Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents

[Anonymous]

My kid has unlimited screen time when we are at home. He can watch when eating, before school, whatever.

Conversely when we are out I never give him a screen (except air travel when everyone is on a screen). Despite my lax home rules, I can’t stand when kids whine for screens in restaurants and cars.

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Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

I know MANY women who lost weight breastfeeding, including me. I lost 40 lbs in 6 weeks and an additional 16 in 3 months. It was the best diet I have ever had!

If only anecdota was data.

Well technically all data is personal and anecdotal, until it’s aggregated and analyzed. Which is why statistics are simply a matter of using numbers to make whatever argument you want. The valuable answers always start with the tough questions.

I also lost weight breastfeeding. I recognize that there are also women who gain weight, or have difficulty dropping weight when breastfeeding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read the whole post, but I judge juice in baby bottles.

Why?

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Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

I know MANY women who lost weight breastfeeding, including me. I lost 40 lbs in 6 weeks and an additional 16 in 3 months. It was the best diet I have ever had!

If only anecdota was data.

Well technically all data is personal and anecdotal, until it’s aggregated and analyzed. Which is why statistics are simply a matter of using numbers to make whatever argument you want. The valuable answers always start with the tough questions.

I also lost weight breastfeeding. I recognize that there are also women who gain weight, or have difficulty dropping weight when breastfeeding.

You are insufferable.

[Anonymous]

We appealed for AAP and won. I’m sure people judged me. The school was so ridiculously easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to be really mindful about not being a judgemental asshat, because lord knows I've been on the receiving end (hi, I left his dad when he was 2.5). However, now that my kid is nearly an adult, there are some things where I am judgey as F**k.

E.g.:
Denial about and enabling of a parent's RAGING substance abuse problem...like to the point where you get arrested for a DUI or crash the car or get canned.

Shitty Disneyland Dadding. Holy crap, am I judging you.

Not ever, ever, ever talking to your kids about sex or consent or pleasure or boundaries. WTF, people. Seriously, WTF. Get it together. Start early.

Ditto race, fellow white folks. You are damn late to the party if you're addressing this in your kid's teens, or, oh, NEVER.

(drags imaginary cigarette)

ALSO? The binary gender paradigm is boring and oppressive and your gender reveal party is stupid best, deadly at worst (see news article re: explosion).


I have a lot more shade, but I have stuff to do today.

This post made my day! Thanks for the truth. And the funny!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read the whole post, but I judge juice in baby bottles.

Why?

NP babies do not need juice. It's pure sugar and horrible for developing teeth.

[Anonymous]

I am judged because I did not flip out when I was told my 17 year old, senior was having sex with his girlfriend. My husband and I were already aware, and he's had access to condoms since he was in 8th grade. I'm also not taking away his phone or monitoring his whereabouts 24/7. He's a good person, busy with work, school, and sports. He's kind and the relationship is consensual.

Parenting is hard, and I try not to judge your journey. However, I believe life would be easier by sleep training, not freaking out about small things like cupcakes at birthday parties, sweets at holidays, the occasional white lie by a child (especially when backed into a corner), a B in a class, etc. Set guidelines/expectations, but only be super firm about the things that really matter. Even then, be prepared for and give them room to make mistakes, and let them know you will be there to help them through it.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure I am judged when I pick up my three year old from day care, he doesn't want to leave, so I pick him up and he proceeds to whack me in the face screaming and crying and kicking all the way down the hallway with parents, teachers, and Daycare directors watching.

Or when we are in a restaurant and he isn't on the ideal behavior and I don't get him out of there quick enough because I'm trying to finish my food and get the check paid.

I judge parents who let their toddlers run in the street without holding their hands- but actually, I try not to judge it- I just struggle to understand it- can't comprehend it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure I am judged when I pick up my three year old from day care, he doesn't want to leave, so I pick him up and he proceeds to whack me in the face screaming and crying and kicking all the way down the hallway with parents, teachers, and Daycare directors watching.

Or when we are in a restaurant and he isn't on the ideal behavior and I don't get him out of there quick enough because I'm trying to finish my food and get the check paid.

I judge parents who let their toddlers run in the street without holding their hands- but actually, I try not to judge it- I just struggle to understand it- can't comprehend it.

Uh.... I judge parents like you. You raised a kid who thinks it's ok to hit his mom, and not just once but all the time? Tf is wrong with you? Also you need to take him out of the restaurant, calm him, and then bring him back in, or have DH do it while you stay in. But your use of 'not the ideal behavior' sounds like you don't even feel like he's that in the wrong, when he's actually ruining an entire restaurant's worth of patrons' meals because he is so loud and bratty.

[Anonymous]

I Jude when every sentence out of a mom’s mouth is either preceded with or ended with “My husband” this or that ... it makes women look so weak.

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Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

I know MANY women who lost weight breastfeeding, including me. I lost 40 lbs in 6 weeks and an additional 16 in 3 months. It was the best diet I have ever had!

If only anecdota was data.

Well technically all data is personal and anecdotal, until it’s aggregated and analyzed. Which is why statistics are simply a matter of using numbers to make whatever argument you want. The valuable answers always start with the tough questions.

I also lost weight breastfeeding. I recognize that there are also women who gain weight, or have difficulty dropping weight when breastfeeding.

You are insufferable.

+1 she doesn’t even make sense anymore.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty sure I am judged when I pick up my three year old from day care, he doesn't want to leave, so I pick him up and he proceeds to whack me in the face screaming and crying and kicking all the way down the hallway with parents, teachers, and Daycare directors watching.

Or when we are in a restaurant and he isn't on the ideal behavior and I don't get him out of there quick enough because I'm trying to finish my food and get the check paid.

I judge parents who let their toddlers run in the street without holding their hands- but actually, I try not to judge it- I just struggle to understand it- can't comprehend it.

Uh.... I judge parents like you. You raised a kid who thinks it's ok to hit his mom, and not just once but all the time? Tf is wrong with you? Also you need to take him out of the restaurant, calm him, and then bring him back in, or have DH do it while you stay in. But your use of 'not the ideal behavior' sounds like you don't even feel like he's that in the wrong, when he's actually ruining an entire restaurant's worth of patrons' meals because he is so loud and bratty.

**I know you judge me. Hence why I listed those items as something people judge me for. You're really not there when these instances occur, and don't know anything about me or my child, aside from what I've written, so it really doesn't matter to me what you think. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses in parenting and I'm comfortable with my parenting choices.

[Anonymous]

I let my 3DC decide in seventh grade if each wants to continue going to church, Sunday School and get confirmed.

All three (oldest is in college) have decided to quit all and only one - oldest - has been confirmed. We're mainline Protestant at a large church with an equally large, active youth group.


Hypocrite alert: I do judge the popular, partying teenagers involved in youth group AND their parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

I know MANY women who lost weight breastfeeding, including me. I lost 40 lbs in 6 weeks and an additional 16 in 3 months. It was the best diet I have ever had!

If only anecdota was data.

Well technically all data is personal and anecdotal, until it’s aggregated and analyzed. Which is why statistics are simply a matter of using numbers to make whatever argument you want. The valuable answers always start with the tough questions.

I also lost weight breastfeeding. I recognize that there are also women who gain weight, or have difficulty dropping weight when breastfeeding.

You are insufferable.

+1 she doesn’t even make sense anymore.[/quot


“She”????? you do realize these were responses from many different people