thin.

https://fn.bmj.com/content/87/3/F193

LOL. I'm 5'10" and 125 lbs, my husband is 6'3" and 195 and our home is full of junk food. Get over yourself.

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“The lady who cooks for us”

I judge people who don’t cook for their families.

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Anonymous wrote:“The lady who cooks for us”

I judge people who don’t cook for their families.

X10000
Maybe if you spent less time breastfeeding your four year old you'd have time to cook!

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I don't judge for much other than clear safety issues or failure to discipline unkind or wild children. Some kids who are old enough to know (and be taught) better are practically feral: no sweetie, you never have to brush your hair since you don't like it--yes, sweetie, you can scream as loud as you want and as long as you want regardless of the impact on those around you etc. Again with the kids never being told no.

I'm probably judged for allowing my kids to eat junk food. I wouldn't have it in the house but DH loves it and insists on buying it. I gave up the battle of fighting him and them over it. They seem pretty good at self regulating, and at least won't see it as forbidden fruit but I'm envious of those with "clean" pantries.

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I judge parents who focus on their kids' coolness to the exclusion of academics, good manners etc. Usually the same parents who think it's hilarious when their kids use bad language at a young age, watch age-inappropriate movies and music videos. But I'm sure those parents judge me for being a goody goody!

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Anonymous wrote:Anti-vaxxers.
Parents who spank. I can forgive the cliche "I swatted my 2 year old's bottom when she ran out into the road" once-in-a-childhood thing, but people who regularly spank their children as a standard disciplinary tactic? Nope. It's just not right.

100 % agree.

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I do not send any of my children to preschool. Their first formal school experience is in fact kindergarten and I get a ton of questions over that decision. I judge parents that do not vaccinate their children. I also think it’s strange when parents hire out to teach their kids to ride a bike.... that’s just lazy parenting.

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People judge my parenting: Because I don't give my teens a car. It seems to be a given in my neighborhood that teens get their own car that they are allowed to bring with them to college. Not my kids. My kids even ride the school bus as seniors.

I judge: parents who put their toddlers on leashes. Especially because I seem to see it most when their is a 1:1 (or better) kid to adult ratio. Like 1 toddler on an outing with mom, dad, able-bodied grandparents, and a few aunts and uncles--and NO ONE can hold the kid's hand? I wouldn't judge as much if it was a single mom with 5 year old, triplet two year olds, and a newborn.

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Anonymous wrote:People judge my parenting: Because I don't give my teens a car. It seems to be a given in my neighborhood that teens get their own car that they are allowed to bring with them to college. Not my kids. My kids even ride the school bus as seniors.

I judge: parents who put their toddlers on leashes. Especially because I seem to see it most when their is a 1:1 (or better) kid to adult ratio. Like 1 toddler on an outing with mom, dad, able-bodied grandparents, and a few aunts and uncles--and NO ONE can hold the kid's hand? I wouldn't judge as much if it was a single mom with 5 year old, triplet two year olds, and a newborn.

You've never had a toddler who refused to hold your hand? Pulls away and runs off? Or flails to the ground in public if you attempt to restrain them? Lucky you. You should appreciate your easy peasy kids.

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Anonymous wrote:People judge my parenting: Because I don't give my teens a car. It seems to be a given in my neighborhood that teens get their own car that they are allowed to bring with them to college. Not my kids. My kids even ride the school bus as seniors.

I judge: parents who put their toddlers on leashes. Especially because I seem to see it most when their is a 1:1 (or better) kid to adult ratio. Like 1 toddler on an outing with mom, dad, able-bodied grandparents, and a few aunts and uncles--and NO ONE can hold the kid's hand? I wouldn't judge as much if it was a single mom with 5 year old, triplet two year olds, and a newborn.

Omg I judge you for judging this. If I had a runner I would put them in a leash in a hot second. Who cares what busybodies like you think, it's better than a kid getting hit by a car.

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Anonymous wrote:People judge my parenting: Because I don't give my teens a car. It seems to be a given in my neighborhood that teens get their own car that they are allowed to bring with them to college. Not my kids. My kids even ride the school bus as seniors.

I judge: parents who put their toddlers on leashes. Especially because I seem to see it most when their is a 1:1 (or better) kid to adult ratio. Like 1 toddler on an outing with mom, dad, able-bodied grandparents, and a few aunts and uncles--and NO ONE can hold the kid's hand? I wouldn't judge as much if it was a single mom with 5 year old, triplet two year olds, and a newborn.

It's weird that people who judge harnesses think holding hands is better than using a leash. Holding hands is even more constraining than a leash - when we use a harness, my kid can explore a bit and not have to be "attached" to me...but somehow it "looks" worse than holding hands so people judge. Yeah, sorry, I don't base my parenting choices off of the aesthetics of something.

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Anonymous wrote:People judge my parenting: Because I don't give my teens a car. It seems to be a given in my neighborhood that teens get their own car that they are allowed to bring with them to college. Not my kids. My kids even ride the school bus as seniors.

I judge: parents who put their toddlers on leashes. Especially because I seem to see it most when their is a 1:1 (or better) kid to adult ratio. Like 1 toddler on an outing with mom, dad, able-bodied grandparents, and a few aunts and uncles--and NO ONE can hold the kid's hand? I wouldn't judge as much if it was a single mom with 5 year old, triplet two year olds, and a newborn.

You've never had a toddler who refused to hold your hand? Pulls away and runs off? Or flails to the ground in public if you attempt to restrain them? Lucky you. You should appreciate your easy peasy kids.

No, I parented my kids. You are bigger than a two year old. You pick them up and carry them. Falls to the ground and "flails?" Pick them up, put them in the car and go home. Unless you are just too lazy and self absorbed that your desire to go out is more important to you and you'd rather treat your child like a dog.

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Anonymous wrote:People judge my parenting: Because I don't give my teens a car. It seems to be a given in my neighborhood that teens get their own car that they are allowed to bring with them to college. Not my kids. My kids even ride the school bus as seniors.

I judge: parents who put their toddlers on leashes. Especially because I seem to see it most when their is a 1:1 (or better) kid to adult ratio. Like 1 toddler on an outing with mom, dad, able-bodied grandparents, and a few aunts and uncles--and NO ONE can hold the kid's hand? I wouldn't judge as much if it was a single mom with 5 year old, triplet two year olds, and a newborn.

You've never had a toddler who refused to hold your hand? Pulls away and runs off? Or flails to the ground in public if you attempt to restrain them? Lucky you. You should appreciate your easy peasy kids.

No, I parented my kids. You are bigger than a two year old. You pick them up and carry them. Falls to the ground and "flails?" Pick them up, put them in the car and go home. Unless you are just too lazy and self absorbed that your desire to go out is more important to you and you'd rather treat your child like a dog.

DP. Well, you seem like a pretty awful parent.

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Anonymous wrote:People judge my parenting: Because I don't give my teens a car. It seems to be a given in my neighborhood that teens get their own car that they are allowed to bring with them to college. Not my kids. My kids even ride the school bus as seniors.

I judge: parents who put their toddlers on leashes. Especially because I seem to see it most when their is a 1:1 (or better) kid to adult ratio. Like 1 toddler on an outing with mom, dad, able-bodied grandparents, and a few aunts and uncles--and NO ONE can hold the kid's hand? I wouldn't judge as much if it was a single mom with 5 year old, triplet two year olds, and a newborn.

You've never had a toddler who refused to hold your hand? Pulls away and runs off? Or flails to the ground in public if you attempt to restrain them? Lucky you. You should appreciate your easy peasy kids.

No, I parented my kids. You are bigger than a two year old. You pick them up and carry them. Falls to the ground and "flails?" Pick them up, put them in the car and go home. Unless you are just too lazy and self absorbed that your desire to go out is more important to you and you'd rather treat your child like a dog.

Meh. Life happens. It's not always an option to just pack up and go home. Obviously, they are taught, and they learn eventually. Is it necessary to teach them at the airport when I'm juggling 2 preschoolers and bags by myself, trying to get to family across the country for holidays, funerals, etc? No.

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Anonymous wrote:People judge my parenting: Because I don't give my teens a car. It seems to be a given in my neighborhood that teens get their own car that they are allowed to bring with them to college. Not my kids. My kids even ride the school bus as seniors.

I judge: parents who put their toddlers on leashes. Especially because I seem to see it most when their is a 1:1 (or better) kid to adult ratio. Like 1 toddler on an outing with mom, dad, able-bodied grandparents, and a few aunts and uncles--and NO ONE can hold the kid's hand? I wouldn't judge as much if it was a single mom with 5 year old, triplet two year olds, and a newborn.

You've never had a toddler who refused to hold your hand? Pulls away and runs off? Or flails to the ground in public if you attempt to restrain them? Lucky you. You should appreciate your easy peasy kids.

No, I parented my kids. You are bigger than a two year old. You pick them up and carry them. Falls to the ground and "flails?" Pick them up, put them in the car and go home. Unless you are just too lazy and self absorbed that your desire to go out is more important to you and you'd rather treat your child like a dog.

I have mild cerebral palsy so I can’t run after my child or maintain balance with a flailing child well. My son luckily didn’t have issues with fleeing but I had a leash in my bag just in case. There are lots of people who have similar conditions and it’s not always easy to spot.