Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents

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Anonymous wrote:I am judged for being a homeschooler. We currently live in Alaska and homeschooling in fairly popular and accepted. Mostly the judging is from other homeschool parents because I teach traditionally. We are not religious, we get dressed appropriately every morning, and I teach published curriculum from 9am-3:30pm, M-F. My 3rd grader can diagram sentences and find a fraction of a set.

I judge parents for not vaccinating, not following car safety laws, and tourists treating young children poorly on their AK cruises.

Ooo! I came here to say this one, too. I am also a homeschooler and know that some people definitely judge me for it (but I don't live in Alaska). Like your child, my children really learn grammar, spelling, geography, and countless other things that are pushed aside now in regular schools. They are also part of a very active co-op, play team sports, and do other community activities. Honestly, I genuinely love homeschooling . We don't go 9-330, more like 8-12 with a little homework after lunch but we also follow standardized curriculum for each subject.

We are a European family and I have to say that sometimes I really struggle with the snack culture I see so prevalent among American families. Particularly when it is clear that the child struggles with overeating, I find myself wondering why the parents don't just create more structured meals to cut down on the overeating. I try to remember that I know nothing of any medical conditions or education of anyone involved to try and stop judging.

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Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

I know MANY women who lost weight breastfeeding, including me. I lost 40 lbs in 6 weeks and an additional 16 in 3 months. It was the best diet I have ever had!

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Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

I know MANY women who lost weight breastfeeding, including me. I lost 40 lbs in 6 weeks and an additional 16 in 3 months. It was the best diet I have ever had!

If only anecdota was data.

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I am sure I am judged for being loud and speaking my mind. Probably lots of other stuff.

I judge people who don't like dogs (or any animal really). I (feel bad about this, but) do judge overweight people who openly consume fast food and sweets, etc.

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I rarely offer my kids fruits and vegetables. Long story, but suffice it to say that if people knew that story they probably wouldn’t judge.

I judge other parents for parenting tactics that have been shown as ineffective, like time-outs. I do believe that ultimately as long as you don’t abuse or neglect your kids they’ll ultimately be okay.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to be really mindful about not being a judgemental asshat, because lord knows I've been on the receiving end (hi, I left his dad when he was 2.5). However, now that my kid is nearly an adult, there are some things where I am judgey as F**k.

E.g.:
Denial about and enabling of a parent's RAGING substance abuse problem...like to the point where you get arrested for a DUI or crash the car or get canned.

Shitty Disneyland Dadding. Holy crap, am I judging you.

Not ever, ever, ever talking to your kids about sex or consent or pleasure or boundaries. WTF, people. Seriously, WTF. Get it together. Start early.

Ditto race, fellow white folks. You are damn late to the party if you're addressing this in your kid's teens, or, oh, NEVER.

(drags imaginary cigarette)

ALSO? The binary gender paradigm is boring and oppressive and your gender reveal party is stupid best, deadly at worst (see news article re: explosion).

I have a lot more shade, but I have stuff to do today.

I just love all of this.

(Except I do judge parents who smoke, not sure if the cigarette drag was for rhetorical effect or if you actually smoke). A+ post.

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Anonymous wrote:Single mom here.

I judge married women who complain about their lazy husbands to me in one breath then praise them in the next, and then tell me things like, “You’ll find somebody.”

I’m not looking for another adult child.

I’m probably judged for being a single mom.

This!

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My grandmother always commented if she saw a woman carrying shopping bags and baby and the man she was with had free hands

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Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

I know MANY women who lost weight breastfeeding, including me. I lost 40 lbs in 6 weeks and an additional 16 in 3 months. It was the best diet I have ever had!

I on the other hand held on to fifteen pounds till I weaned my child at two years to stfu.

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I cook a hot breakfast, lunch and dinner most days for my children. They like variety and they do not like to eat leftovers. DH is cool with leftovers. I feel that I am judged for this and people think I am too indulgent.

I judge people for not exposing their children to different cuisines.

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I judge people who get into pointless power struggles with their kids, or have rules for petty things. Like the mom at the library who won't let her kid check out a Christmas book at Halloween. Who cares, Mom, let the kid read what he wants.

People would judge me because I am not anal about food or restricting sweets or whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:Based on DCUM, I am judged for feeding my kids formula, working, sending my kids to private school, going on girls' weekends, and not treating my kids like they're the center of the universe.

I judge people who let their kids watch screens when they could be talking to them (on short car rides, out at a meal, etc.), people who let their kids use pacifiers for way too long and while doing stuff (it's not really "pacifying" if your kid has it stuck in their mouth while going down the slide), lazy parents, and especially anti-vaxxers.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:I judge people who get into pointless power struggles with their kids, or have rules for petty things. Like the mom at the library who won't let her kid check out a Christmas book at Halloween. Who cares, Mom, let the kid read what he wants.

People would judge me because I am not anal about food or restricting sweets or whatever.

+1. My personal parenting ethos is that I always have a good reason for a rule or decision, I don't just say no to say no.

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Anonymous wrote:I judge moms who find a million reasons not to breast feed and then complain about not losing weight and the “baby fat”. It ‘s the fat your body stored to nourish your kid. Since this thread has been debating the benefits of breastfeeding, here’s my number 1 tip, stolen from my Life Cycles/childhood nutrition professor -Breastfeed for the sake of vanity!!! And before everyone chimes in to say how painful and hard breastfeeding is - It is! And so is being fit!

Wow I am seriously impressed you managed to cram so many terrible opinions into one post. That takes real talent!

This is another myth. Breastfeeding doesn’t help most women lose weight. In fact, some women have a harder time losing weight when they are breastfeeding.

I know MANY women who lost weight breastfeeding, including me. I lost 40 lbs in 6 weeks and an additional 16 in 3 months. It was the best diet I have ever had!

I lost tons of weight while breastfeeding too! It was the best! My DS also rarely gets sick, he was sick one day his first year of daycare. I loved breastfeeding but I don't judge parents for not. I judge parents who let their kids watch screens while eating out in restaurants and parents who let their kids watch material that is way too mature for them. Also parents who bring their kid to storytime or other classes and then just let them run around...either sit and do the activity with the instructor or don't come at all

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I haven’t read the whole post, but I judge juice in baby bottles.