Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents

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I know I'm judged by my in-laws for my 5 year olds behavior. My son often loses his shit and throws fits when she comes over. He has always been really well behaved at school - we have never gotten a complaint about his behavior when he was at daycare/preschool or in his kindergarten class, but he will often fall apart and let all the bad behavior out when he comes home. I know I am judged for this when my mother in law is around to witness it.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to be really mindful about not being a judgemental asshat, because lord knows I've been on the receiving end (hi, I left his dad when he was 2.5). However, now that my kid is nearly an adult, there are some things where I am judgey as F**k.

E.g.:
Denial about and enabling of a parent's RAGING substance abuse problem...like to the point where you get arrested for a DUI or crash the car or get canned.

Shitty Disneyland Dadding. Holy crap, am I judging you.

Not ever, ever, ever talking to your kids about sex or consent or pleasure or boundaries. WTF, people. Seriously, WTF. Get it together. Start early.

Ditto race, fellow white folks. You are damn late to the party if you're addressing this in your kid's teens, or, oh, NEVER.

(drags imaginary cigarette)

ALSO? The binary gender paradigm is boring and oppressive and your gender reveal party is stupid best, deadly at worst (see news article re: explosion).


I have a lot more shade, but I have stuff to do today.

This post made my day! Thanks for the truth. And the funny!

thanks

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Anonymous wrote:I judge mothers who breastfeed any child over the age of two. I breastfeed exclusively and was breastfed, so you know I am coming from a pro-nursing position. But, honestly think nursing an older child is a very specific form of sexual abuse and emotionally harmful to the child. Watching children old enough to be potty trained yell and scream at their mother to “take off your shirt” (yes, I’ve watched this happen) and the mother proceeds to nurse on demand, is painful to watch. Babies need moms and need breast milk, but if your kid can eat a sandwich, you are putting your boob in their mouth for YOU, or them.

I'm breastfeeding an almost 4 y/o, and I've never judged anyone for feeding their kids - breast milk, formula, or both.
Outside blatant neglect or child abuse, I judge laziness or not going the extra mile For example, I heard things like I hate blueberries so I never buy blueberries, even if my kids like them.

Robin Arryn of the Vale. How interesting that there are people in real life that do that, and think it is fine. I judge you for using your child as some kind of physical and emotional substitute. Your kid is not dying of hunger and there is no other source of food for him.

Who cares? I am ok with a mother nursing a kid at 4, if the child wants it. I am assuming that the nursing is mostly for soothing the child and not for nutritional needs. Probably happening in the nighttime before the kid goes to sleep, more as a soothing ritual than an actual food need.

I am seeing a lot of young children who are hot messes and I think it mainly has to do with the insecurities that their moms have perpetuated. I wish more moms did that so that if they have kids who would do actually do better with soothing and feel more secure with such care, got what they needed. Everything that is done in this society regarding parenting runs counter to how human babies are taken care of around the world. Babies are not made to CIO, young children are not forced to sleep in a different room, babies are nursed on demand and children are nursed even as toddlers or young children if they want to as part of a ritual to calm them. Then we wonder why these kids are depressed, anxious and angry?

No, it is not for the child soothing. It is for mother's soothing herself and people judge parents who allow 4 year olds pacifiers and a bottle. This pp lives here, presumably, not in rural Ethiopia? This child is telling friends about drinking from the mommy, and lives here, not somewhere else. This kid lives in our society. No kid is depressed because they are not breastfed till five. I judge you for not recognizing the realities of our society and that this kid will go into kindergarten telling friends that he drinks mommy's' milk and will be made fun of. This thread is about judging, and this mom did not preface her statement with " I am from a culture that does this regularly."

Oh ok. You White women are dumping on other White women? Just like y'all do for Kate Middleton or Gwenth Paltrow? Ok, Carry on. Did not realize that it was a White on White bashing. Carry on.

Hello KM ocd pp. You keep living in your own KM bubble that is detached from the reality. Is it ok to bash AA women then? Nobody takes anything you say seriously, you should be aware that when you out yourself as KM op we know that you have been off your rocker for years.

What does KM mean?

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Kate Middleton.

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My family judges me because my 7 year old still wets the bed / wears a pull up. The pediatrician isn’t concerned though frankly I am. I routinely forget to brush my children’s hair and assume people judge me for that. I have no problem sending my children out to play in clothes with obvious stains or wear and tear and suspect some people judge me for that. We live in a small apartment and can’t easily reciprocate hosting - especially inviting other families for meals. I’m happy to host play dates or bring food to someone else’s house but am probably judged for that.

I judge parents who use cruel words or can’t control their anger. I also judge parents who overly protect their children - a friend of mine pulled her child out of soccer (he’s 6) because the coach told him to pass the ball and he didn’t want to share the ball and it made him mad. I definitely judged her in my mind when she told me that story.

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What I judge:
People who stick their heads in the sand and refuse to seek outside help for their kids when it’s clear they’re struggling with things like anxiety etc. You can only explain away so much and only so much is due to age. But when behavior and things become out of the range of developmentally appropriate, then at least seek consultation.

Why do you assume people aren’t seeking therapy/treatment/etc for their kids? I certainly wouldn’t tell you about my children’s private health concerns.