I have a sugar daddy. AMA

[Anonymous]

The problem is not the prostitution, the problem is that your wife doesn’t know. If you told her and she was okay with it, you could feel okay about it as long as you take reasonable steps to ensure the sex workers you hire aren’t being trafficked and aren’t working out of desperation.

[Anonymous]

With our modern culture, women like op are allowed to show their true nature

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a sugar daddy. Did you find him on the website for that sort of thing?

Monthly arrangement? How much?

How does he provide the money? I've always found that was the uncomfortable bit.

I’m much more interested in an AMA with you!

Can you elaborate how you provide support to the girls you date?
How old are you? How old are they? Are you exclusive or DADT?
How do you arrange the money? Do you pay their rent directly?
Are you married?

So many questions!

In my circle of friends who are entrepreneurs (all in 40s and 50s), I'd say about half are into "sugaring." Some of them have someone local and long-term, like one friend who pays for his SB's (sugarbaby's) apartment and I imagine they go out to dinner and shopping. Her apartment is near his office, not by coincidence. It's easy to come up with excuses to be working late I guess.

I do PPM (pay per meet) where you pay each time you meet. (Feel free to call it prostitution, I don't care.) In my case, I only meet SBs when I'm traveling, so there is no opportunity to set up anything long-term anyway and that's because I don't do any of this where I live. We usually meet up for a drink and see if there's a click and continue on or not. I don't mind if we don't continue -- my libido has gone down as I age anyway, and I just enjoy meeting new people. I'll pay just for meeting me (they usually don't expect it at that stage; and then more if we continue).

One thing I'm super-careful about is as an SD (sugardaddy) you can be a target for extortion. They know you have money, and typically a high-profile job, so why not threaten to reveal all that unless you pay up? For that reason, I have my profile set up so that it doesn't appear in searches and no random SBs can contact me. Instead, only those I contact can even see it. Then, I use photos that I've already checked on Google Image Search that it isn't able to link to me, and usually the photos have my face partially obscured. Normally the people who fall prey to this are cases where the scammer contacts them first, and if you have your marital status (married, of course!) listed in your profile. I even use a throwaway email, and fake name and address on the website when paying, so that if they ever had a data breach, I'm not at risk. After that affair site (I'll avoid writing the name so no one gets ads for it) hack that exposed all the names/emails of customers to the world, I'm not taking any risks like that. I also pay for the subscription using a prepaid credit card.

This all seems so unnecessarily complicated.

I assume the guy is a hideous and/or obese nerd who can’t meet people without paying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you lost your dignity?

Haha. I’ve known him for a decade and slept with him on and off over the years - he’s not a random guy. I’ll tell you this: it sure beats going out with some bearded dude I met on Tinder who expects to split the check and sleep together right away, only to ghost me after three weeks. It also beats the hell out of busting my ass to make money on top of going to grad school. It works for me.

You can rationalize your choices all you want but you clearly have low self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a sugar daddy. Did you find him on the website for that sort of thing?

Monthly arrangement? How much?

How does he provide the money? I've always found that was the uncomfortable bit.

I’m much more interested in an AMA with you!

Can you elaborate how you provide support to the girls you date?
How old are you? How old are they? Are you exclusive or DADT?
How do you arrange the money? Do you pay their rent directly?
Are you married?

So many questions!

In my circle of friends who are entrepreneurs (all in 40s and 50s), I'd say about half are into "sugaring." Some of them have someone local and long-term, like one friend who pays for his SB's (sugarbaby's) apartment and I imagine they go out to dinner and shopping. Her apartment is near his office, not by coincidence. It's easy to come up with excuses to be working late I guess.

I do PPM (pay per meet) where you pay each time you meet. (Feel free to call it prostitution, I don't care.) In my case, I only meet SBs when I'm traveling, so there is no opportunity to set up anything long-term anyway and that's because I don't do any of this where I live. We usually meet up for a drink and see if there's a click and continue on or not. I don't mind if we don't continue -- my libido has gone down as I age anyway, and I just enjoy meeting new people. I'll pay just for meeting me (they usually don't expect it at that stage; and then more if we continue).

One thing I'm super-careful about is as an SD (sugardaddy) you can be a target for extortion. They know you have money, and typically a high-profile job, so why not threaten to reveal all that unless you pay up? For that reason, I have my profile set up so that it doesn't appear in searches and no random SBs can contact me. Instead, only those I contact can even see it. Then, I use photos that I've already checked on Google Image Search that it isn't able to link to me, and usually the photos have my face partially obscured. Normally the people who fall prey to this are cases where the scammer contacts them first, and if you have your marital status (married, of course!) listed in your profile. I even use a throwaway email, and fake name and address on the website when paying, so that if they ever had a data breach, I'm not at risk. After that affair site (I'll avoid writing the name so no one gets ads for it) hack that exposed all the names/emails of customers to the world, I'm not taking any risks like that. I also pay for the subscription using a prepaid credit card.

This all seems so unnecessarily complicated.

+1. Why don’t you and your friends just meet women out in the real world? Seems like it would be less expensive and less work.

I don’t understand the SB thing, it seems like such a waste of money. If you are rich enough to afford one, you’re rich enough to attract a few women at a bar.

If you can be a sugardaddy, then money is not the issue. It's time. Go to some random bar, hope to meet a woman who meets your taste, is eligible, ready to go home that night, etc? There's a reason people use Tinder now instead of going to bars. This just takes it to another level.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you lost your dignity?

Haha. I’ve known him for a decade and slept with him on and off over the years - he’s not a random guy. I’ll tell you this: it sure beats going out with some bearded dude I met on Tinder who expects to split the check and sleep together right away, only to ghost me after three weeks. It also beats the hell out of busting my ass to make money on top of going to grad school. It works for me.

You can rationalize your choices all you want but you clearly have low self-esteem.

Whatever you say

[Anonymous]

Op, you literally are a ho

That's how it works.. you get thousands of dollars and we get to say since you sell sex, you are a prostitute...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you literally are a ho

That's how it works.. you get thousands of dollars and we get to say since you sell sex, you are a prostitute...

If this is being a hoe, I’ll take it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you literally are a ho

That's how it works.. you get thousands of dollars and we get to say since you sell sex, you are a prostitute...

Meanwhile we see posts in other threads about women looking for men but he has to have a good job and be a good provider, etc. Wonder why they look for that? What are they offering in return?

[Anonymous]

" Meanwhile we see posts in other threads about women looking for men but he has to have a good job and be a good provider, etc. What are they offering in return? "

Anchor babies.

[Anonymous]

Do you like anal? Bbbj? Cim? Do you rim him? Anyone other nasty or risky behavior besides being a skank wh0re?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you lost your dignity?

Haha. I’ve known him for a decade and slept with him on and off over the years - he’s not a random guy. I’ll tell you this: it sure beats going out with some bearded dude I met on Tinder who expects to split the check and sleep together right away, only to ghost me after three weeks. It also beats the hell out of busting my ass to make money on top of going to grad school. It works for me.

You can rationalize your choices all you want but you clearly have low self-esteem.

I don’t think it’s low self esteem. I think it’s having given up. OP has likely had such bad experiences with men that this setup seems like a better option. What she doesn’t realize is that she will get hurt. She is also wasting time that should be spent looking for a mate who will want something serious with her.

OP - start going out with guys who aren’t the typical Tinder guy who splits the bill and expects sex right away. Or don’t have sex. Raise your standards. There is nothing wrong with what you want (not splitting the check, not rushing into sex) and you can find that if you look in the right places. You can also find someone who makes a lot of money or eventually will and wants to provide for you. Really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you literally are a ho

That's how it works.. you get thousands of dollars and we get to say since you sell sex, you are a prostitute...

But is this any worse than you’re typical desperate 27 year old who goes on Tinder dates and has sex with the hope the man will want something from her besides sex? Is one really worse? Both are examples of someone being used. Except in the tinder situation only the woman is being used. In this arrangement both are being used. Arguably this is a better deal for OP.

BUT - OP needs to stop the Tinder BS and meet normal men. They are out there. They just aren’t the frat bros or whatever type of man is cool on Tinder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a sugar daddy. Did you find him on the website for that sort of thing?

Monthly arrangement? How much?

How does he provide the money? I've always found that was the uncomfortable bit.

I’m much more interested in an AMA with you!

Can you elaborate how you provide support to the girls you date?
How old are you? How old are they? Are you exclusive or DADT?
How do you arrange the money? Do you pay their rent directly?
Are you married?

So many questions!

In my circle of friends who are entrepreneurs (all in 40s and 50s), I'd say about half are into "sugaring." Some of them have someone local and long-term, like one friend who pays for his SB's (sugarbaby's) apartment and I imagine they go out to dinner and shopping. Her apartment is near his office, not by coincidence. It's easy to come up with excuses to be working late I guess.

I do PPM (pay per meet) where you pay each time you meet. (Feel free to call it prostitution, I don't care.) In my case, I only meet SBs when I'm traveling, so there is no opportunity to set up anything long-term anyway and that's because I don't do any of this where I live. We usually meet up for a drink and see if there's a click and continue on or not. I don't mind if we don't continue -- my libido has gone down as I age anyway, and I just enjoy meeting new people. I'll pay just for meeting me (they usually don't expect it at that stage; and then more if we continue).

One thing I'm super-careful about is as an SD (sugardaddy) you can be a target for extortion. They know you have money, and typically a high-profile job, so why not threaten to reveal all that unless you pay up? For that reason, I have my profile set up so that it doesn't appear in searches and no random SBs can contact me. Instead, only those I contact can even see it. Then, I use photos that I've already checked on Google Image Search that it isn't able to link to me, and usually the photos have my face partially obscured. Normally the people who fall prey to this are cases where the scammer contacts them first, and if you have your marital status (married, of course!) listed in your profile. I even use a throwaway email, and fake name and address on the website when paying, so that if they ever had a data breach, I'm not at risk. After that affair site (I'll avoid writing the name so no one gets ads for it) hack that exposed all the names/emails of customers to the world, I'm not taking any risks like that. I also pay for the subscription using a prepaid credit card.

This all seems so unnecessarily complicated.

+1. Why don’t you and your friends just meet women out in the real world? Seems like it would be less expensive and less work.

I don’t understand the SB thing, it seems like such a waste of money. If you are rich enough to afford one, you’re rich enough to attract a few women at a bar.

If you can be a sugardaddy, then money is not the issue. It's time. Go to some random bar, hope to meet a woman who meets your taste, is eligible, ready to go home that night, etc? There's a reason people use Tinder now instead of going to bars. This just takes it to another level.

Tinder makes it even more ridiculous to have a sugar baby. Mention your salary in your profile, and as long as you don’t look completely disgusting, you’ll have your pick of women. You can even have a different one every night of the week.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

He enjoys the kind of taboo nature of the arrangement,

He's not married. Neither are you. What's taboo about it? You're basically a really expensive girlfriend. I frankly don't see the point of it from his end, unless he's physically repulsive or super-short and thus unable to get dates normally.

He’s very handsome, but over the dating “scene,” especially as the women he meets all want to get married, like, immediately. He makes a lot of money and wanted to help out.

Err... What? He can't find another discrete woman? I understand this sugar baby relationship is fairly common. He couldn't find someone else to provide a GFE on demand?

Still think OP is a troll or has no idea what's happening.